Sorry ladies, putting this one to the fathers out there. Are (or were if they've grown up) you a hands on father or do you let the missus do most/all of the work?
Hands on being:
- Nappy changes.
- Bathing.
- Feeding.
- Settling when upset.
- Putting them down to sleep.
- Anything else you can think of.
Curious because in my closer group of friends with their first children, two of us are very hands on and do as much as we can while not at work while another two are "completely useless" according to their wives.
Eg. The wives got together for a catch up (gossip session) recently and one told a tale of how she left their 2 year old daughter in the care of her husband for two hours. She had arranged a baby sitter for 2 hours but she was 2 hours later home than expected so he had to take care of their daughter for 2 hours (4 total) by himself. This was the first time in 2 years he had to feed, wash and put her to bed by himself. He described it as one of the most stressful and intense 2 hours of his life. She gave him the "
WTF, I do this every day so quit your bitching" look.
EDIT: Sorry, this question is obviously aimed at the child when they're in their initial years. As they get older, well...whole new maze which I've yet to navigate.