what would j00 do?

[5lab]

right. not wanting to turn this forum into a teen angst spot (partly because i am neither a teen, nor in angst), i am wondering what you would do in this situation. im not asking advice - i know what im going to do - im just curious as to what other people would do...

been seeing a girl for about 3 or 4 weeks - not bf/gf but seeing a lot of each other and being very couply. unusually for me i feel some kind of 'sparkle' when im around her - ive only felt this before with a couple of other girls (neither of whome i was lucky enough to date). The girl in question split from a long term (>3 years) boyfriend not too long (<3 months) ago, because he's moving away (or something, not too sure). Anyways, shes told me she doesnt want to see anyone right now, cos she's very busy (which she is, got tonnes of cw on) and because she's not as over her x as she would like. I accept these are the reasons she doesnt want to see me, rather than just giving me a cold shoulder cos she doesnt fancy me or whatever. Now the way i see it im left with a few options. bare in mind that i dont normally have much problem pulling girls, or going out with girls for a few weeks, but i dont think i have ever been in love. also, i'm open to a relationship

1. just be a friend to her, live my life normally otherwise, date other girls and see what happens with them.
2. be a friend to her, date other people but hope for the best, and if she changes her mind then go with her
3. be a friend to her, but dont see other people and hope she changes her mind


or maybe something else..as i said im pretty sure what im gonna do but what would joo do?

Hugh

(ps yeah i know wwjd is a hippy christian thing)

[eldren]

3. Certainly.

[Bindibadgi]

3 dude, just be around a lot and she'll come round. Perhaps tell her how u feel but you dont want to pressure her and youll wait for a while till she comes round etc

[Bunjiweb]

Dont go with 3 and you have something wrong with you!

Think of it this way.... You like her right? So if you continue going out and dating/sleeping with other girls whats this one gunna think? When *you* think the time is right she might then turn round and say "no i've seen how many women you've been with bla bla bla".

If you really think your in love with her then stay single for her, hold out and she will slowley come round. As Bindi said, feel free to tell her how you feel but dont pressure her.

Ben

[nichomach]

3. Defrinitely, but be prepared for it to take a while to work.

[Big RICHARD]

3. But pressurise her into having seX0r with you!


(I'm just kidding btw!)

[Steve]

OK, I spent a LONG time doing 3 and it nearly wrecked me.

I'd do it again though, even it wasn't worth it previously.

[3Dfx]

what would j00 do?

Why do people talk gay on the internet?

[3Dfx]

2: but dont tell her about them¬!!

[blockers]

Dont go with 3 and you have something wrong with you!

Think of it this way.... You like her right? So if you continue going out and dating/sleeping with other girls whats this one gunna think? When *you* think the time is right she might then turn round and say "no i've seen how many women you've been with bla bla bla".

If you really think your in love with her then stay single for her, hold out and she will slowley come round. As Bindi said, feel free to tell her how you feel but dont pressure her.

Ben

That is what number 3 is saying isnt it?

Will

[PriestJPN]

3, but remember people need space; even from best friends...

[5lab]

Originally posted by 3Dfx
Why do people talk gay on the internet?

wwjd is (afaik, dont do the church thing so correct me if im wrong) something that christians have on bracelets etc. its meant to aid their desisionmaking so they do the right thing - like they think 'what would jesus do' and do that. i coined it for this cos what other people would do might affect my desision., geddit??

option 3 was the one i was going to take anywyas, you lot have just confirmed my thoughts. the only possible problem i see with this is it is the option that will leave me most open to getting hurt. but i guess thats just the way life is.

[Craig]

I went for #3 with my current girlfriend, it took her about 1 week for her to come to her senses, we have now been going out for nearly 10 months So id say go with #3! But its always your choice, go with what feels right!

Cr4iG

[5cupa]

well to start with I would stop using the word 'j00' surely thats racalist towards jews

i would go with number one, others wise u will end up being all sad and miserable and jelous incase she gets back with her ex or then meets someone else. she might just click into place and it works out for u, but dont put her up on a shelf and worship her. plenty or girls to enjoy whilst she makes up her mind. and if u dont see anyone else she may think that no-one wants u because you have worts or something

goodluck

[petrefax]

looks like you've made your choice already - my net access at work has been blocked otherwise would've seen this earlier

all the same, i'd have said no.3 too

good luck to you fella - hope it all works out well for you!!