"The One"

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09-10-2008, 08:57 AM
0iD

"The One"

What I want to know, is there such a thing as "The One", that perfect person you were predestined to meet, that's your perfect partner? Love at first sight? Or do we just generally settle for a good approximation?

Seems that the ladies tend to hold this ideal more than men. I think chaps are, in general, a lot less fussy. Not saying that it never happens, I know a lot of my friends who have long and lovinig relationships & they will state that their respective partner is in deed "The One" and it was definately love at first sight. Just inquisitive to hear the views of the Hexus populus.

Ok, forgive my early morning insomnia fuleled ramblings. Mebbee, 40 years, 2 failed marriages & 4 children have just made me cynical ... :p But hey, life is still good! :mrgreen:
09-10-2008, 09:22 AM
Funkstar

Re: "The One"

XKCD : Commitment

Oops. i did put that in line, but there is a small sweary word at the end.
09-10-2008, 09:22 AM
Trash Man

Re: "The One"

No such thing :)

There are far to many people in the world for there to be "the one"

I've been with my current partner for 9 years now and I am still very much in love with her and tell her so everyday and I can't see myself being with anyone else, but what percentage of the UK female population have I met, 0.1% maybe? let alone the world.

If people do genuinely believe there is "the one" out there then good luck finding them :)
09-10-2008, 09:25 AM
Funkstar

Re: "The One"

"The One"? Yeah sure.

Love at first sight? Nah, thats all lust and pheromones.
09-10-2008, 09:38 AM
pollaxe

Re: "The One"

Yeah, far, far too many people on the planet for the one person who's 'meant' for you. A nice idea though. :)
09-10-2008, 09:42 AM
HSK

Re: "The One"

I don't think your pre-destined to meet "the one" or someone you consider a perfect match. but you might come across someone who your good with, and that person will be the one for you... or then again you might not.

If you get with someone and they ain't so great, for you in whatever way, never put up with it or settle, always be good to your self, confident, and better your situations in life, whatever they may be.

but if you do meet someone who is totally on your wavelength/level/match, who understands you and puts your feelings etc first. then that is great.
09-10-2008, 09:44 AM
Stringent

Re: "The One"

Thats a hard question, I guess you will only really know if they are "the one" (I thought you were going to talk about The Matrix for a min!) when you get married. The serious relationships I have had I thought they would be "the one" turns out its not.

Although I know some people have met and knew, so it varies I guess. I do believe if there is someone for you, then you will be together.
09-10-2008, 09:51 AM
pollaxe

Re: "The One"

Another factor is that people change. I was engaged - for a long term relationship - and by the time we broke-up we were very different people. If you'd asked me if I thought she was 'the one' about two years into it, I probably would've said yes.

It's all down to compatibility - what you like about a person and what you're prepared to put up with ultimately. It strikes me with billions of people out there as potential partners that to think there's one 'special' person out there is pretty unrealistic...
09-10-2008, 09:56 AM
CaseyV9

Re: "The One"

"The One" I also thought this would be about the one in the phrophsey who will lead us to victory against the forces of darkness. The ring bearer.

I think it would be very Nieave (Excuse the spelling) to think that there is "The one"

Maybe you'll find someone you will be happy with until the end of your life.
You never know, You may find a few like that eh?
09-10-2008, 11:30 AM
staffsMike

Re: "The One"

I thought people that talked about "the one" were crazy using the how many women in world argument all time. But quite honestly and just like love, it is only another feeling, and I do feel like I'm with the one.
I firmly believe that nothing nothing short of one us dying will break us up and if that should happen, I don't honestly think I would even try and find someone else.

Everyone's different of course and no one can tell you how something feels..you have to feel it for yourself :)

There is also a very twisty tale of fate that brought us together, but that could all just be coincidence lol

So I don't necessarily believe that there is a "the one".. I think it's another feeling like love. But if you feel it, it's an even harder thing to shake off even if you really wanted to (which I don't).

Perhaps what I'm saying is that there isn't a "the one" until you are actually with them and have been for some time. Because however much you know someone, there is almost always things you didn't know before you were together and that may or may not affect how you feel.
09-10-2008, 01:00 PM
Clunk

Re: "The One"

You just know when it's "the one", but to be honest, these days I prefer a number two.
09-10-2008, 01:07 PM
bsodmike

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by Clunk

You just know when it's "the one", but to be honest, these days I prefer a number two.

:mrgreen: Good one clunk. I'm still young although I've not met "the one" yet. What has me most concerned is the attitude of most of the current generation, lack of morals and loyalty, cheating and divorce seems to be a trend and the 'in' thing.

Sorry if I sound rather gloomy but...*sigh*...I hope I meet that special someone some day who'll knock my socks right off :)
09-10-2008, 01:54 PM
pollaxe

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by bsodmike

:mrgreen: Good one clunk. I'm still young although I've not met "the one" yet. What has me most concerned is the attitude of most of the current generation, lack of morals and loyalty, cheating and divorce seems to be a trend and the 'in' thing.

That's just people - they've always done it - the scumbags!!!

Still, mustn't grumble... ;)
09-10-2008, 02:30 PM
G4Z

Re: "The One"

Of course there is only one

http://inspireaction.mindandmedia.co...highlander.jpg
09-10-2008, 03:14 PM
Funkstar

Re: "The One"

Not this one?
http://www.internationalhero.co.uk/n/neo1.jpg

(oh come on! someone had to post it!)
09-10-2008, 03:18 PM
Stringent

Re: "The One"

TBH I just wish we all knew "The One" then it would save time, wasted money and stuff. Hope there is "One" for me. :)
09-10-2008, 03:54 PM
JK Ferret

Re: "The One"

IMO, the 'one' only exists in fantasy, it is super highly unlikely that someone that 100% matches you view of the one exists. And even then, you have to be their 'one' for it to work too, which sends the unlikelyness spiralling.
09-10-2008, 04:01 PM
mediaboy

Re: "The One"

It's not that there isn't a one... it's just that my hormones make everyone the one..

There's lots of ones!

You have to find the teenage years amusing... when they're not a total muck up.
09-10-2008, 04:31 PM
Andeh13

Re: "The One"

I thought i had found ''the one'', and after 18 months i was being proved right. Then we had a difficult week apart and she deceided getting with another guy would fix it! Now she is very sorry & i am very hurt, but i still think she was/could still be the one?

Where is the ''im trying to figure it out'' option? :p

As for love at first sight, i couldnt disagree more, you have to know the person before you can ever truely love them!
09-10-2008, 04:38 PM
dangel

Re: "The One"

Happily married to mine for almost 11 years :)

And the odds of us meeting (and hooking up) were probably much worse than average to say the least!

Anything's possible..

If you're not sure you've found it - you ain't got it baby.
09-10-2008, 04:42 PM
sleepyhead

Re: "The One"

Not Jet Li, "The One"?

http://img5.allocine.fr/acmedia/medi...217501_ph1.jpg

Not having met "the one", I can't really comment. When people click, they click.
09-10-2008, 04:46 PM
dangel

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by sleepyhead

Not Jet Li, "The One"?

Def. not - one of his worst films!
09-10-2008, 09:14 PM
Stringent

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by dangel

Def. not - one of his worst films!

Don't like any of his films. Such a wooden character.

Bruce Lee would say he needs to be more 'flexible' :)
09-10-2008, 09:17 PM
floppybootstomp

Re: "The One"

The One?

That was Peter Perret's band before he reformed The Only Ones and started touring again.

You see?

And on a more relevant note, I've had several ones and will probably find another :D
09-10-2008, 10:30 PM
VictorE

Re: "The One"

Having known my wife for 20+ yrs and being married 16 of them i guess you could say she is "the one" for me.

Was i predestined to meet her? Not sure i believe in all that hokem.

Perfect partner? Yes absolutely she's my best friend and the mother of our 2 children.

Love at first site? Nah to young at 14, I'd say sexual attraction lashings of rumpy pumpy then love.

I totally agree with what StaffsMike says being with someone for a very long time knowing and understanding them and they you, then i think they become "the one"

Good thread 0iD..:;)
09-10-2008, 10:43 PM
shadowmaster

Re: "The One"

Why does it have to be one? Cant it be two?
09-10-2008, 10:50 PM
staffsMike

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by shadowmaster

Why does it have to be one? Cant it be two?

I believe it's Dodgeball that reffers to that as "the jackpot" ;)

But in all honestly you won't want to share :)
09-10-2008, 10:52 PM
matty-hodgson

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by shadowmaster

Why does it have to be one? Cant it be two?

at the same time? ;)
09-10-2008, 10:52 PM
0iD

Re: "The One"

Be a Mormon
09-10-2008, 10:56 PM
staffsMike

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by matty-hodgson

at the same time? ;)

Of course.. otherwise it's "the one" and then "the second one".
09-10-2008, 10:57 PM
shadowmaster

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by matty-hodgson

at the same time? ;)

:naughty:
09-10-2008, 10:59 PM
staffsMike

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by shadowmaster

:naughty:

Just doesn't feel right when it's not SIM.. lol
09-10-2008, 11:12 PM
0iD

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by staffsMike

Just doesn't feel right when it's not SIM.. lol

http://premium1.uploadit.org/g33k0iD//eyebrow.gif http://premium1.uploadit.org/g33k0iD//eyebrow.gif http://premium1.uploadit.org/g33k0iD//eyebrow.gif
09-10-2008, 11:18 PM
staffsMike

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Ummmmm... 'kay :help:
09-10-2008, 11:34 PM
VictorE

Re: "The One"

0iD thats one crazy avatar me thinks..;)
10-10-2008, 09:22 AM
dangel

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by Stringent

Don't like any of his films. Such a wooden character.

Actually, he's fab in his old chinese stuff - completely different in fact!
10-10-2008, 10:07 AM
Nick

Re: "The One"

The trick here is to not hold out for "The One" but be happy with who you are with... constantly waiting for that 'perfect' person means that anyone you do spend time with is just going to wind you up as internally measure their shortcomings against your imaginary ideal person.

Found someone and you're happy? Good, then stick with it and BE happy.

If it ain't working, you'll know deep down inside if it's worth persevering with so either make the effort or cut your loses and end it...

But don't kill off good relationship just because the reality doesn't match the fantasy ideal... down that path lies nothing but loneliness, disillusionment and crusty socks.
10-10-2008, 12:35 PM
SiM

Re: "The One"

errr... I can make it feel right?
10-10-2008, 01:09 PM
shaithis

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by staffsMike

I believe it's Dodgeball that reffers to that as "the jackpot" ;)

But in all honestly you won't want to share :)

Sharing is one thing, being shared is something else ;)
10-10-2008, 01:16 PM
0iD

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by SiM

errr... I can make it feel right?

Apparently so.... scared? I would be :crazy:

Quote:

Originally Posted by VictorE

Good thread 0iD..:;)

Why thanks :D:thumbsup:
10-10-2008, 05:09 PM
SiM

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by 0iD

Apparently so.... scared? I would be :crazy:

http://forums.hexus.net/general-disc...ml#post1541286
10-10-2008, 07:12 PM
Dareos

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by shaithis

Sharing is one thing, being shared is something else ;)

personally its a dream of mine to be shared by 2 women :) or maybe even three....

as it is tho, i met the one, she is perfect in every way for me

http://i.ehow.com/images/GlobalPhoto...main_Thumb.jpg
10-10-2008, 07:32 PM
mediaboy

Re: "The One"

And presumably she doesn't read these forums?
10-10-2008, 08:46 PM
JK Ferret

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by mediaboy

And presumably she doesn't read these forums?

I guess 'she' would have a pretty hard time doing so :)
10-10-2008, 09:03 PM
floppybootstomp

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dareos

personally its a dream of mine to be shared by 2 women :) or maybe even three....

It ain't all it's cracked up to be, believe me :D

It's difficult enough keeping one satisfied, two is bloody hard work :lol:
10-10-2008, 09:05 PM
matty-hodgson

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by floppybootstomp

It ain't all it's cracked up to be, believe me :D

It's difficult enough keeping one satisfied, two is bloody hard work :lol:

you mean you've actually made a woman happy?
world first?!

:P
10-10-2008, 09:13 PM
mediaboy

Re: "The One"

Oh it's easy.

Once you can do 562 things at the same time....
10-10-2008, 09:26 PM
floppybootstomp

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by matty-hodgson

you mean you've actually made a woman happy?
world first?!

:P

A fair point mon ami, a fair point :lol:
10-10-2008, 09:28 PM
staffsMike

Re: "The One"

All I meant is that SIM is the one I consider perverted enough to use that smily lol
10-10-2008, 09:38 PM
SiM

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by staffsMike

All I meant is that SIM is the one I consider perverted enough to use that smily lol

Nah, you meant I make you feel good baby :naughty:
10-10-2008, 09:41 PM
matty-hodgson

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by SiM

Nah, you meant I make you feel good baby :naughty:

that is quite obviously the truth!
don't try and deny it.
10-10-2008, 09:44 PM
staffsMike

Re: "The One"

:surrender: :laugh:
11-10-2008, 12:24 AM
Rave

Re: "The One"

Nah, don't believe in it. I know what it's like to be totally in love with someone, and totally obsessed with them- because they were the subjects of my unrequited love. My feelings for my wife never built up to that level, because....when I asked her out, she said yes.

We clicked immediately, and got engaged within about 4 months. While we were engaged, there was an evening that made me realise that I was properly in love with her, and that I was doing the right thing. We're still married after 5 years, although there have been plenty of times when it has been hard.

I agree with Nick- if you find someone who is good for you, stick with them and work at it. And if you're single and don't want to be, date people even if they don't immediately make your heart skip a beat. There's a big difference between lust and love, and IMO, for intelligent folk like the majority of Hexites, it's your partner's personality that will hook you and keep you hooked.
11-10-2008, 12:32 AM
shadowmaster

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by SiM

Nah, you meant I make you feel good baby :naughty:

:surprised:

Anyhow........the ONLY way a man can satisfy more then one women at a time, is to have a really really really big

Wallet
11-10-2008, 12:37 AM
floppybootstomp

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rave

it's your partner's personality that will hook you and keep you hooked.

There is so much truth in that statement, believe me.

In my time I've been a fool over having trophies, it never works, it's a quick rush and it's shallow.

You'll know when you've found your soulmate, she'll make you laugh and you won't be able to wait to see her, you won't be able to wait to sleep with her.

I made mistakes, let a couple of gems slip through my fingers.

Looks ain't everything. Although it helps, hehe
11-10-2008, 02:56 AM
Rave

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by floppybootstomp

Looks ain't everything. Although it helps, hehe

Yes indeed. You can't base a relationship on personality alone. You've got to want to jump them from time to time:p.
11-10-2008, 04:10 AM
j1979

Re: "The One"

i voted for "STFU and get some sleep godammit! Looooser"

and then the very next morning, i saw her!!!

i was waiting for the tram to work in sheffield, my tram came but it was sooooo full i decided to wait for the next one, she also walked upto the tram door and then changed her mind about getting on. i was about to say something to her..like " oooooo the trams are full today, wonder why" but without eye contact it was impossible + i would have looked like a random nutta anyhow. she turned the other way without noticing me and walked to the other side of the tram stop!!!

she got on the next tram, the same as me, but she was sat miles away. never mind i thought, but as i stood up to get off at my stop, so did she, she was in a hurry tho and i didnt see where she went. so i just thought to myself, "ohh well, another wasted opportunity".... and got on with my working day. But then i saw her at work in the same office block as me..amazing!!

im making this my new mission to find out who she is, where she came from and if she like stalker type guys!

man im in love...what else could it be???
11-10-2008, 04:35 AM
Rave

Re: "The One"

Well if she works in the same office block as you, you're in a with a chance. I mildly stalked my wife before I chatted her up, she didn't seem to mind:thumbsup:.

Good luck mate!:)
11-10-2008, 06:26 AM
2Cold Scorpio

Re: "The One"

I've met my "The One" and am extremely happy. :D
11-10-2008, 10:43 AM
staffsMike

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rave

Well if she works in the same office block as you, you're in a with a chance. I mildly stalked my wife before I chatted her up, she didn't seem to mind:thumbsup:.

Good luck mate!:)

Common theme I think.. But I think we both mildy staked each other without knowing it in my case :laugh:
11-10-2008, 11:20 AM
0iD

Re: "The One"

You mean SiM isn't 'The One' :o ;) :p
11-10-2008, 11:22 AM
staffsMike

Re: "The One"

Well he does like Arrested Development... But no lol
11-10-2008, 11:28 AM
0iD

Re: "The One"

That's enough about your deviant sexual practices young man :crazy:
11-10-2008, 11:40 AM
staffsMike

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by 0iD

That's enough about your deviant sexual practices young man :crazy:

:laugh:
11-10-2008, 08:16 PM
Honoop

Re: "The One"

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rave

There's a big difference between lust and love, and IMO, for intelligent folk like the majority of Hexites, it's your partner's personality that will hook you and keep you hooked.

Couldn't have said it better myself Mr Rave.

As many of us know relationships are hard work and everyone has been in one that we knew wasn't working despite the fact that you loved that person, but I do believe that when you meet 'the one' just know and everything before falls into insignificance and when it gets hard you can work through it instead of it all falling apart. You can't do that without personality, without looking up occasionally and watching your other half doing something normal and finding a grin on your face.

I've found the one and we're very happy. :)
(about bloody time too!)
11-10-2008, 08:47 PM
fuddam

Re: "The One"

FWIW, 'the one' is a choice, not a person

When you choose to marry someone, they become 'the one', whether you later on regret it or not.
Love is a choice, not an emotion.

problem is, so many people marry because they expect the spouse to 'complete them' or some other bollocks. Truth is, what are YOU going to *give* when you get married? Focus should be on your spouse, not yourself (and likewise for them).
11-10-2008, 08:58 PM
mediaboy

Re: "The One"

If we're getting techincal then love is actually chemicals released in the brain......

So surely if "The One" walks past then we're not actually falling into anything but rather stimulating the creation of hormones and chemicals that have a drug-like effect on our bodies and minds.

People in love are on drugs!!

Or at least, are using them, even inadvertantly.

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