Should you/Could you tell someone they smell?

[dontasciime]

Give them a card and a bath and sing happy birthday to them.

[HSK]

hmm yea sometimes this happens, i remember a girl in the office stank of BO.

I wouldn't bother saying anything to em, unless - i was working directly with them or around them for long times. then u have to say something or u cant work/or do whatever it is.

[Jokerdog33]

I had to do this in work with an employeee...... it very unpleasnt to broach the subject but its was pereferable to being unable to breath.

Best advice i can give is get someone else to do it : )

if that fails be direct and speak to them in private

[breezer]

I cant. Weve dropped hints to someone, but damn, he just doesnt take them. How can you not know that you smell bad for gods sake!!!!!!!!

[MadduckUK]

I cant. Weve dropped hints to someone, but damn, he just doesn't take them. How can you not know that you smell bad for gods sake!!!!!!!!

tell them but make out that it has just started today. then tomorrow someone can that the smells still there. this will be easier on you as it sounds like a casual just noticed statement, you could refer to different aftershave or as i said before - perhaps they stepped in something?

and its easier on them as they wont feel the embarrassment of knowing they have stunk up the office for months, they can quickly d something about it and they will think they got away with it

[breezer]

He has a bad BO problem though. All our friends know. He stinks. I mean i smell onn a hot day or if iv been doing something, but thats only if you put your nose right to my armpit, whereas he smells on a normal day and can smell it without being close.

[broadinscope]

You have to be cruel to be kind, but if i'm honest i'd probably say nothing and hope someone else does something :\

[mycarsavw]

You have to be cruel to be kind, but if i'm honest i'd probably say nothing and hope someone else does something :\

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[utdmleach]

Funny I should come accross this post, at the moment I've got a housemate who is the smelliest /dirtiest person I've ever encountered. I've lived here for four months so far and I've yet to see him enter the shower. He smells so bad that my mates girlfriend came over and actually gagged when she passed his room, which is nothing short of a complete tip. Flies started appearing in abundance, all orginating from this guys room.

The guy has made the lounge his second bedroom and has contaminated it with his vile odour, no one besides him has set foot in there for weeks now.

Today I was waiting in the queue at Tesco and two homeless gentlemen were standing infront of me and even they didn't have a fraction of the smell that this guy has.

I've dropped hints, so have the rest of the people in my house but the guy just doesnt care about anything. Hasn't been paying rent / heavily in debt too but that's a whole different story...

[G4Z]

humm, if it were I.. i would be less than tactful to be honest with you. In a work environment, conflict can be a problem but I would say that there is no so much of a problem at home. I mean, you avoid him already because he stinks so if you tell him and he takes it badly at least when you do see him you won't have to hold your nose.

One of my mates is known to be a bit of a stinker, I have known him go several days without a shower and he couldn't care less. If he is staying at my house (he lives some way away) for a weekend partying I will tell him to get his arse in the shower because I am not going out with a stinker. he doesn't take it badly and I understand that he is just terminally lazy, not really a scruff.

[TheAnimus]

He's behind on the rent? And he stinks? This is why i don't trust Gumtree

[CircusNinja]

you know, there could actually be a medical reason why they can't use deo?

I know some religious folk can't go near anything with alcohol in it (think they just use talcum powder instead). Everybody loves their own flavour!

Telling someone they smell is one of those universal "uncomfortable" discussions. I have similar issues asking someone to close their mouths when they chew. There are few things worse than that, when in the kitchen, trying to enjoy your meal.

[hypnoticstate]

i think if you know them well enough, you should tell them.