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Poor Fraggie :( - you'll eventually be okays but obviously its going to hurt now.
I'm down atm re:love life cos the person I want so bad (n i *think* wants me bad) is soon going away and tbh, I have this feelign deep down I'm going to miss my chance :(
yeah, try and get on with things as best you can. first full-on relationship for you I'm guessing? I'm not going to judge but if things went sour then you probably deserve better and something more stable...either way yeah, it sucks and you can't understand anything about why,what and are coming up with tons of 'if onlys'...but try and get on with what YOU like to do.
you play computer games, cool, or watch loads of cool dvds (the entire volumes of simpsons and futurama back to back ought to do it!! or even something sadistic like League of Gentlemen!) stick on some really loud music that you can't help but smile at or jump around the room like a loony cause you're having a good time...! or perhaps go out and see some friends you've not seen for ages - just about anything to keep you from sticking in one place where you're likely to dwell on things that may make you upset. Ok so I'm assuming you had some really good times with this person, nothing wrong with that but take those accepting you had a good time but also accept its over and you must move on. the faster you show everyone you're moving/moved on the better you'll feel - really. I know lots of us have been there by the replys here, and as harsh as it sounds I think its something pretty much everyone should go through; like losing a partner, best friend or someone you're very close to...its just how life is I'm afraid.
lots of people have said 'sorry for ya mate, you'll get better soon', and yes its true. you'll probably never forget it but it will get much better. I was in similar situation as yourself, thought everything was crap them immersed myself in things I loved to do, surrounded by my mates and generally had fun; going out, cinemas, days out...anything really, and you pick up. I'm so pleased to have so many friends, after all thats what they're there for and no doubt you'd do the same for on of yours.
drowning sorrows isn't always the best thing but if you're on a night out who's gonna stop you from having a good time? and HAVE a good time, live now not then. if it helps - and i hope it does - think of it this way; you only have one life so make the most of it.
and the comment earlier about women being like buses is, more often than not, utterly true [no offence to the ladies here :)] - understanding you're not in the mood for it at the mo' but one will come along soon enough. and in true public transport fashion it'll be two or more that show up at once!!
so take it easy and surround yourself with friends and have loads of fun over the next few weeks, moping around only prolongs it. be a dude, dude :D
ive heard several times since monday what a nice guy you are :) this stucks doesnt it? and its a horrible horrible experience, but unfortunately like shiato storm has said, something that we all need to experience and at the end of it all you will be the stronger person and better for it :)
Make the most of the lighter nights, get out on ya bike if you have one... spend some time with old friends, keep in touch with the current ones - remind them u exist if need be ;) in a few weeks time, or maybe months things will be easier and not as painful. Hey u never know, u may discover us females arent so bad afterall :P
Good luck, remember if you wanna whinge were listening :)
my mates all live quite a way away and cus its easter thier all goin away on hols, think im the only 1 who aint goin newhere,
yeh shiato, shes my first big relationship really, thing that gets me thinkin is that she is the first person to have ever liked me like that, and i cant help but think that im doin sommat wrong and other women wont want me either, jus in fear of lonelyness, prob sounds total crap
ive had some gr8 times with the said lady, whenever i think back to em or anytime at all with her all i get is heartache, but i cant stop it :/
o and lynni all i heard at the lan is "o ffs fraggie" :P and people calling me a b*stard generallly hehe :P, ahh well, i kno all i can be is myself, but living in fear of people not accepting u for who u are is always there, the fact that i kno i changed whilst goin out with her is there aswell, i dunno if its for the better or worse
if people cant except you for you are, then they arent worth knowing!
What changes did you make upon yourself when going out with her? me and tumble have both changed, in more ways then one mostly for the better :)
And just going back to the LAN u was compared to zak33, if u have ever met this guy then u will know thats a huuuuuuuge compliment from my man :)
ok, I see where you're coming from. I too felt the same about 5 years ago now.
first thing; THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.
secondly; ANOTHER [possibly fitter ;D] GIRL WILL FALL FOR YOU
lastly; don't think of pink elephants...damn, well what did you do? exactly. occupy your mind with something else and it'll feel a whole lot easier.
first time break ups are sh*ty. mine happened in paris, under the eiffel tower when learned of her cheating ways - b*tch. so that was a wonderful experience i must say...glad to see the back of her to be honest but it still oddly hurt. for me I'v had several since and as much as I recall I simply said 'yeah, what ever, bye now'. i just don't take rubbish from people and realise why should we be treated baddly?
no one's the same but we all have ups and downs. on the positive side of all this you now know what YOU want out of life, right? the worst thing in a relationship, i think, is to lose sight of what you want to do and merely go along with what works best for both of you. what kind of life is that? learn from what didn't go quite right and realise you don't have to put up with any crap from anyone. plus chicks dig guys who do their own thing yet pay attention to them when it matters...
what i did: I got back into my rowing, training hard etc and got better and better, the following season was probably one of the best I ever had. so what ever you are into knuckle down to it - say 'sod the rest of the world' and be bloody-minded about it. toughen you up and soon you'll be surrounded by more chicks than Hugh Heffner! :) at least, thats what I felt like, mind you it could have been cause I was feeling particularly horny several times whilst drunk - everyone loves you then ;) though I never have worn those beer goggle things people mention, guess I've got a pretty good eye for detail!
sorry, just wanted to cheer ya up ::gun shot to own head::
no, its a kick in the teeth right now but you'll mend up stronger than before. and forget feeling lonely, you've got everyone here man :) no, seriously though the more you do stuff with others the less lonely you'll be. make friends closer to you even! might even meet a nice girl, be less lonely then!!
aww tumble is one of the nicest blokes ive had the fortune to meet, ure a lucky gal, when i spoke to u on the phone u thought i was weird tho... admit it :p lol
Just thought id release some feelings and i write a few poems so thort id write a shortun, its a bit crap but i jus needed to release the feelings
The pain the burning and all the aching
Cant get much sleep, constantly waking
All the well wishes, stories and advice
I wish that all of this made me feel nice
Its going to take time, of that i already know
But when feeling like this, time goes o so slow
Ill get over it, maybe weeks months or years
But knowing this doesn't dry my tears
If i cud wish for one thing at this time it would be this
A caring loving hug and a sweet tender kiss
um, well...as far as the hug + kisses goes I can't reeeally offer that (besides it being a bit weird) but instead go eat loads of chocolate cookies followed by pizza and beer. guarenteed to make you better. or fatter, perhaps both but i can never remember...
oh and Mum's are good at cheering up, or even sometimes dads have funny stories about when they were young...
want a neat way on how to skip a few hours into the future? ok, lie on the floor in a quite place, close your eyes and keep them closed. a couple of hours in to the future later you'll wake up, trouble is I haven't worked out how to go back yet but there you go...
:)
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Originally Posted by fraggie
Did i speak to you? i remember speaking to someone, but didnt realise it was you, sorry if i sounded abit off :o last weekend was a sleep deprived one for me... :(
And that poem is really sweet :) its not crap at all, its what your feeling :)
yeh im bill hehe, im the one who threw the ball at tumbles head :D lol :P
well, tbh m8 its a first time relationship thing, I dunno why but whenever some1 gets their first partner they allways turn into some soppy romantic goon, after it all goes tits up (and it usually does as you can see from the replys here) It hurs bad but soon you will make sense of it and realise what you want out of a girl. shaito is very right, only way now is onward really. I personally channeled all of my energy into getting lashed for like 4 months solid with my mates (but to be fair I actually dumped her and the whole thing was more like a celebration) still missed her and stuff and had the same worries because Im not the most attractive bloke ever. Basicaly I just did my own thing for a bit enjoyed the freedom and before I knew it I had a younger fitter and more fun girlfriend! mate, If I can manage that without even trying any1 can, its women they are horny beasts! get yourself out there and meet some, also you said your mates are going on holiday, that is probably just the thing for you!
although, when I was 19 my mate split with his g/f because she realised she was lesbian, well he didnt take it very well and was very sensitive about it. he came on holdiay and moped around and had no fun at all, now he is seeing some moron who treats him like dirt. basicaly this is what will happen to you if you let your confidence drop, you will end up with some1 that does not respect you. think about it like this, you already pulled one girl and got all jiggy, should be easier second time round. (and I promise you it is.... usually)
on a side note - he broke up with a lesbian? before he asked if he could join in - man that was dumb...[sorry everyone, just had to give the typical blokes reply :)] - and letting someone treat him like poo?! sheesh! life's too short for that!
yeah, if you mope around its the worst thing - chicks hate that, they like a guy who's confident and knows what he wants. you'll get there in a very short while i susspect, don't fret :)
tough break fraggie :/ Chuck your mobile away for a while, jump in a car and drive around to 'In the middle' by the sugababes. I can even lend you a car if ya want :D
When a similar thing happened to me, I went and stayed with a mate at uni for a bit, just to be elsewhere. That is all I really did. I didn't bother trying to cheer myself up, I kinda resigned to the fact it was gonna suck for a while. Probs not the best way, but I got there.
Well, like I said at the LAN, you're a good lookin' fella... if ever I decide to bat for the other side, you can come round and pick up the soap in my shower any day! :D
not really comforting :|