http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/8515592.stm
So some women believe some rapE victims should take responsibility for been violated.A majority of women believe some rape victims should take responsibility for what happened, a survey suggests.
Almost three quarters of the women who believed this said if a victim got into bed with the assailant before an attack they should accept some responsibility.
The problem is that some of this could well be the classic shame that is felt by some textbook cases. But that said there are plenty of cases where girls have been drunk, in the presence of a guy who has been drunk and said no at the 11th hour so to speak. I know this has happened to me, the difference I guess is i took it personally and went in to retreat rather than just carried on.
However, I still think from my personal experience dealing with victims there are too many people whom spout a lot of very negative conditioning, telling people its the worst thing that can happen etc.
I remember when doing a short child protection course, plenty of my peers couldn't understand why they where been told never to criticise actions that might have been carried out on the child, never make the child 'feel' like anything is wrong. Leave it for the pros to explain, otherwise you risk serious damage. This was to the point of them doing in part of a roll play exercise people been told to react with a straight face to some shocking scenes.
What I'm getting at is as we are a more open and sexually liberated society, moving from a girl who was raped been labelled as a whore and shunned, to a horrific victim, to someone who was 'asking for it' to people hopefully been able to take a balanced view.
By this I mean if we can get the more guys approach, I doubt I'm in a minority where at one point I got far too drunk whilst bitterly alone and slept with someone I wouldn't dream of if I was sober (no she wasn't welsh). I was in a horrificly mortified state of shock which was eased by the fact that physical protection had been used (thou not a hazmat suite which would have been my pref) and just stopped drinking for a month, despite wanting the juice to black out that event more than ever.....
Now I'm not saying that this is remotely the same as the really shameful acts some people suffer, but I think its important we have some sense of proportion.
At uni it wasn't un-common for always the same girl to send me + corridor buddy a text asking us to help evict someone, she'd invited back, got drunk at their expense then changed her mind.
You have to treat that differently to someone who was held a knife point in her own home (an ex of mine).
As soon as people can really understand the difference of circumstances, remove any sense of guilt that a victim often feels.
So the question is the result of this poll showing a good trend, a bad trend, or no change really?


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