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Obviously not read the whole thread
I did actually.Obviously not read the whole thread
I used the "her daughter" cos I think it's ridiculous that my mam can just sleep til 2 in the afternoon instead of taking my sister to school. I absolutely love my sister to bits that's why it annoys me so much tbh, something seriously needs to be done but the SS aren't being much help and my mam isn't really helping anything by being a total nuisance to me. She's also taken my key off me so I can't even walk over and get my sister to school anymore.
She knows that I hated living there though and was often saying she wants me to move out.
Well she wanted you to move out so you have, as for your sister, how old is she, can she walk over to you to get a lift or meet at the end of the road or something?
She's 9 and has bad learning difficulties so she can't wake herself up or get herself ready or anything like that, someone really does have to look after her, and now I can't get in to get her ready and take her. I start work at 10 on a morning usually so I'd be able to get her ready, but there's still got to be someone to pick her up, and my mam often isn't even up by 3:15.
Does your mother had difficulties as well or is she just lazy?
Ultimately this says a lot about the situation you're stuck in, her saying this and actually wanting it to happen are two different things entirely.
As everyone else has said, it's not worth the hassle of the legal side, particularly taking her to court as a civil action, but it *might* help the situation if you ask your local PCSO nicely to pop round and have a chat. It should then get logged on file and get picked up by the Social worker assigned to your family and will increase the "risk" factor.
I hope you get this sorted though!
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This is bunny and friends. He is fed up waiting for everyone to help him out, and decided to help himself instead!
Just bone-idle laziness. She only cares about herself.
She gets up on a Monday and Tuesday morning without fail every week, cos she works on those mornings, but the other 5 days are "weekends" to her.
Well the only person shes gonna hurt then is your sister, explain to your mother that you will be there for your sister to take her to school but that you wont come into the house, simply pull up outside, knock on the door then get back into your car, if she wants a free taxi then act like a taxi driver.
I offered that, but my mam's too lazy to even do that. The school's at the end of the street! so it's not like my sister needs to be taken, she just can't get herself ready or anything like that..
Hmmm, this is turning into a different thread now, we've gone from your mother being a nosey cow to being a neglectful parent.
Theres nothing stopping her getting up in time to sort your sister out and then going back to bed, like you say other than pure bone idleness. Perhaps you should suggest to your mother than she start acting like a parent to your sister instead of sitting on her arse, and that if she cant cope perhaps she get some help, I'm sure if you explained the situation to the school or a care worker something could be done about it.
Mate...i really feel for you, and it's not a nice position to be in. (and i thought that compassion was something i am totally devoid of)
On the one hand, you need to make a nuisance of yourself to Social Services to get the help your sister needs, but on the other hand, you don't want her to end up in care.
If she has' bad learning difficulties', is she statemented at school? or have a 1to1 teacher?
You know me .... belt and braces.Get the Navy to redirect your mail? That seems a bit over-the-top!
The above is, by the way, why you never see me criticise people's spelling or typing. I will now examine your posts with an electron microscope.
PS. Made me laugh, by the way, which isn't that common with forum posts.
As others have said, that might well change the legal implications somewhat, but it wouldn't change my advice, which would still be to circumvent the problem (via redirects, etc, as it seems you now have) rather than going that route.
This is probably a good example of when some separation from the problem shows it to be seen more clearly .... if I was on the receiving end of that kind of treatment, I would struggle to be detached enough to see it calmly, and might well "bite back". But with your Mum, or even other relatives, that can lead to a deterioration that could well be permanent and, just maybe, in years to come you'd regret that kind of rift, if for no other reason that your sister.
This is also why I said I had "no idea of your circumstances or the nature of the relationship with your Mum". I'm lucky enough to have always got on well with my parents, so it;s hard to really understand what it is like to not do so, but I'm certainly well aware that family relations can be the closest, but can also be the most bitterly divisive, and a whole spectrum in-between.
My only real advice on that score would be to not make the rift any worse than it already is, because you may regret it later and some things, once done or said, can never be undone. I would just advise not doing anything to make things worse. Step back, pause, grit your teeth if need-be, and be better than that.
Wow this thread sure changes from the start to here!
I was going to jump on Agent's idea and say mail yourself a fake lawyers letter about taking her to court for opening your mail, but as the thing about your sister has come up, I'd change that to maybe making it look like you're in discussions with SS or someone at the school about that situation to scare her into taking some responsibility about her and getting her to school. Of course you'll have to hand-post it now though as it'll just get redirected if it goes through the postal service...
Good luck with whatever you do, I hope you get your sister sorted out and get some peace.
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