So, have you decided on having kids someday?

[Barakka]

Well, I'm only 21, so it's a definate no at the moment, but I can't really rule it out for the rest of my life at this stage. Seems a bit silly to lock your self down to a choice you made 10 years ago, what happens when one of the couple from the OP change their minds (assuming they stay together that long).

Depends how stongly you feel though, when I met my wife she told me she didn't want kids, to which I concurred, she also told me that if I change my mind she walks, it's a deal-breaker.

The most annoying thing we have faced (her more than me) is irritating people saying "Oh, but you're only young, you'll change your mind", my wife found an interesting response that shut people up, but not something I could post on a public message board.

[Technogeek]

Well, I swore I would never have kids when I was 21, but now at the ripe old age of 44 I have three of the monsters. Although I did eventually plan to have two after my first one was born, I got a buy one get one free offer!

[Destroyer^]

I want one boy.. thats it no girls but maybe 2 boys similar age would be good as i was an only child... but definitly no girls...too much hastle... its all about taking your kid for his first pint and shaking his hand for his first lay.... Id teach my son well =)

[Funkstar]

I couldn't possibly make that decision while single.

And as that seems to be a fairly permanent state of affairs, it doesn't look like there are going to be little Funkstars ("thank the lord" i hear you shout) running about for a long, long time. If ever.

My mother is disappointed in me.

[Rave]

I'm not sure, and neither is my wife. She's 34 on Saturday though so I guess we'd better make up our minds at some point!

On the one hand, it'd be nice to have children to love and be proud of. On the other, they're a massive effort, my wife and I struggle a bit to look after ourselves as it is, and they're expensive- bang would go my dreams of saving up to buy a house, and a superbike, and all the other stuff I've wanted since I was a kid and am now almost in a position to start saving up for.

Not long after we got engaged my wife (fiancee as she was then) had a very late period and convinced herself- and me- that she was pregnant. After I'd got over the shock I warmed to the idea very quickly, and TBH I was a bit disappointed when it turned out she was just late.

[Barry]

I'm 10 years and 4 children to late for this question!

[directhex]

I don't really get any choice, given wifey. I'm not at all a baby person, and don't feel ready for that kind of thing yet, but at some point in the next few years, it'll happen.

Personally, I think adoption is something everyone should consider when planning a family - there are enough children in this world already, some in need of a loving home - without needlessly adding to it. But adoption is easier if you've had one of your own already, and some people are a bit funny about the topic

[Zadock]

I want one boy.. thats it no girls but maybe 2 boys similar age would be good as i was an only child... but definitly no girls...too much hastle... its all about taking your kid for his first pint and shaking his hand for his first lay.... Id teach my son well =)

Really?

I want kids eventually and I would definitely want a little girl just so I can be one of those amusingly over protective Dads and scare the living daylights out of would be boyfriends... And I'd be embarassing to; singing, dancing... basically like my Dad, who is nuts.

Again, I'd need to find the right lass first. Thought I had a while back but in typical fashion it went tits up.

[0iD]

I'm 10 years and 4 children to late for this question!

Glad I'm not the only muppit 'blessed' with so many

[Mike Fishcake]

"Babies are like Apple Macs - only those that have them reckon they're wonderful, and spend all their time trying to convince other people to have one"

The best (probably misquoted) quote ever from a stand up comedian I know - John Warburton.

I'm 31 and have a son who will be 9 years old next month. Sometimes it can really be very hard work, but would I change it? Not. On. Your. Life.

Despite the hard work, there's so much opportunity to have fun and do things you wouldn't be able to do on your own as an adult. Maybe it's just because I'm immature

It's certainly not for everybody, and I'm not one of those insufferable cretins that tries to convince people that's what they want, but if you're unsure you shouldn't feel obliged to state a decision just because someone can't think of anything else to talk about!

[Oobie-]

Wow some pretty positive responses. Mixed, but some experience in there too.


Hasnt influenced me though Guess I need to carry on with my life and grow up!

[Mike Fishcake]

Hasnt influenced me though

That's a good thing

[watforddude]

Id like a little boy to start off teach him not to make the mistakes ive made during my schooling years becuase pissing around at school just isnt worth it. but then i wouldnt mind a daddys little girl

[JK Ferret]

I don't like children, so my answers pretty much a given at this stage

ALTHOUGH, when I realised earlier this year that I would be 20 next year, I felt old (well, at least some sense of maturity creeping in) and had a very strange vision of little 'uns

I don't want children, I really don't think I could cope and I also reckon I'd be a terrible influence on them

One last thing, GOATS have KIDS. HUMANS have CHILDREN. Get it right

[Oobie-]

One last thing, GOATS have KIDS. HUMANS have CHILDREN. Get it right

Ahahaha, sorry, Sir.

[Gordy]

Well...

As some of you may well know my current girlfriend is PREGNANT

So like it or not I'm going to become a father next year and after the first few days of swearing and thinking oh my god what am I going to do once I got told the information, I am now getting used to the idea and not dreading it at all.

Congrats! I think that's natural for the men of this world.

Sometimes you don't get a choice lol

I can't agree more!

If you had asked me 3 years ago this question I would have said yes maybe someday. Having had one little boy with another due on the 30th of December. My thoughts on children have changed massively. There is no feeling in the world like being a parent.

Yes sure there are hard things that come with it, but I wouldn't change it for anything.