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I am so so sorry mate, I can only imagine how difficult it has been for you and having kids myself I definitely know how hard it must have been telling them.
There are not many things that can be said in times like this but if you ever need anything do let us know. Will pray the chemo gives you more time and will be thinking of you.
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Thanks for posting, you're a star.
Pancreatic is one of those ones we know so little about - I was on a call only last week with some guys at Harvard Mel who are trying to apply AI to the problem.
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So sorry to hear this and thanks for sharing with the community.
Enjoy whatever time you have with your family and make the most of every minute.
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We’ve never met in person, & I’m not even sure we’ve ever exchanged very many messages on Hexus, but I was incredibly shocked & saddened by your post about your cancer diagnosis. Sometimes words just aren’t enough. Life really can be so cruel; I can’t begin to imagine what you & your family are going through, but you are all in my thoughts & prayers.
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37 ! That simply is not fair. Words otherwise fail me.
Feel free to PM me if you need any help in here, that much at least, I *can* do.
David
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Life is short and long at the same time and I guess most of us just take our health for granted, I pray that God will give you healing so you can enjoy much more time with your wife and children than has currently been forecast.
I cant tell you what to do but I know from personal experience that forgiving people in your life that have wronged you and letting that go will help you ease any burdens you have allowing you more time to concentrate on your family as that is your most important thing.
I am wishing you all the best spacein_vader and f-off to the C word.
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Dear spacein_vader, I am so heartbroken to read you post, words can't fully express what and all i want to say.
I am just going to wish you a comfortable life and enjoy you precious and happy moments with you family.
Regards.
Vicar
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How very sad and hard to read, I'm the same age and was diagnosed with stage 4 appendix cancer last year.
Mine having a curable outlook it's very hard to appreciate what you must be going through.
Well done for being open & honest about it and more so publicly, in a way communicating with strangers can make it that little bit easier to talk to the ones you know and love.
If you need any help or advice based on my own experiences, or just to garner some recommended shows to watch, I would be more than willing.
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"Headscrew" is a good way to put it. There's not much anyone can say that'll help, especially given your age. and all I can suggest is to try to get to the point of acceptance, and to make every last minute count. And I'm sure you've already done that.
To everybody else, none of us know what's coming. Make the most of every day.
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Thats a lot rubbishrubbishrubbishrubbish
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Sorry to hear what has happened to both of you! :(
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Really sad news.
Very well written opening post, certainly makes you think.
So young makes it all the worse.
Hard to think or say, but cherish every moment.
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I\'m so sorry to hear the news. I had no idea you are only 37. :(
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Thanks all for your kind words. I\'ve had a couple of months to attempt to come to terms with it. Some days I do better with that than others.
The chemo at the minute is harder, more painful and more draining than the cancer but I dread the moment that changes.
Next month I have a scan. It\'ll be compared to the pre chemo scan to see if it\'s working. In turn that will give me a better idea how long I\'ve got.
I\'d really love one last Christmas with the family so hopefully the scan will give me that long. Pancreatic is so deadly because you often don\'t get symptoms till its too late. I started getting an upset stomach as the first sign in April, by which point I already had a 5cm tumour and spread.
I\'m trying to make the most of every day, been medically retired, my death in service, pensions and life insurance have all paid out so the house is secure for my family. Trying to make as many memories as I can.
Mentally is the toughest part, but you keep going for those you love.
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If you have a gofundme or something spacein_vader, I\'d love to donate. If you don\'t can we as a community do something for you? I\'d love it if we could arrange something for you, have a think - maybe an event day we could fund or something?