I'm closing this thread now - shame - but another casualty of the wider insoluble leave/remain debate.
And I need to consider my position, because if I can't resolve a difference between members whose diverse views I respect and like, then I'm probably not doing it very well and - even as an unpaid volunteer - I want to do things well.
Trying to resolve people's differing (and legitimate) sensitivities is just too emotionally draining.