how do you get a girl to trust you again?

[Hunain]

Good 4 u matty...though id say, girls at this age dont know what they want...

[matty-hodgson]

updape on the situation..

some of my mates seen her last night, she was absolutely smashed, calling me a bastard and allsorts.

looks bleak, but ah well... only she can forgive me.
and she was as pissed as a fart!

i've tried ringing her, no answer, texting her, no answer.

[SiM]

updape on the situation..

some of my mates seen her last night, she was absolutely smashed, calling me a bastard and allsorts.

looks bleak, but ah well... only she can forgive me.
and she was as pissed as a fart!

i've tried ringing her, no answer, texting her, no answer.

she is probably hung over... and doesn't want to talk to anyone... at least she was talking about you so she has strong feelings for you... but could be love or hate

[matty-hodgson]

she is probably hung over... and doesn't want to talk to anyone... at least she was talking about you so she has strong feelings for you... but could be love or hate

i'm going with hate..
there was some nasty stuff said last night :S

[Hunain]

HAHA...told you, girls at this age dont know anything, do not compare their reactions to those of adults, quite possibly she was doing it, talking **** about you, because that is considered by her as the right thing to do! It is quite complex....at this age, most girls are lead by peer pressure, movies, fantasies...rather than their heart and mind!

[JK Ferret]

Anyone else heard that when you badmouth/treat someone badly beyond banter, sometimes it's just a way of covering up your true feelings? Hopefully this is true of your current situation

Fingers crossed for you mate

[matty-hodgson]

Anyone else heard that when you badmouth/treat someone badly beyond banter, sometimes it's just a way of covering up your true feelings? Hopefully this is true of your current situation

Fingers crossed for you mate

yeah, i hope this is true also..
i'm talking to her on MSN atm, she seems okay :S
it's weird..
maybe she's playing mind games!
who knows?
god might?
anyone a vicar?

[SiM]

yeah, i hope this is true also..
i'm talking to her on MSN atm, she seems okay :S
it's weird..
maybe she's playing mind games!
who knows?
god might?
anyone a vicar?

What's her MSN? I'll put in a good word for you

[matty-hodgson]

What's her MSN? I'll put in a good word for you

you don't have MSN.. and i haven't a clue what she'd think :S
lets just give her time

[SiM]

you don't have MSN.. and i haven't a clue what she'd think :S
lets just give her time

I do have MSN, I just don't use it
But I would sign in just to tell her that you are gay... the things I do for friends

[matty-hodgson]

I do have MSN, I just don't use it
But I would sign in just to tell her that you are gay... the things I do for friends

ohh.. would you!
i'm sure that'd fix it..
would you pretend to be my boyfriend?

[SiM]

ohh.. would you!
i'm sure that'd fix it..
would you pretend to be my boyfriend?

Great idea... I can see it working!
"Stay away from my Matty, biatch!"

[matty-hodgson]

i don't wanna get everyone's hopes up here.. but..
things are looking promising here,
she's been different, talking to me, laughing with me.. and when she just left then, she asked me if i love her, i said "of course i do!!"
and she smiled (on webcam)

i might be in..
gonna be a long road to getting her trust back though, if she decides to give me another chance that is.

[educatedfool]

webcam hanky panky

[Virtual Monkey]

Some ideas of varying usefulness:

1) Print out this thread and post it to her.

2) Man up and get over it. Hopefully, you'll live a lot longer, and you'll meet a LOT of other girls. Get off the internet and sex it up.

3) Leave it for a bit. Text her to say you're genuinely sorry you screwed things up and want her back. Write properly: it will sound more genuine. Then don't do anything for a while. She sounds like she's milking it, and just needs time to stop acting like she lives in the O.C.

4) Tell everyone she has STDs.

5) Realise that if she's chucked you because you lied about getting off with someone, rather than because you got off with someone, she may not have liked you all that much in the first place and was looking for an excuse. And no-one likes being the female dog in a relationship.

6) Stop taking advice from people on the internet. It might be good advice, but frankly, this sort of thing is only going to be sorted by you. None of us know the girl or your history with the girl, and any advice - though well-meaning - could do more harm than good.

[staffsMike]

ahhhh to be young again. It will last another week and we'll get a new thread..

"What's the best way out of a relationship when her dad has found out she's pregnant?"