One year ago, almost to the day, my missus and I got married
Neither of us are religious, and the registry office was nice. Good people, good place, nice atmosphere.
I struggled for many years with "weddings" and finally we got hooked because I wanted my son's mum and dad to have the same name and because, heartless as this sounds, we needed the financial security of sharing each others pensions, finances and life insurance policys.
I felt no need to tell the world that I loved her, and I was quite worried that she'd not understand but se did. And to be fair, as she'd been divorced before, it's pretty clear to the world that a marriage ISN'T forever, cos it's a bit of paper. her divorce proved that, didn't it?
I did feel (NOT by my missus) slightly forced into marriage to get the financial stability that english institutions hold us to ransom with...and my absolute devotion to my "now" wife shouldn't need proving with a date and a registrar..... but I digress
I overcame these (very strong) beliefs and we set the date I refused any visitors (not even Nick or DR knew about it until a few days before) and only parents and siblings came.
When we decided upon a date and a time to be wed, we started to choose some basics. Music to walk in with, music to play while people arrived (no, I didnt have anyone there except close family....no friends invited at all, my choice) and music to leave too.
This is where the debate begins.
I was NOT allowed to choose any music with religious connotations.
Why would I want too? After all, I'm not religious and this isn't a church.... but there are some really really fine classics that I loved and so did Sair...but they were rejected.
The Church, even NOW...was holding sway over MY wedding, away from the Church, by not allowing a marriage to take place with any hint of religious music. And whilse I agree that the NAME of a certain track is based around God, and that the genius who penned the piece believed it was a tune to hid "god" should that stop me enjoying it? Well...I assure everyone, I love lots of religious music and am a fan of Choral work from many Cathedrals.
We googled and googled and we found some quite good sites with the relevent music, but I have to say... I felt robbed. And I still do. One year later, it still makes me angry.
Why can a CHURCH play "Tie me Kangaroo Down Sport" if it wants too, but a Matrimonial Service in a Council Registry Office cant play "jesu, joy or mans desiring"?
Am I wrong to think this is madness? When people can get married underwater in googles and flippers, why cant they also listen to a hymn?
It got more complex, because apparently back in 2005 things were so bad that yuo couldn't listen to anything with the word Angel in it, or Heaven, so Robbie Williams and Bryan Adams had been out, until that peice of sillyness was removed.
But I DIDN'T WANT BLOODY ROOBY WILLIAMS...and I wonder what you all think?