when my husband died.. :(

[Baraquell]

when my husband died 3 month, my 15year old son suddenly changed.. he doesnt talk much, he wants to be alone and is not so much participative in class anymore ( as what the teacher told me )..
he used to be very participative and chatty..
i know its tough loosing someone you love.. i talk to him and every time tried to get him to counseling but it doesn't seem to work, he has not opened up his feelings yet.. should i push him or let him be ? the last few words his farther told him was to be a good boy, finish school and be a good citizen.. im scared of what he might do to himself and do stuffs that he will regret in the future.. he only has me left and life is unpredictable..

i want him to finish school, but its gonna hard..

i need help on what to do..

[0iD]

Transactional Analysis counseling is great for this kind of thing.

[Blaineoliver]

Its tough, I know from experience from a different situation, when my mum had cancer I just bottled it up and bolted myself away from the family. I know everyone reacts differently, all you got to do is hope that he has a friend to talk to if councilling isnt helping. I know that with some time I came around and started opening up. You will find if you press him too hard, he will resist your attempts and bottle up even more.

[IronWarrior]

I would recommend trying him to start a hobby or join a group, like the Army Cadet Force or start martial art like Kendo.

[razer121]

I would try to talk to him and if he doesnt want to talk leave him for abit, but take each day as it comes and try to keep up the asking if he is ok, and how is he feeling, or maybe even take him to the cinema etc, try to keep his mind busy and get him to smile, yes it will be hard but when i lost my dad i had the same kind of feelings, but that is how my mother helped me, although my dad is still around ive not seen him since 16 so effectivly lost him either way it may help, it may not, you can also talk to your doctor about it, they may be able to help.