I feel slightly bad even just to post this in these times (COVID and such). Apologies in advance to those who could find offense.
I have a friend who's in a relatively new relationship. His old relationship of 13y ended because he wasn't happy how he was treated.
Recently his new partner had a massive argument with him for the following reasons:
- she was drafted into a team challenge at work to count steps during the lockdown
- she feels that she was bullied into the challenge, although it wasn't compulsory. Let's call the person doing the bullying Person X. The bullying consists of basically guilt tripping and public name & shame - saying things like "...and this person haven't really managed to do much again, if anything at all..."
- apparent fat shaming has been mentioned by the hands of Person X but the only comment was saying she did 20 steps a day so that trip to the kettle and back must've been hard - no direct fat shaming as far as I know (but then that's subjective)
- my friend didn't reacted to the whole ordeal as she would've wanted him to react (for example he didn't called the Person X names, despite his own views and moral standards, he didn't called the ordeal oppressing and fat shaming and found some of the comments by Person X even funny)
- to this his new partner has said he is a letdown, he should've reacted the way other friends of her have did and he should've not find things funny said or posted by Person X
- she told him then she won't change her personality for him or anybody. So if he expects her to join similar challenges in the future or things she's not happy about, he can break up with her (the good old 'I won't change for anybody')
Unfortunately I can't say I'm an expert in human relationships so I need to ask a wider audience - is it just me or does it looks like there's an impossible or at least immortal request placed upon him? By asking and demanding him to react in a certain way to situations not in alignment with his personality and morality? And wanting of him to change what he should and shouldn't find funny?


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