Didn't I just correct someone on this yesturday?
The CPU is not 1066, that is the 'quad pumped' FSB, ie 4x the real CPU speed, which is 266. You even knew this yourself when you said 8x266=2.16ghz.
So let me make it really clear
E6*** Core 2 Duos run on a CPU clock of 266mhz
That means to run at 1:1 you are running your memory at 266mhz, which is DDR 533. It doesn't matter what your memory is rated at, if you say run at 266 it will run at 266.
If you want your memory to run at 400mhz (DDR 800) then you need to either overclock your computer so that everything is running at 400mhz, and run at 1:1. OR run your ram on a divider at 2:3 CPU:RAM so that your CPU clock is 266 and your ram is 400.
Where this option is on your motherboard I do not know. There may be a ratio selection, there may be a RAM speed selection, it might be listed in real speed, or in effective (DDR) speed, or it might be a percentage.