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About LinkBacksChaps, need advice on what stuff I can talk to with my gf on the phone.
There's too many silent moments when we talk and both of us keep saying "So..... whats up ? " that's not good at alll!
So, basically need topics we can talk about
Chaps, need advice on what stuff I can talk to with my gf on the phone.
There's too many silent moments when we talk and both of us keep saying "So..... whats up ? " that's not good at alll!
So, basically need topics we can talk about
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I've been married 13 years and still don't know how to have a conversation with the wife over a phone, but I do know that saying things like, "I read a really interesting article on a new GPU on the web today", will generally not go very far.
I tend to find that once the how was your day today? question has gone and the what did you do? etc... that there's not much left. I've even tried things like what was the funniest/most interesting/shocking moment in your day to also not carry very far as a topic.
You might want to try and remember some of the questions she asks you and then start asking them to her first. Also talk about her plans for tomorrow, the coming week. It's usually ordinary, mundane stuff like she needs a new toothbrush etc... but then there's a talking point there, toothbrushes, toothpaste, dental hygene etc... "I remember that time at the dentist when I took a blast of laughing gas while the dentist was on the phone" sort of thing. Or if you find out she's been shopping as her what she bought, how she is planning to cook it (assuming she didn't buy an internal combustion engine or something else not food related).
Essentially if you have nothing to say to her, find ways to get her to talk instead by asking her questions that need longer answers, or if you are the one that's done the shopping you could say that you bought some *enter ingredient/ingredients* and wondered what ideas she had to cook them (might not be such a clever question if you bought stir in spaghetti sauce). That's something my wife does a lot, when she has nothing to say, she tried to find a way to make me talk.
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I'd have had you down as the kind of man who favoured the hooker.
On Topic, what shared interests do you have? What things do you have that you are really passionate about. I end up talking about photography and painting as those are her hobbies, and I'm almost becoming cultured now.
Another thing is if either of you have some kind of goal or challenge you are doing, could be from learning a new language to loosing weight to beating your best time, it's easy to relate to such things
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Talk about what interests you. Ask her about things that you know interest her. If you don't know her interests then find out. If your interests bore each other to death then maybe it's saying something...
How often does she phone you ?
Talk about things that your both interested in, for example, me and my girlfriend both like to 'try' and cook although I'm much better of course!
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Talk little and often. You can then keep it to the banalities, but it does depend on your personality types (i'm introvert, shes down the middle). Only times i've had long calls is when she basicaly talks at me and her banter was so entertaining I didn't get bored...
I've yet to see your paintings .
I don't paint, it's her hobby! I might be able to dig out a genuine TA from 1991 if demand is met.
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TOPICS guys , topics.
I have already talked about these topics with her :
MOVIES
FOOD ( Now, she thinks I am a foodie! )
FUTURE AROUND THE WORLD TRAVEL PLANS
What are your common interests? How long have you known her? Does she work - sometimes just asking her about that is good - especially if she has had a bad day.
The other thing is that it is often hard to end a conversation when the conversation halts (without it leaving a bad feeling) so you need to plan an exit strategy, so you can wind up a conversation without it feeling forced.
The obvious one is - "Hey just seen the time, I have to do .... but I'll call you at/on/soon [to...] "
or whatever is appropriate for you.
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I'd think he liked the loose end, or the tight end....
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Talkings overated. If your not someone who talks alot she should probably get used to it, that is after all 'you'
I don't like talking on the phone, or texting. Be it gf or parents, mot interested so try to avoid.
I can't talk over the phone, I become the most akward person ever. Texting however, I usually feel confident even then, I sometimes become akward
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