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    Why right?

    This is by no means slagging my other half off ok? honestly im not, love the guy to death

    But why do blokes leave things to the last minute? Its our first year together tm and on thursday i said to him 'got me a card?' his reply was 'hehehe maybe ' so of course i got myself all excited!! and then this morning when we was in bed, he admits to me that he hasnt cos he hasnt had the time this week to either make me one or buy me one

    Now my thinking is he has know about tm for the last month...... why do blokes leave stuff to the last minute and then feel guilty?

    Hes gone out atm, im assumeing hes in town buying me a card cos he wouldnt let me go with him!!

    Just wanted another perspective on it would u have been annoyed if your guy did that to you? I wasnt, cos i didnt see the point in being annoyed with him when he already felt bad about it


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    I'm terrible for forgettign cards and stuff like that - its a very femenine trait.
    Amy will getsomeone a card at the drop of a hat - I've ben living with my housemate for 4 years now and enither of us has ever echanged a single card , be it birthday christmas , easter etc. Not because we dont like each other , but its just not a "guy" thing

    I'm afriad you'll just have to face it , blokes are crap with cards
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    Ah Bless ya Lynni!!

    You know that Tumble is bound to come back from town now with something more than a card with any luck.
    Im sorry but Guys are notoriously BAD at this stuff. Not all guys, but MOST guys. And sometimes the only way is to drop hints. Ive been married and I used to make sure that I put EVERY important event on the calendar and then talked about it non-stop in the weeks leading up to it so that he had no excuses for forgetting. Plus if he did I had a wicked way of making him feel bad, because I remembered and may well have done something totally nice and thoughtful for him - with nothing in return.
    Then commences the work of a man desperately trying to dig himself out of the hole he has fallen into, all by forgetting to do something small and meaningful to make 'his woman' feel special!
    Ok - so that makes me sound like a bit of a b*tch, but thats not the case at all. Its just a fact that us women like to be made to feel special and no matter how much of a brave face we put on, or how many times we say that it doesnt matter - deep down it really does. It only takes some small gesture to make us smile and feel special but it is soooooo worth it.

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    Oh Lynni!

    That's a good question really! Hm, I really don't know, maybe because they're nervous and don't know what yto get and like thinking: "well I'll get something soon, I just have to come up with something really great".

    Well, since it's your first year together..I think it was a bit bad of him..and I don't really know how I would feel if my b/f forgot something like that. But I guess that I would be a bit sad/angry at first, beacuse I would think that he should see the "importance" of it. But I think I would forgive him though If he did go out and buy me something..in the end!

    Well, the most important thing is love though! So if you get that, that's the biggest gift! I know it sounds like a cliché.. ops: But it's true .

    I hope you guys will have a wounderful day together!
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    Barry constantly *forgets* to get me cards for things, although he has got better over the last 2 years. He still doesn't think to get me cards/pressies from the kids, for example for Mother's Day I got a card our oldest son made at school, but that was only from him. Our daughter's nursery didn't make them () and our youngest is still at home all day but even though I had gone on and on about it for 3 weeks before I still didn't get anything

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hidden Spirit
    Barry constantly *forgets* to get me cards for things, although he has got better over the last 2 years. He still doesn't think to get me cards/pressies from the kids, for example for Mother's Day I got a card our oldest son made at school, but that was only from him. Our daughter's nursery didn't make them () and our youngest is still at home all day but even though I had gone on and on about it for 3 weeks before I still didn't get anything
    Aww..poor you! . I hope things will turn out better, but I hate that kinda situation. Becuase I don't wanna go on and on about something like that, at least not too much..it'll just make me feel self-centred, which I don't like. So I always hope someone will tell him so or even better..that he remeber it by himself .
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    Quote Originally Posted by Moonshade
    Oh Lynni!

    That's a good question really! Hm, I really don't know, maybe because they're nervous and don't know what yto get and like thinking: "well I'll get something soon, I just have to come up with something really great".

    Well, since it's your first year together..I think it was a bit bad of him..and I don't really know how I would feel if my b/f forgot something like that. But I guess that I would be a bit sad/angry at first, beacuse I would think that he should see the "importance" of it. But I think I would forgive him though If he did go out and buy me something..in the end! :t
    no your wrong there he hasnt forgotten, hes been going on all bloody month about this 'date' in may.... its more of a cashflow problem tbh, hes just insured the car and has gone through the bottom of his overdraft as a result..... he doesnt need me making him feel bad about the situation, as hes feeling crap enough. He will sort this out make it upto me next month
    Im ok though the sun is shining, its a gorgeous day and were together.... i dont need a card


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    Ok - so the point of this thread was..........................?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Honoop
    Ok - so the point of this thread was..........................?

    because i wanted to know why blokes cause themselves and their missus so much trouble, why cant they realise that the key to no trouble is organisation?


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    It's a bloke thing.

    We're sorted here... I remind him endlessly about things he needs to remember, and he occasionally does.

    Women Organise, men ummm.... what do men do?

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    Quote Originally Posted by tiggerai
    It's a bloke thing.

    We're sorted here... I remind him endlessly about things he needs to remember, and he occasionally does.

    Women Organise, men ummm.... what do men do?
    Create chaos

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    bleh.. it'd be a dull world without any chaos... besides.. I did get her a card. made by my own fair hand.. with a little help from mother

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tumble
    bleh.. it'd be a dull world without any chaos... besides.. I did get her a card. made by my own fair hand.. with a little help from mother
    yes u did that and a very nice card, it is too


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    I think its just an inherrant bloke thing. It's in the Genes to forget cards/flowers/presents etc.

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