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matty-hodgson
oh i will!
she'll be stood there with an (american named) softball.. with perfect aim!
(a softball from baseball for those who don't know)
how does that differ from a softball from softball?
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Originally Posted by
SiM
let your man-whore mate loose... :rockon2:
actually on the floor in stitches!
i just pictured him caged up in the corner of my room..
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MadduckUK
how does that differ from a softball from softball?
is there a game called softball?
a softball from baseball is solid and quite big..
just incase you thought i meant a small sponge ball :P
as if i'd be that lucky!
should probably have just went with the cricket ball :P
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SiM
and she will walk away with two soft balls
yes, while i lay in my own blood.. screaming.
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softball is indeed a game. The ball is much bigger than a baseball from memory.
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Originally Posted by
staffsMike
softball is indeed a game. The ball is much bigger than a baseball from memory.
i'm maybe thinking of the wrong sport..
i remember playing it at school, large and solid ball.. and you use a baseball style bat?
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Softball is underarm serving I think.
Baseball is overarm.. this is so far off topic lol
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I'll pull it back on topic :)
Tell her that you are gay... She might dig that, some girls do... Then make out with your man-whore friend and try to get her into a threesome :p
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Originally Posted by
SiM
try to get her into a threesome :)
The bad kind! lol
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Originally Posted by
matty-hodgson
i'm maybe thinking of the wrong sport..
i remember playing it at school, large and solid ball.. and you use a baseball style bat?
rounders?
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Originally Posted by
SiM
I'll pull it back on topic :)
Tell her that you are gay... She might dig that, some girls do... Then make out with your man-whore friend and try to get her into a threesome :p
tbh.. i don't think that'll get me anywhere, 'cause then i'm lying again.. and what good is a gay guy to a girl?
and what use is a threesome with 2 guys?!
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Originally Posted by
staffsMike
The bad kind! lol
Well he is not in good enough terms with her to get her into the good kind
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Originally Posted by
MadduckUK
rounders?
no, that's a tennis ball..
what a game that is!
it should really be our national sport, whoever chose football has some form of disability..
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Originally Posted by
matty-hodgson
tbh.. i don't think that'll get me anywhere, 'cause then i'm lying again.. and what good is a gay guy to a girl?
and what use is a threesome with 2 guys?!
It will get her to like you again... after the threesome, tell her that she straightened you and then get back with her :)
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Lying is the only way you can fix this... she already knows the truth... well anyway good luck, I have run out of silly ideas :)
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SiM
It will get her to like you again... after the threesome, tell her that she straightened you and then get back with her :)
i love this place!
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Originally Posted by
SiM
Lying is the only way you can fix this... she already knows the truth... well anyway good luck, I have run out of silly ideas :)
i'm never ever ever lying ever again!
and that's not a lie!
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Re: how do you get a girl to trust you again?
I think this thread must have the fastest post count climb ever.
(Can't be bothered with searching for the posts to quote from here... try and bear with me)
- We have not all been in this position.. some of us have been single all of their life.
- Isn't 16 a tad young (and illegal...) to be out drinking? Naughty naughty.
- Agent, you're as much a perv as SiM from the booty thread, I hope you're happy with yourself :D
- As for (I'm guessing) almost peeing yourself lol-ing matty, well, I wish I were as easy to please when I feel like hell :D
Ok, I really don't believe in all this 'the one' nonsense, and the fact that she's not so bothered about the fornication (almost, I hope not the actual) surely should be setting off bad alarm bells anyway. I KNOW that's not the sort of person I could be with, even if I dreamt about them every single night for the rest of my life. If she's gone and got off with someone else, just because of this, then that's another good reason to drop her.
The main message here probably isn't the music to your ears you may have hoped for, but for crying out loud, I hope you blummin well heed it :)
Good luck either way, if you mysteriously disappear we'll be sure to send out a search party ;)
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Originally Posted by
matty-hodgson
i'm never ever ever lying ever again!
and that's not a lie!
Easy to say! Hard to do!:mrgreen:
Honestly, you'll be meeting so many more girls that you'll probably think are the "one".
We've all been through it :)
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I think if you speak to her and say if she doesn't want to carry on with the relationship now because she can't trust you, you respect that. But you care about her a great deal and don't want to lose something great over a silly mistake, and an even sillier idea about covering it up. And so you want to stay friends and prove to her that you are trustworthy, and maybe in time if she feels she can trust you again... there can be a chance.
(In the meantime you're technically single so do her mate! ;) Heh... I just came out of a long relationship, freedom when you're young is so precious!)
Best of luck whatever way :-)
edit: sorry for the plug but I'm a reg on TheSite.org boards - it's a charity set up to help young people with issues relating to anything - studies, relationships, sexuality etc.. If you're really stuck there'll be experts and experienced members who can probably give you some good advice (not that the advice here isn't good!)
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Originally Posted by
SiM
...
Tell her that you are gay...
I already suggested that on an earlier page ;)
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Originally Posted by
matty-hodgson
right.. in short, i bolloxed up a relationship with my ex..
i seriously think i love her!
i lost my virginity to her.
but i lied to her..
and she hasn't taken to that well..
anyone been in this sort of situation before?
anything i could try?
i'll actually hoover out all the fans and heatsinks on your PC for the rest of the year if you get us back together!! and do whatever else you require!
Ive bin in that situation, *along with the virginity condition*, I lied to her about something and she got to know, and I was embarassed when she told me and didnt want to talk to me, I didnt give up, I cried, told her im sorry, promised her that such a thing will not happen again, i literally begged her to forgive me, since I was wrong and I knew it and I love her so much, she did forgive me eventually, but it took time, and even more time for her to get normal with me, but we are still together....so It worked out, you try, dont give up...make her know that you NEED her so much and that you were wrong and you admit that...
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OK I just woke up and trolled through here.
16?! Mate, get on with your life your GCSE's and A-Levels, get a job and then maybe you can think about 'the one'. We always wish our first 'one' will be the 'one' but the 'one' doesn't happen until you have had a 'few'.
I know how you feel though, but seriously there are more important things in life than getting your emotions screwed over by a girl. So somehow swallow it, stick around with your other mates and have a good time with them.
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So this is what you lot get up to when I go to bed! I really must try and stay awake for longer!
Anyhow, my relationship with Mrs Lucio has been put through the ringer a fair few times and it's always come out stronger in the end because we really are meant for each other. Simple fact is, if she's not interested, then she isn't "the one".
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I had a "the one" when I was 16, 18, 23 after that I kinda new that there weren't any "the ones".
That is until now. At 36 I really and truely have found "the one". You just know. Before now they were just girls i had long relationships with.
Matty, I seriously wouldn't worry about it. It might feel like it's the end of your girlfirends but, dude, you'll have another TOP girl very shortly. Either that or it gives you time to rack up your achievements on Xbox360 ;)
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JK Ferret
I think this thread must have the fastest post count climb ever.
yeah, i've mentioned that post climb thing.. it went up bloody fast! it appears to be something that everyone wants to help with.. cheers guys :)
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Originally Posted by
JK Ferret
- We have not all been in this position.. some of us have been single all of their life.
and some people have more sense than to try and deny something you done, when you know fine well that lying never works, and that her best mate told her she got with me.
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Originally Posted by
JK Ferret
- Isn't 16 a tad young (and illegal...) to be out drinking? Naughty naughty.
yes, it is illegal, but i look much older than i am, i've been stopped once or twice by doormen, so.. why not get wrecked on a weekend if ya can?
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JK Ferret
- - As for (I'm guessing) almost peeing yourself lol-ing matty, well, I wish I were as easy to please when I feel like hell :D
i probably shouldn't be laughing at a time like this, but things that people has been saying all night are just of the upmost hilarity!
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JK Ferret
-The main message here probably isn't the music to your ears you may have hoped for, but for crying out loud, I hope you blummin well heed it :)
Good luck either way, if you mysteriously disappear we'll be sure to send out a search party ;)
yeah, pretty much everyone has said that i'm just being 'young and foolish' to put it in such a way.. and i probably am, but i would still like to get back with her, i'd like that soooo much, but if things still aren't getting any better in a week or so, then i think i'll just move on, get wrecked with the mates, and get with some girl in a bar.. and that'll hopefully take my mind off it.
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sleepyhead
I already suggested that on an earlier page ;)
what's the bloody thing with telling someone you're gay?!
does it actually work or something?
what exactly happens after you've told her you're gay?
isn't that just another lie that i'm telling her?
lets hope it's a lie if i tell her!!!!:surprised::surprised::surprised::surprised::surprised::surprised:
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Hunain
Ive bin in that situation, *along with the virginity condition*, I lied to her about something and she got to know, and I was embarassed when she told me and didnt want to talk to me, I didnt give up, I cried, told her im sorry, promised her that such a thing will not happen again, i literally begged her to forgive me, since I was wrong and I knew it and I love her so much, she did forgive me eventually, but it took time, and even more time for her to get normal with me, but we are still together....so It worked out, you try, dont give up...make her know that you NEED her so much and that you were wrong and you admit that...
cheers pal, this actually gives me hope ya see.. but it's mainly upto her, i don't think there's much more that i can do. i've done all the grovelling i can over the last couple of days, i've spent nearly a tenner on texts and phone calls, only to get very few replies and the voicemail everytime. (why does voicemail cost 10p?!?!)
i just seriously hope it all turns out well..
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Stringent
OK I just woke up and trolled through here.
16?! Mate, get on with your life your GCSE's and A-Levels, get a job and then maybe you can think about 'the one'. We always wish our first 'one' will be the 'one' but the 'one' doesn't happen until you have had a 'few'.
if this carries on for long, then it will be ****ing up my school work. logged in at school atm, just sat in the library.
everyone else is doing a core PE lesson but i can't 'cause i've fractured a bone in my foot, (N)!!!
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Stringent
I know how you feel though, but seriously there are more important things in life than getting your emotions screwed over by a girl. So somehow swallow it, stick around with your other mates and have a good time with them.
everyone has given me this advice, but it just seems impossible atm! i'm just soo :juggle: about the whole thing. i need to talk to her in person without getting a slap and being told you ice-cream off.
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Originally Posted by
Lucio
So this is what you lot get up to when I go to bed! I really must try and stay awake for longer!
Anyhow, my relationship with Mrs Lucio has been put through the ringer a fair few times and it's always come out stronger in the end because we really are meant for each other. Simple fact is, if she's not interested, then she isn't "the one".
yes, they all turn into either peadophiles or total loonatics with the strangest of solutions :P:P:P
i guess i'm just gonna have to bide my time with it a bit, see how it goes, and if she still isn't any more interested in a couple of weeks, then i guess i'll have to move on.
i'm glad things have worked out for you pal :rockon2:
just if all relationships went like that..
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Originally Posted by
SiM
rape the poontang
another hilarious comment from SiM :P
will he ever come back to earth?
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Originally Posted by
Lord Midas
I had a "the one" when I was 16, 18, 23 after that I kinda new that there weren't any "the ones".
That is until now. At 36 I really and truely have found "the one". You just know. Before now they were just girls i had long relationships with.
Matty, I seriously wouldn't worry about it. It might feel like it's the end of your girlfirends but, dude, you'll have another TOP girl very shortly. Either that or it gives you time to rack up your achievements on Xbox360 ;)
as i've said many times.. everyone is saying they've found the 1 before.. and then it hasn't worked out, and that my case seems to be like that. which may well be true, but i'd rather it not be true. much much much rather it not be true.
on the xbox 360 thing, i seriously need to complete PGR4, i absolutely own on it! i'm gonna get XBL soon, and see how i rank in the world :P
i've racked up a fair few late nights on that game!
and CoD4, all my mates have that game on either XBL or PS3, and they're all ADDICTED! they have to physically hide their console to get any revision/work done.
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Look matty, ma have to agree with others on "the one", I went through with 18 ones to find the actual one :D, (yes i counted and even kept a record on each one till I found it weird and stopped doing that, and my gf burnt all that :P) Anyways, now that I have found the one, I know, we are 4 each other, but its not because I love her so much, it is because She loves me back, as much...
I asked her to forgive me, she made the effort to do so and try to make things work, that is how relations go on, you give her some time, if she is truly in to you, she will come back sooner or later, but if she is just impossible, know that she is not the one, because "the one" never quits on you, no matter what you do (Reader discretion advised :P) Lol....anyways, dont loose heart, I was heart broken lots of times, if I hadnt cried it out with my friends and smoked it out, Id have screwed my life...
so it would be good if you went out with your friends, preferably male friends, enjoy....flirt around, have fun...you'll feel better and you will soon find another girl, better than the last....but you give her time, dont quit on her, but if she is impossible, let her know you tried your best and that you wanted her back, but she made the choice, and then move on!....I hope the best for you mate :)
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Originally Posted by
matty-hodgson
yeah, pretty much everyone has said that i'm just being 'young and foolish' to put it in such a way.. and i probably am, but i would still like to get back with her, i'd like that soooo much, but if things still aren't getting any better in a week or so, then i think i'll just move on, get wrecked with the mates, and get with some girl in a bar.. and that'll hopefully take my mind off it.
Even though you say you are really serious (and don't worry too much about being young & foolish, you'll wish that back when you're old & foolish:)) - doesn't the fact you're already thinking ahead to what you'll do if you don't make it up, tell you something? D'you think she'd be any too impressed if she thought giving it a week was all you had in mind - she'd probably like to flatter herself you'll pine away for a lot longer, people like to think they're not that easily 'got over.' Even people who've dumped the other party can feel a bit narked if they've found someone else really quickly, we've all got vanity. I think you'd expect to give something a bit more than a week or so if she's worth it. If you aren't prepared for that you're probably not too heartbroken... best of luck whatever, anyway.:thumbsup:
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you could always try the other approche.
Sleep with as many of her friends + family as possible. Taking pics/vids to show her as appropriate.
That way she will be so jelous, she'll be desperate to have you back.
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TheAnimus
you could always try the other approche.
Sleep with as many of her friends + family as possible. Taking pics/vids to show her as appropriate.
That way she will be so jelous, she'll be desperate to have you back.
I'm sure there's a flaw in that logic - but I just can't see it.
Nope, it's all gravy.
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Originally Posted by
TheAnimus
you could always try the other approche.
Sleep with as many of her friends + family as possible. Taking pics/vids to show her as appropriate.
That way she will be so jelous, she'll be desperate to have you back.
I not sure that sleeping with her dad will help with the not being gay thing...
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wait till she accidently stumbles across this thread .. hehe
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True, since Matty Hodgson is probably your full name... she can easily identify you here lol
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Originally Posted by
tiggerai
16 is too young to have "the one" seriously.
You got too much growing up to do yet.
You'll never get her trust back... once it's gone, it's gone.
And come on, if she's the "one" why did you get off with her best mate? Drunk or not, If someone is the one, you don't even LOOK at someone else. (unfortunately, in my experience, they do... stuff happens)
I agree completely....
Trust is a difficult thing to rebuild, and as Tiggerai says, once it's broken, it never truely comes back.
It maybe that she is the one, but until you've been out with more people, you don't really know what it is you want from life. Over the next few years, your perspectives on things will undoubtedly change, you'll meet new people and build new friendships, and eventually, you will find the one :) You've got years of hunting for her yet, so enjoy it!! ;)
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Originally Posted by
Sair33
I agree completely....
Trust is a difficult thing to rebuild, and as Tiggerai says, once it's broken, it never truely comes back.
It maybe that she is the one, but until you've been out with more people, you don't really know what it is you want from life. Over the next few years, your perspectives on things will undoubtedly change, you'll meet new people and build new friendships, and eventually, you will find the one :) You've got years of hunting for her yet, so enjoy it!! ;)
I concur. However, I also think the worst thing can do is push the issue... give her some space i.e. leave here alone completely for a bit. If its meant to be you'll sort things out.
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Originally Posted by
SiM
True, since Matty Hodgson is probably your full name... she can easily identify you here lol
:laugh: that would be fantastic
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MadduckUK
:laugh: that would be fantastic
Trust Matty Hodgson?
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its only a matter of time before no one with trust matty hodgson, quite rightly.
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Originally Posted by
matty-hodgson
i'm 16..
very naive and young, i know..
but she's well.. AWESOME!
16years old!!!!
Trust me fella...she isnt the one.
TBPH mate, at 16 you should be flinging IT in the direction of anything vaguely female. (I know i was, and im sure most of the others were if truth be told aswell).
Variety is most definitely is the spice of life and as soon as you have tasted other stuff on the menu, you will soon realise its more fun to be 'sociable' with other ladies.
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SiM
BEBO 3RD LINK!!!!! :surprised:
lolololol google is the best
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This is going to end in tragedy.....
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be nice and dont do anything, however tempting it is....
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I reckon your donkey is looking suspect at the moment Madduck....keep him away from the keyboard please....
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Agent
*EVERYBODY* has mate :)
I haven't.
But in this day and age of cheating, lying, playing away, one night stands and everything else I think being honest to a partner seems to make you a mug in other people's eyes rather than a gentleman.
Shame really, but then I don't expect anything less from society today.
IMO, move on and learn the lesson. She will never forget it and as said before, you can damn well bet on it that she will try and bring it up in her favour if you ever do get back together. Also, again said before, if she was "the one" then you wouldn't have kissed another girl, simple as. You're just young, everyone feels the same about their first love. Heck, I'm approaching 30 (fast) and still fondly remember my first true love from when I was 16-17 or so...
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Agent
I reckon your donkey is looking suspect at the moment Madduck....keep him away from the keyboard please....
i generally prefer to just watch dont worry
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Allen
But in this day and age of cheating, lying, playing away, one night stands and everything else I think being honest to a partner seems to make you a mug in other people's eyes rather than a gentleman.
I wasn't referring to the lying bit, but the breaking up with someone you like.
Ok, I guess there are going to be a small percentage of HEXUS who haven't, but on the whole....:)
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MadduckUK
BEBO 3RD LINK!!!!!
that one claims to be 18 - but he does say he likes all Adam Sandler films, so I dunno... could be our man:)
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N I C K
oryt lad :D
am gud tar bwt u?
cha up 2..
..w/b.. :D
i like that message :laugh: kids nowadays
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Well leave it alone matty, too many opinions, dont try anything, just give her time, give yourself time, all with work out
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there's so many comments since i last replied so i'll just write answers to them all here..
that isn't me on the 3rd link on bebo.
i can't believe i'm the first hit on google for something! :D
i didn't realise they indexed stuff so fast.
i totally agree with you, society these days is all just 1 night stands, and who loses their virginity first and stuff like that, it's all wrong!
i think it's safe to say that i've not found 'the one' but i wish she could be.. she makes me laugh, she makes me get up at 5:30am to walk 5 miles to meet her at the other end of town 'cause she misses me.
this will not end in tragedy..
there's still hope, i seen her before, in town. and i talked to her, she told me that she still loves me, and that i've broken her heart. but she's just gotta learn to trust me again.
sooo.. who knows, i may just be lucky :D:D:D
i'm going out tonight with all my mates, but i don't think i'll be getting with anyone. just because i want her back!
and yeah, keep the senseless (but hilarious) comments coming please :)
they're such a brilliant read, and i'm sure a lot of other readers are enjoying them aswell!
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i'm going out tonight with all my mates
Make sure you keep it in your pocket then :)
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Blitzen
Make sure you keep it in your pocket then :)
oh don't worry! i will..
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pocket... thats a stupid place to keep it. enless you've got some kind of weird stitching so that your pockets dont go towards the outside of your legs..... "can you reach my phone out of my pocket, my hands are wet.... little deaper..."
acrapo of none of which leads me onto The Royal Exchange by Bank.
This place is helarious, as its primary clients are people working in the old City. Every time i've been there, the vast majority of the clients where buying what i'd class as sorry, i didn't mean to sleep with the opair and the better she's pregnant grade jewlry. I swear the vast majority of the men there, thats all they where buying.
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matty-hodgson
and what use is a threesome with 2 guys?!
Hehe, he is young but not *THAT* naive!
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If she older than you and you boinked her when you were 15, get her arrested for statutory rape :)
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Haha, funny that this thread should appear overnight.
I've just gotten out of a situation pretty similar to this.
I drank the best part of a bottle of gin in a few hours, and went to my gfs student halls at 5 am and told her I wanted to break up.
From what I can piece together of my boozed up mindset I think I was freaking out about having been together( about 20 months now, yeah I know, but I'm only 19) so long, and decided to end a relationship which until now has been pretty much as good as I could hope for.
This was last saturday night and it took me an entire week of non stop texting and phone calls to even get her to speak to me face to face. She came to my house last night, stayed over after hours of talking, and it looks like things are gonna be alright now.
So my advice to you is;
If you are really, really sure that you want to be with this girl ( not getting into 'the one' debate), then just don't give up. She'll come round eventually, and if she doesn't then it simply wasn't meant to be matey.
Good luck
(and thanks for the lulz hexus!)
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format
(and thanks for the lulz hexus!)
Only Anonymous can do the lulz
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Originally Posted by
SiM
If she older than you and you boinked her when you were 15, get her arrested for statutory rape :)
no, i was 16 and she was 16..
so that's no option.
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Re: how do you get a girl to trust you again?
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Haha, funny that this thread should appear overnight.
I've just gotten out of a situation pretty similar to this.
I drank the best part of a bottle of gin in a few hours, and went to my gfs student halls at 5 am and told her I wanted to break up.
From what I can piece together of my boozed up mindset I think I was freaking out about having been together( about 20 months now, yeah I know, but I'm only 19) so long, and decided to end a relationship which until now has been pretty much as good as I could hope for.
This was last saturday night and it took me an entire week of non stop texting and phone calls to even get her to speak to me face to face. She came to my house last night, stayed over after hours of talking, and it looks like things are gonna be alright now.
So my advice to you is;
If you are really, really sure that you want to be with this girl ( not getting into 'the one' debate), then just don't give up. She'll come round eventually, and if she doesn't then it simply wasn't meant to be matey.
Good luck
(and thanks for the lulz hexus!)
yeah, that appears to be the overall message from all of this.
give her time, if she really loves me.. she'll come round and hopefully forgive me for what i've done.
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Originally Posted by
matty-hodgson
no, i was xx and she was xy..
so that's no option. handing myself in if i do.
delete that... admitting statutory rape on the public internets is not a good idea
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SiM
delete that... admitting statutory rape on the public internets is not a good idea
no such thing in the UK. They changed the laws a few years back.
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Originally Posted by
Dreaming
no such thing in the UK. They changed the laws a few years back.
*SiM goes out to find some 15 year olds* :naughty:
:laugh:
Being serious, it must be still illegal to screw a under 16 year old though... why is this any different?
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Originally Posted by
Dreaming
no such thing in the UK. They changed the laws a few years back.
they're changed the law?
so what have they changed it to?
have they changed it to something more like, 16 and 15 year old.. isn't rape, but a 28 and a 15 year old is rape? or have they just got rid of the law?
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i think its based more around the spirit of the law rather than the letter now. sure there was a story on fark a while ago about something like that
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It's relatively complicated now, and there's lots of different degrees. But its changed the law so there is a distinction between a 16 yr old and a 15 yr old sleeping together vs a 40 yr old and a 13 yr old.
Statutary rape is no longer the lingo used. It's still technically illegal btw, but the penalties are much less severe and some legal things say in some cases i.e. 16 yr old guy with 15 yr old girlfriend they should not pursue a prosecution.
i dont remember exactly when this was, its was in the last few years. you may have seen in the papers outrage that 16 year olds could no longer snog their 15 year old partners. took it out of context completely. rewrote the laws so that if an old man is kissing a young girl or woman kissing boy in a sexual manner they can be charged, whereas previously there had to be clear sexual contact.
the law should be there to support what is natural and what is right, rather than be a beaurocratic fist with which to hand out injust sentences. Unfortunately, they havent quite perfected it in the case of speed cameras...
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flowers and some chocolates.. they appear to be the only option atm. i'm gonna give her some space atm though.
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..'least she's talking to you:)
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yeah, :D
it was a huge relief when she decided to talk to me instead of slapping me and telling me where to go.
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Good 4 u matty...though id say, girls at this age dont know what they want...
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updape on the situation..
some of my mates seen her last night, she was absolutely smashed, calling me a bastard and allsorts.
looks bleak, but ah well... only she can forgive me.
and she was as pissed as a fart!
i've tried ringing her, no answer, texting her, no answer.
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Originally Posted by
matty-hodgson
updape on the situation..
some of my mates seen her last night, she was absolutely smashed, calling me a bastard and allsorts.
looks bleak, but ah well... only she can forgive me.
and she was as pissed as a fart!
i've tried ringing her, no answer, texting her, no answer.
she is probably hung over... and doesn't want to talk to anyone... at least she was talking about you so she has strong feelings for you... but could be love or hate :crazy:
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Originally Posted by
SiM
she is probably hung over... and doesn't want to talk to anyone... at least she was talking about you so she has strong feelings for you... but could be love or hate :crazy:
i'm going with hate..
there was some nasty stuff said last night :S:P
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HAHA...told you, girls at this age dont know anything, do not compare their reactions to those of adults, quite possibly she was doing it, talking **** about you, because that is considered by her as the right thing to do! It is quite complex....at this age, most girls are lead by peer pressure, movies, fantasies...rather than their heart and mind!
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Anyone else heard that when you badmouth/treat someone badly beyond banter, sometimes it's just a way of covering up your true feelings? Hopefully this is true of your current situation :)
Fingers crossed for you mate :thumbsup:
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JK Ferret
Anyone else heard that when you badmouth/treat someone badly beyond banter, sometimes it's just a way of covering up your true feelings? Hopefully this is true of your current situation :)
Fingers crossed for you mate :thumbsup:
yeah, i hope this is true also..
i'm talking to her on MSN atm, she seems okay :S
it's weird..
maybe she's playing mind games!
who knows?
god might?
anyone a vicar? :P
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Originally Posted by
matty-hodgson
yeah, i hope this is true also..
i'm talking to her on MSN atm, she seems okay :S
it's weird..
maybe she's playing mind games!
who knows?
god might?
anyone a vicar? :P
What's her MSN? I'll put in a good word for you :naughty:
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SiM
What's her MSN? I'll put in a good word for you :naughty:
you don't have MSN.. and i haven't a clue what she'd think :S
lets just give her time :P
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matty-hodgson
you don't have MSN.. and i haven't a clue what she'd think :S
lets just give her time :P
I do have MSN, I just don't use it :p
But I would sign in just to tell her that you are gay... the things I do for friends :rolleyes:
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Originally Posted by
SiM
I do have MSN, I just don't use it :p
But I would sign in just to tell her that you are gay... the things I do for friends :rolleyes:
ohh.. would you! :D
i'm sure that'd fix it..
would you pretend to be my boyfriend? :D
:lol:
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Originally Posted by
matty-hodgson
ohh.. would you! :D
i'm sure that'd fix it..
would you pretend to be my boyfriend? :D
:lol:
Great idea... I can see it working!
"Stay away from my Matty, biatch!"
:lol:
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i don't wanna get everyone's hopes up here.. but..
things are looking promising here,
she's been different, talking to me, laughing with me.. and when she just left then, she asked me if i love her, i said "of course i do!!"
and she smiled (on webcam) :D
i might be in..
gonna be a long road to getting her trust back though, if she decides to give me another chance that is.
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Some ideas of varying usefulness:
1) Print out this thread and post it to her.
2) Man up and get over it. Hopefully, you'll live a lot longer, and you'll meet a LOT of other girls. Get off the internet and sex it up.
3) Leave it for a bit. Text her to say you're genuinely sorry you screwed things up and want her back. Write properly: it will sound more genuine. Then don't do anything for a while. She sounds like she's milking it, and just needs time to stop acting like she lives in the O.C.
4) Tell everyone she has STDs.
5) Realise that if she's chucked you because you lied about getting off with someone, rather than because you got off with someone, she may not have liked you all that much in the first place and was looking for an excuse. And no-one likes being the female dog in a relationship.
6) Stop taking advice from people on the internet. It might be good advice, but frankly, this sort of thing is only going to be sorted by you. None of us know the girl or your history with the girl, and any advice - though well-meaning - could do more harm than good.
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ahhhh to be young again. It will last another week and we'll get a new thread..
"What's the best way out of a relationship when her dad has found out she's pregnant?" :D
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staffsMike
ahhhh to be young again. It will last another week and we'll get a new thread..
"What's the best way out of a relationship when her dad has found out she's pregnant?" :D
or "How do you bang your gf's best mate without her finding out?"
Then I will come along and suggest rohypnol :)
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staffsMike
ahhhh to be young again. It will last another week and we'll get a new thread..
"What's the best way out of a relationship when her dad has found out she's pregnant?" :D
LMFAO!!!
yeah, Hexus will probably give plenty of advice on this also, SiM will almost undoubtably tell me to tell her i'm gay, which could work in that circumstance.
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Great thread - read upto page 9 and skipped a few pages (did I miss anything?)
Good luck Matty - I wonder how many readers would swap situations with you?
Issues with Relationships only become critically important with pregnancy and/or marriage. Until then, they are mainly about enjoyment with some responsibility. After preganancy and/or marriage, they are mainly about responsiblility (and then some, hopefully lots of, enjoyment).
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Akwaaba
Great thread - read upto page 9 and skipped a few pages (did I miss anything?)
Good luck Matty - I wonder how many readers would swap situations with you?
Issues with Relationships only become critically important with pregnancy and/or marriage. Until then, they are mainly about enjoyment with some responsibility. After preganancy and/or marriage, they are mainly about responsiblility (and then some, hopefully lots of, enjoyment).
with marriage and pregnancy it's not just for the 2 of you, it's for the kids and the rest of the family aswell..
but i do wonder how many people would swap positions with me..
interesting :P:)
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Rebecca - Louise says:
i love you.
Rebecca - Louise says:
doesn't that say it all?
Rebecca - Louise says:
im just learning to trust u again though, so don't expect anything okay?
'ey guys..
it's looking promising.
much better than i'd ever hoped for!
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matty-hodgson
'Rebecca - Louise says:
i love you.'
there's a song title if ever i heard one..!:) fingers crossed 4 ya.
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wow you must really like this girl to keep trying for this long?
i do have a mate that has been trying to get with a friend of mine since august and has got as far as a snog but hes just confident enough for her to like.... just to my pence but make sure if shes still talking to you that she isnt trying to play games with you
GL sport
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sammyc
there's a song title if ever i heard one..!:) fingers crossed 4 ya.
pitty i can't sing :(
anyone any good at editing sound?
make me sound 'good' :P:)