What would you do? (women related issues ahead)

[Lee H]

Well... its 3 hours since I got home from Clubland and I've yet to have any god forsaken sleep before I go to that lovely place called work.

I've just spent nearly all that time sorting out a major dillema, which in fact is not 1/2 sorted, but more a case of the worms are now level with the edge of the can and awaiting further orders.

I'll change the names to protect the parties involved (to spare their blushes) and name them as X and Y.

What has happened is X had been seeing this 1 particular girl - had being the word for a few months with the good ol' casual setup, which suited them both fine. However, for reasons unknown, X got cold and decided that this "girl" was not for him, ignored her texts, calls etc and politely said "hello" if we bumped into them while clubbing - Nothing more.

Well... lets throw the cat amongst the pigeons here now as my good mate Y knew X was no longer interested (or so we thought) so he had a nice dance, cuddle, dancefloor snog and exchanged phone numbers like civilised people do.

Now ... this is where it all goes Pete Tong.

X is now slagging Y off - to his face, saying all sorts of nasty things, and is truely deeply hurt by this mornings current events, saying all sorts of things like "he'd thought his mates would respect him more" etc, etc ( sorry... I lost focus at this point and watched the cat chase a ball of silver foil around the kitchen at high speed )

Now being the lovely person I am, I have calmed them BOTH down and they are still speaking now (just...) but I am personally fed-up with the situation. In true friend spirit I am going to help them solve this issue and this is where the infinite wisdom of you hexites comes into play.

Should I do 1 of the following ;

1) Tell X if he likes her to get a grip, tell her and if possible go back out with this girl.

2) Tell Y that he's out of order, ask him to respect X's wishes as a friend and wait for all this to settle down. Then later if he wants to see this girl in the future - try and get X and Y to discuss this ( they would - they're not the fighting type )

3)Get this girls number - give her a ring and tell her that X still has feelings for her from what I've seen tonight and tell her that both X and her need a damn good long chat, and quite possibly get X back with this lovely girl ( she is.... I'm not kiddin' )

4) Leave this to roll itself out causing god knows how many issues on its path but be there for both of them when the **** hit's the fan and sprays on the walls...

OR ... I could just "pretend" to ignore all the goings on ( my party trick after going to sleep with my eyes open ) and just coast from day to day deflecting any issues as they arise..

So... Hexites, What would you do in my predicament ?

[Lee H]

Bit confused as to whats going on there?

me too fella, me too

Women hey....what they like

[Lee H]

But if x hasnt been interested in this girl then he shouldnt be bothered.

Indeed... but the green eyed monster was awoken last night in the deep recess he calls his belly-button, probably right next to all the fluff and belly-button cheese...

Every time I ask him if he "likes" her - I get a mumble, a drop of the shoulders and the old line " I dunno..."

Crazy - I'll think I'll just go on a weekend session in the pub and avoid most the flack tbh sounds a better plan all round

[shelley bda]

Your friend sounds very confoozed, he obviously has feelings for her still

If i was you i'd deffo stay in the pub over the weekend, call 'em all together lock 'em in a room and tell 'em to sort themselves out, my experience of helping friends in their lovelives is they want your advice ( they don't listen ) they come crying to you when it all goes pear shaped ( again you give advice, they don't listen ) you just end up going round and round in circles stressing yourself out, it's not worth the hassle

[Lee H]

my experience of helping friends in their lovelives is they want your advice ( they don't listen ) they come crying to you when it all goes pear shaped ( again you give advice, they don't listen ) you just end up going round and round in circles stressing yourself out, it's not worth the hassle

Quoted for truth

Heh, talk about sad, I'm Mr looooove doctor to everyone else yet I can't even sort mine out ( ....should that say find a geeky girl who wants to whoop my ass @ FPS's )

I'm gonna call an emergency meeting with the pair of them later - in a public house as to avoid any fisticuffs and sort this pronto. Theres no need for them to argue really, and to ruin a friendship over a lady would be rather silly

[5cupa]

sounds like X needs to shut up. the girl was free and Y liked her so he took his chance...fair cop

[windog]

I think you missed one possible scenario...

Shut x & y in a darkened room, tell them not to come out untill they have sorted it out....

In the meantime, phone girl... take her out yourself.....

now you've got a fun situation

It does work as a solution, x&y would certainly be talking together ,plotting how they were going to smash your face in!

[Knoxville]

Shut x & y in a darkened room, tell them not to come out untill they have sorted it out....

That will only end in death

as far as I'm concerened she was fair game, if X has a problem its prolly more jealousy than real feelings, he shouldn't be slagging off Y for it. If X still has feelings for her then he should talk to her and let her decide what she wants to do because its not Y's fault he broke it off for seemingly no good reason.

[mr_anderson187]

But if x hasnt been interested in this girl then he shouldnt be bothered.

Bingo, i smell jealousy

leave them to it, or just tell X that he had his chance and now to wise up and move on

[TooNice]

I third the above.

Then again, it is kinda up to the girl. If she likes Y now, then there is nothing X can do, and he'll just have to take it as a lesson in life.

[Elmo]

i'd do number 1 and 2. I'm in a similar situation, it's a mess. but hey ho :/

[smtkr]

i'd do number 1 and 2.

I have to ask: Does that mean the same thing in the UK as it does in the U.S. (toilet humor)?

Anyhow, my advice is that you try to hook up with this lady as well. Why not have a third taking a dip?

[Elmo]

and you wonder why women get peeved with men?

[Nemeliza]

I have to ask: Does that mean the same thing in the UK as it does in the U.S. (toilet humor)?

Yes i does.

And in reponse to this post. The dude either still wants her or he may not like her in that way anymore but is just being a selfish attention seeker therefore not wanting anyone else to have her.

Tell them both to sort it out. If you want to step in and believe what your doing will be beneficial for both parties without bias then go for it. If you know you cant be fair as you already have a bias to one side then either choose your side or stay well clear. Either way dont get dragged into this un-necessarily i find people refuse to take advice as they are often blinded by their emotions on the situation. If you find this to be the case then sometimes it is better to just let them learn the hard way.

Havent read what i just typed so i hope it makes sense

[Knoxville]

and you wonder why women get peeved with men?

Because no-one likes people that are better than them....

Did I type that?

I only meant to think it.....

Oh dear god its happening again!

*runs away*

[ChrisC]

bet lee is Y