Heck for that cpu almopst anything will be fine.
even the old 945 or 915 will work, although there where reliability issues with them,which is probably the reason you're died
I know at work we've lost about three 945 motherboard in the last 3 months and some of the others have had other non-fatal issues.
However you may want to look at a half decent chips set, G31 or better, then at least you should have to option to later upgrade to one of the lowcost pentium dual cores or a 2nd hand core2duo
memory any 533mhz should be fine or faster, I'd look at a couple of these
http://www.scan.co.uk/Products/2GB-C...Unbuffered-CL5 or even just one for now
would not matter if you cannot overclock it, as you'd not need to to overclock the cpu.
Remember intel "quad pump" there cpu fsb, so the actual system fsb for that P4 is only 133mhz
That ram would also be fine if you upgraded cpu, to a pentium dual core or c2d as you could still OC at 1:1 ratio without going past the memorys rated speed.
ATX or non-ATX