all sorted now, thanks :)
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all sorted now, thanks :)
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" mom the girl in liverpool u know the one qwe have spoke of... has arranged that one of her friends comes out with us and stuff.. and i take a friend that way ill be alot safer...
her mom had the same worries as u but she went and checked out the hotel and its all good... "
if that doesnt work
" mom going out to the pub and sleeping at * insert friends name here* house so wont be back hom for a while ttyl "
good ideas...ill try them...thanks :)
no probs had alot of practice at things like this the first one normally works.. and gets u brownie points for being concerned :D:D:D
i did that so many times when i was younger, when i didnt want to explain to my parents where i was going!
Im sleeping round ...'s house, the classic line. Althought i don't know if that would work if your going for the whole weekend.
Also, i wouldnt tell your mum everything, it might make her more against the idea
Phil
at the end of the day - its your life, do what you want , your 16 ! you can do what you want, it should be none of her business shes just worried for ya !
personally i wouldnt be bothered, 200 miles is a LONG way, and its just not worth it long distance never work, i had a girl who liked 20 miles away and we broke up fast because we never got to see each other enuff ! so 200 miles is even less likely but at the end of the day its your choice, if you love her GO for it
do what wiffle said, tell her one of your mates is goin as well, so youll be safe, make sure its a mate thats built well and say he can potect you if anything dodgy occurs
yeh- sleepin round your mates is a classic
but i said that
then she phoned my mate up ! she found out i was in XLs in town (rock club ! i was 15 at the time) i got in at 10 o clock and b*llucking rolled in :p
im not so sure about that, shes a very emotional person - would not her knowing how much this means to me swing her round maybe?Quote:
Originally posted by Lambbuster
i did that so many times when i was younger, when i didnt want to explain to my parents where i was going!
Im sleeping round ...'s house, the classic line. Althought i don't know if that would work if your going for the whole weekend.
Also, i wouldnt tell your mum everything, it might make her more against the idea
Phil
i cant really say im staying round a mates house cos she defo rings up...i can barely go out for an evening without her texting me to ask if im ok...
thanks for the advice tho :)
just like everyone else, i'm a big fan of the
"just off round <insert mates name here> for the night, back tomorrow"
served me well during my teenage years ;)
can't you arrange to stay at a mates house a few times beforehand, that way if she does check up on you & you are actually there & you can pull the
"will you PLEASE stop checking up on me, i said i was staying at xxx's house & thats where i am!!....don't u trust me or something?? how am i supposed to act in a trustworthy manner if you constantly treat me as though i am untrustworthy...rant....rant....etc...etc.."
a few episodes of this & she'll eventually beleive you are staying at your mates & won't want to get into another row so will stop ringing when u stay out - bingo! u are free to "stay at xx's house" and go where you please
NB - the author of this post cannot be held responsible for the consequences if u get caught :eek:
where in liverpool are u meant to be staying by the way??
Don't worry, I used to have someone on msn who lived in canada and met a girl in Israel and is now married to her. Btw he met her via icq :p
tellin em your stoppin at a mates is a classic. got me out of so much hangover b*llockings and nites out which i shall never describe on a family forum....
just tell her your m8's parents are ex-directory and don't want their number givin out, giv em your m8's mobile no., and when your mom fones, get him to say you're either asleep or in the loo or some rubbish. put fone down, mom gone, result.
you could try puttin your foot down with her mate. works for me sometimes.
or just bullrubbishrubbishrubbishrubbish her, up to you. good luck with the girl btw :P
say ur goin to a mates
say her phoneline dont work because there on 56k/phone lines been chopped
so give her the girl your goin to meets number, then shes female say shes i.e boris' mom,a nd its fine for you to stay, if she phones later to check up on you, just say, oh ill go fetch him, hes still upstairs on his mates pc or something, because then you can answer her phone to prove your at your 'mates' house not in liverpool
I wouldn't start a long distance relationship tbh, I'm in one atm and it's too much stress.
All this lying isn't a good idea tbh. If I did it, I'd spend the entire time constantly worrying if I was gonna get found out. Lol.
As Swafeman said, you're 16, you're responsible for yourself. True, you're not an adult and your mum still has a right to be fussy (Like mine...Lol) but if you can make her believe that you are more than capable of being sensible and looking after yourself, then she shouldn't be bothered.
it's a tough one - is she a similar age to you?
your mum is probably right to be concerned - esp. when you're 16...
don't give her an excuse to get worried - you'll find that things can go rapidly downhill from there.
How about seeing if you can find some sensible middle ground - a hotel or an area your Mum is happy with - remember you are 16, and most parents would be incredibly concerned about this.
Crikey - my mother only found out last year that my g/f and I met on AIM 4 years ago - and not through work as I'd told her!
She went white as a sheet, and I'm 28!
At any age you can still surprise your parents, and you really shouldn't lie to them - even little white lies have a way of coming back to bite you in the bum - I'd take it easy, do a couple of day trips. If it all works out okay, let your Mum meet the girl in controlled circumstances (i.e. easy to make a quick getaway if it all goes pear shaped with your Mum)
Not what you want to do, but then you should have nothing to worrry about.
if your mom knows you've been keeping things from her she will be against the idea of ever seeing her again. so tell her nothing and make sure you cover up really well. you can look after your self and your not a child. go and see her but take someone with you and make sure one of your other friends knows where you are incase something happens while you are away. as for your mom tell her the sleeping over at someones house line. :)
catherine
been there, done it, bought the tshirt, i'm in the middle of buying the obligatory keyring atm.
I went to a party last weekend, now, although i'm 19 and my mother KNOWS i can look after myself etc etc, she still came up with all these stupid excuses as to why i shouldnt go.
It was in leeds, so CLEARLY since it's so near bradford i'm going to get killed??? The house is going to be bombed??? and i'm going to get date raped with rophynol - by my friends....??????
so, since i've been here before and i KNOW how to work my mother, i just said that if any of that happens, it happens. But i assured her it wouldnt.
I think as long as you say u'll fone her and let her know u're ok and just act like an adult, she should be ok....
white lies can be forgiven or "forgotten to mention information" :D
parents - no matter how many times you tell them to get their noses out of your business, they always end up treating you like a child. and telling them that they do only makes it worse...
so I generally say nothing at all, zip, zilth, nada... that way they don't get at you for coming up with some insane (and normal youthful idea that their aged body is jealous of...)
parents; can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em...
cheers for all your help...i managed to sort it out now :)