I have had this ram problem with two separate motherboards.
I have a m4n82 deluxe with a phenom 940.
It will boot with two sticks of ram but not 4. 2 in yellow dual channel works and 2 diff. sticks in black channel works. Adding more ram makes my geforce 275 spin at 100%.
It's worth noting it does spin for longer but eventually shows post.
My ram is corsair pc2 6400 800mhz both 5-5-5-18.
What can i try. How do I know what a save NB voltage would be to set etc. Could it be that?