Ok i've been down to the local specialist retailer who was really helpful.
Looked at the Ixus800 agin and had chance to see a s80, and it is as bulky as i hoped it wouldn't be, HOWEVER it is a loveley malliable camera, fits right in my hands - just not in my pocket!!
Only other neg about it is the plasticky lens cover mechanism, but it's left me at a real crossroads - The S80 does everthing I want in 1 box, it's just slightly too big. The Ixus 800 is practically the same money (both can be had for just south of 300) and I guess thats the issue- if I want a point and shoot very compact camera do I drop the budget to 200 and plump for something like a Ixus 750 and then poss look at a DSLR in the future???
I could do with a weeks trial on each!! If only Carlsberg sold cameras
If I'm boring you guys feel free to switch off