Suppose you are given a choice between believing an unhappy truth or believing a happy untruth (which you believe to be true). In general, which would you normally choose?
Unhappy truth
Happy untruth
Depends
Suppose you are given a choice between believing an unhappy truth or believing a happy untruth (which you believe to be true). In general, which would you normally choose?
I live with the unhappy truth. I prefer the truth to the lies.
If people lie to me, I act on those lies as if they were the truth, until the truth is told to me at which point I act as if the truth were the truth.
It's made many of my friends EXTREMELY honest for some reason. Can't imagine why.
Of course, I'm not above telling white lies, or reaslising that lies are sometimes easier than the truth, but I do think that if you tell someone something in confidence, or you tell someone something important, you should then avoid lying.
I'll lie about homework. I won't lie about who point the hole in the £1000 wall.. or who broke my friend's arm (my fault... we were playing football and I blasted it and he blocked it with his wrist!?!?)
Also, I'd much rather be turned down honestly, then go out with someone who is actually just pretending to string me along or to make someone else jealous. Especially if they're trying to make someone else jealous... I can handle myself against people of my age and so will defend myself (to my detriment sometiems.)
Unforntunately, it means that I can injure people by accident, or misjudge their intentions and hurt them more than what was required to stop them. If they had told the truth, or whoever instigated it told the truth, the entire issue could have been avoided.
Be honest in your dealings, telling lies creates problems. It's just occasionally that telling the truth creates problems too.
Originally Posted by Fortune117
I guess we're expected to do quite well
Ignorance is bliss! if i would never find out, it would never be used against me & i dont suspect anything then id much rather be told a white lie & remain happy, then be told the truth and be miserable.
However, if there was a hint something was off, or someone said something that caught my ear, i would instinctively dig deeper until i found out the truth and wouldn't stop until i got it. Then id be fairly hacked off for finding the truth out and finding id be lied to!
Truth, at least i'm not clouded by a lie
Knowledge is power.. truth for me every time. Not that I am necessarily the world's most honest person (so there is a whiff of double standards I'm well aware of here); however I hate the idea of (for example) talking to someone who knows certain information about me that I am unaware they know, or who is in on something I'm not... gives them the upper hand, and makes you look stupid.
Anyone else?
Truth. It can hurt sometimes, even really really bad. But somehow the irony is its better for you.
Another way to phrase this question is:
If someone came to you and told you, "One of the things you believe makes you happy, but it is wrong, and I can give you evidence against it which, if you believe it, will make you unhappy." Would you want to know?
So, assuming I'm not aware of the fact the untruth is un true, the two options are, believe the truth that makes you unhappy or believe the truth that makes you happy.
I think I'd go with the happy one.
It troubled me to learn that your average human is incapable of being told the truth.
I find that you have to candy-coat your opinions for some people so much that it demeans the very notion of telling someone "what you really think", making it a trivial matter along the lines of a procession.
People only want you to tell them what they've prepared for in their heads, a lie, a half-truth, something that they're comfortable with accepting...no one likes the truth...something I'm all too willing to tell
However, my point is, one has to use their best judgement as to what the best course of action is, lie or tell the truth when its done is dependent on the situation.
Truth is often highly subjective...
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