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    Life, and incessantly planning ahead

    I'm often told by people that I spend more time talking about where I want to be in a year's time than I do about what I'm doing currently.

    I've noticed that I tend to be very critical about what I'm putting up with, and what I'm making do with, and idealise about some period in the future when it will all be fine.

    At school I looked to 6th Form to give up all of the pointless subjects I hated, at 6th Form I looked to University to get away from all of the domineering teachers and childishness I hated, at University I looked to work to get away from running up and down the country with no place to actually call home, and I'm sure at work I'll be looking at the next year/promotion/company to get some more money and presumably a house/car/hilariously expensive TV. Generally whatever problem I anticipate will go away, does go away, but it's replaced with something else.

    All the while, I notice, I struggle to appreciate whatever I'm doing in the present.

    I don't think there's anything wrong with planning, or indeed dreaming, but the latter point about appreciation is a bit concerning.

    Am I on my own here?

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    Re: Life, and incessantly planning ahead

    Life could be worse,mate - someone might need to be taking time out to look after someone, at the expense of their own future,for example(or make other sacrifices for another person),which means plans might not work out for example.

    So,do plan ahead to a degree,but also think of the now also,lest it rushes past you.
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    Re: Life, and incessantly planning ahead

    "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans" to quote John Lennon.

    Keep striving; it is the way. Oh, and enjoy the blessing of good health.

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    Re: Life, and incessantly planning ahead

    Also, it's always good to have something to look forward to, and/or to be working toward something.
    You may just have that ingrained into your attitude but could do with looking around yourself at the current positives too.

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    Re: Life, and incessantly planning ahead

    I think you'll always be like that, and there isn't anything really wrong with it.

    And often it isn't until you have a family that you realise what exactly it is you have and, in a lot of ways, stop trying to get bigger and better things. I know that happened to me, I was quite materialistic, always looking for the next "upgrade" of one sort or another (car, flat, life, etc.). Not only can I not afford that now, it just doesn't interest me as much, my priorities have changed.

    Better to be looking forward to the next jump up that being content to just sit there and take what you are given. As long as you aren't a **** while doing it

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    Re: Life, and incessantly planning ahead

    Quote Originally Posted by snootyjim View Post

    Am I on my own here?
    I'm exactly the same by default, though I've been working on living in the moment a bit more.

    Nothing wrong with being goal driven as long as you try and keep it positive (looking forward to a luxury for eg.) rather than being insecure about the future, but those insecurities are entirely natural as well, just don't let them dominate.

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    Re: Life, and incessantly planning ahead

    To quote the great Ferris Bueller:

    Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

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    Re: Life, and incessantly planning ahead

    I've always found this useful: No matter what happens, the only day in which you can achieve anything is today. Therefore, if you spend all day planning and thinking and the next living, you will only live half your life. Of course, planning is important in achieving the greater things. So what then? The answer is make plans for the future that are practical and get going today. Figure out where you want things to go, then how you can make it happen, and if you can do it today, then do it. If not, do it when you can. Just always make the most of today - either in building towards the future, or enjoying the big and little things of each day. Be productive in any and every way, and you will have lived your life.

    Once you're active and productive, the questions that follow are just a matter of priorities. Figuring out what is most important, and pursuing those things with the limited time and resources you have. Sort of like -live as though your life was an RPG. You only have so many skill points and slots. Figure out your class/race/role, and build towards it. You might have to re-roll sometimes, but that's the adventure. Worst thing is not building at all. Additionally, generally speaking, general builds are the least playable. Better to focus on a few build trees rather than attempting to be good at everything.

    Last of all - don't despise the small stuff. Savour every moment and detail that you can.
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    Re: Life, and incessantly planning ahead

    Yep, I'm afraid real life often gets in the way of real life, all my wonderful plans all came to naught, although I did get to retire early at 49, only 9 years after my long ago set date.

    Over the rainbow is a wonderful place. Rarely visited though.

    You have my full empathy
    Cheers, David



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