Dating Sites?

[Smokey21]

Hello everyone, good evening, what a beautiful night! Ive been drinking all day day so excuse the good mood.

Wanted to know everyone's opinion on internet dating and good sites to use? I go out a fair bit, but i never seem to meet girls, or should i say girls i want a relationship with. Iam by no means Calum Best, lol, im a little shy, so i think i could give it a shot?

Ive not had a proper G/f and iam getting a bit peed off! Im a nice enough guy, though they all say that i bet!

[Steve B]

i'd say the best chance for bagging a girl is to go out and get one, u cant just sit on ur arse in the pub and give them the eyes all the time. initiate conversation with them, if they're interested then they'll respond, if they're not, then u'll see the signals. Worst thing she can do is tell u to f*ck off but not everyones as polite as that

i vote no for internet dating sites!

[Knoxville]

Go out and talk to em mate, its far better than meeting people over the net, I met someone last year after she started messaging my bands myspace account and we'd been talking on msn and it just doesn't feel right tbh.

Having said that you wanna meet new people, check myspace.com out, I don't personally recommend it, but everyone and roberts their fathers brother has an account.

[Lee H]

Go out and talk to em mate, its far better than meeting people over the net, I met someone last year after she started messaging my bands myspace account and we'd been talking on msn and it just doesn't feel right tbh.

Amen

I went on a 'meeting' once with a girl who added me to her msn as she thought my comments on a friends MSN site were funny and she liked my style of humour.

anyway, turned out she was the usual bunny-boiler type and thus the moral of this story is get out and meet them in person. Your radar can usually detect these a mile off, but over a emotionless communication system such as MSN, etc you cannot gauge what they are like.

[djhworld]

Like others have said, the Internet is completely void of emotion, the stuff that defines a human being.

Go out and do it all yourself.

[chrestomanci]

You are all to traditional.

The problem with trying to meet girls (or guys) in a pub, is that you don't know who are looking for someone, and who are just there for a drink.

The advantage of with any any kind of dating site, (internet, or not) is that most people on there are after a relationship, so if you are serous, there is a much higher chance of finding someone.

Of course you might find someone online who turns out to be impossible once you meet them face to face, but that is a risk with any relationship.

My Cousin met his wife via an online dating site a few years ago, and they are very happy. Appart from the fact that they lived at opposite ends of the country so he had to travel a long way to see her everything went fine.

I am not saying that dating sites are the only way to go, and if you know a girl socially who you fancy then by all means go for it, but if you don't I think you would have more luck on an organised dating site, than hanging around pubs every weekend.

[Anders]

Depends what sort of people your local pubs attract. If they are anything like some of the ones local to me (e.g. Litten Tree ) then you’d be much better off using a dating website.

Websites offers access to a broader range of people, therefore the extremes of the people available are wider. In theory there will be more people similar to your tastes, unless your tastes are uber-confident rich supermodels.

You’ll still have to talk to the girls you meet online. Is the problem down the pub just making that initial "hello"?

[JPreston]

Why not let him use online dating, there's a whole industry sprung up to help socially awkward people (that's not intended as derogatory BTW) find like-minded people. Surely it's better for some (most?) to meet people with genuine similar interests rather than whoever happens to be down the local dive that night if a relationship is what he's after.

I've never used anything like that myself (I'm both gorgeous and charming ) but my brother-in-law's mate does. He's in his forties and only meets girls half his age, who all have kids - it's all a bit sleazy and 'car keys in the middle of the room' if you ask me but hopefully YMMV. So do be careful which sites you use, try not to pay too much up front because like anything else you could end up ripped off, but nothing ventured nothing gained at the end of the day.

[Anders]

Lol, brother-in-law’s mate, right ...

[Clunk]

He's in his forties and only meets girls half his age, who all have kids - it's all a bit sleazy and 'car keys in the middle of the room' if you ask me but hopefully YMMV.

Young Mothers May Vary.

[dancingtornado]

Yeah myspace.com is probably the best to find ppl that are into your stuff etc

[Funkstar]

I used uk.match.com for a while. Ended up seeing somone for about 5 months from there too. Not used it since, but i can work for some i guess.

[pp05]

My view is whichever route you go they are all just avenues. You still got to do the hard work of filtering out etc.. Once you find the right person it won't matter how/where you came to meet.

[fat jez]

My view is whichever route you go they are all just avenues. You still got to do the hard work of filtering out etc.. Once you find the right person it won't matter how/where you came to meet.

That's pretty much the way I see it. Sites like Match or Yahoo Personals are there just to increase your chances of meeting somebody. I was using Match last year but as it happens met the girl I began seeing through work, so disabled my profile. We broke up in May, so I reactivated my profile and one of my friends bought me 6 months membership as a present.

I like the fact that you can filter out some characteristics that don't appeal which you might not otherwise be aware of if you meet them down the pub and you also get an idea of what they enjoy doing. However, I have found that some of the girls on there have a major attitude problem in that unless you are like Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp, you never get a reply to your emails (so much for women going for personality over looks). Strangely enough, some of them still have active profiles on there from when I was on last year. I wonder why...?

Cheers,
Stephen

[Ravens Nest]

However, I have found that some of the girls on there have a major attitude problem in that unless you are like Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp, you never get a reply to your emails (so much for women going for personality over looks). Strangely enough, some of them still have active profiles on there from when I was on last year. I wonder why?

I am on match.com at the moment and thats exactly the problem i have been having, even woman how are nothing special to look at are looking for brad pitt or johnny depp and seem to be out for some sugar daddy to look after them.

Over a year and there profile is still on there, well that says it all really.



Actually im chatting to a girl i have meet on match.com at the moment, it's been really nice to have someone who's interested in me and she also lives in the local area.

Well it's been nearly 2 months for me on online dating, and i have tried 5 different dating websites, and here's my rating of them.

Loopylove (Complete waste of money, profiles from 2 years ago come up as new and it's as dead as a dodo)
Girlsdateforfree (Badly designed website, but a lot of woman on there as it's free for them to join)
UKsinglesconnections (Dead site, not enough people on there)
Meetic (Another dead site, with hardly anyone on it, but at least you know the people listed are still active unlike other sites)
match.com (Very expensive to join £77 for 6 months, but you get guaranteed extra 6 months if you dont meet somebody and loads of people on there and always active also the profiles are updated all the time)

So match.com for the win with girlsdateforfree a close second, the rest completely useless and misleading building your hopes up for nothing.

Hope this helps you smokey and good luck in meeting someone, we all need someone in our lives.

[fat jez]

I think this about sums it up. In fact, I'm almost tempted to leave this on my Match profile if I ever meet anybody and settle down. Or at the very least, send it to all those ignorant b*tch*s who never even sent a "no thanks" email.

“A shop that sells new husbands has just opened in, where a woman may go to choose a husband.

Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates.

You may visit the store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the attributes of the men increase as the shopper ascends the flights.

There is, however, a catch: you may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building.

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband -

On the first floor the sign on the door reads: Floor 1 - These men have jobs.

The second floor sign reads: Floor 2 - These men have jobs and love kids.

The third floor sign reads: Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love
kids, and are extremely good looking.

“Wow,” she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.

She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads: Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework.

“Oh, mercy me!” she exclaims, “I can hardly stand it!”

Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads: Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.

She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads: Floor 6 - You are visitor 10,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.

Cheers,
Stephen