Cheating - Where do you draw the line?

[SiM]

Its always good to have a backup just in case your gf goes crazy or you get bored of her... keep in touch with that friend if she is fit

[TheAnimus]

It's black and white for me -
Any fluids being spilt/shared is cheating - anything else is not.

Thats quite a good simple division.

[Stringent]

So where would the line be if you are with a female friend? How far would you take it? (In your opinion not your gf's!)

Hand on ass/breast?

No, if I were with a female friend, a kiss on the cheek and a hug would be the line.

As for fluids, what about sharing a drink at the movies?

[ACiD303]

It's black and white for me -
Any fluids being spilt/shared is cheating - anything else is not.

What about a full-on grope session?

If a friend fancies you, are they really a friend?

Why wouldn't they be? They like you, they'd care for your wellbeing....fair enough they might not be the best people to ask for relationship advice, but then again not all friends are, either. It depends on the person, and yourself I guess - if you're in a relationship and it's causing friction - but I haven't questioned any similar situations as such before.

[staffsMike]

I didn't mean it quite like it's worded I guess.

Of course they are your friend for the most part. However, in my opinion they are not just a friend, even if they are from your point of view. For them they are in the fuzzy area between friend and a grilfriend or boyfriend.

From your point of view it will be fine.. they are just a friend and thats all they ever will be.

But from their point of view and more importantly your gf/bf's point of view they are not simply a friend, they have tried and will potentially try again to be more. So try looking from her (your gf's) perspective, how would you feel if she had someone like that hanging around her? If you think it's ok for her to do it then by all means why not do it yourself, but if not its a bit of a double standard. I certainly wouldn't and don't like it and so it doesn't happen anymore.

This is the situation I was in and just cut her loose as it wasn't heathy for my relationship.

[Mike Fishcake]

Occasional flirting in jest is one thing. You'd have to be inhuman to completely abstain from that. But if the intent to go beyond that is there, then in my view, it's cheating regardless of whether you go through with it or not. So regular flirting, even in jest, is dangerous. And if it goes beyond jest, even if that's the extent of it, is too far for me.

Flirting's absolutely fine - as long as it's harmless and there's no intent....or "fishing" for anything else. So many girls do it that I've brushed it off as one of those things.

I 'flirt' all the time, but only with people I know really well, and they know it's meant in jest. It's just a bit of fun really. Yes, the Mrs knows I do it It's not just restricted to women either! I guess me and my friends are just confident enough to pretend to 'fondle' each other for a joke. You know, until I wrote that, it never even occurred to me exactly how that could appear to other people. Ahh well

I took vows, and they mean something to me. It's just as serious, to me to break those vows in my head as it is to break them physically, because doing so says I'd be close to doing so physically, should the opportunity exist, and perhaps the only difference is opportunity. And I love the missus to much to contemplate that.

Amen to that. 10 years next March

[Bazzlad]

What about a full-on grope session?

Fluids can be spilt whilst dry humping you know

If someone gets pleasure from groping someone else without kissing properly or taking it further, good for them - it's not cheating in my book, as you know it'll either level up, or down.

[usxhe190]

What about if your partner sends pictures of a trip that he/she went with a bunch of girlfriends to one of his/her friend first BEFORE actually sending it to the girlfriends themselves?

[Bazzlad]

What about if your partner sends pictures of a trip that he/she went with a bunch of girlfriends to one of his/her friend first BEFORE actually sending it to the girlfriends themselves?

Yes but, no but...

[MadduckUK]

damn, I wanted to post that pedobear pic...

[staffsMike]

He's everywhere

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[ACiD303]

I 'flirt' all the time, but only with people I know really well, and they know it's meant in jest. It's just a bit of fun really. Yes, the Mrs knows I do it It's not just restricted to women either! I guess me and my friends are just confident enough to pretend to 'fondle' each other for a joke. You know, until I wrote that, it never even occurred to me exactly how that could appear to other people. Ahh well

Hairy Muff, the only guys I know that I know will flirt without any ulterior motive (towards women, at least) are gay...but in mutual understanding terms that's fine. I'd only flirt with, single women aside, are those without boyfriends, but not really wanting anything - more to pass the time and just enjoy myself like you probably do

I do only see women 'flirting', and it may seem sexist to some but meh, as either ulterior motive, passive-aggressive, or just plain foolery. If a woman was to instigate flirting, 9 times out of 10, I'd have none of it. Just my experience of how the way things go though