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[razer121]

So i feel ive not been around that much recently....so thought i would post this trumatic story....short version anyway!

Some may remember my thread on my very bad sister sister action problem....

Now im with jade, love of my life beautiful girl but we are abit rocky atm, due to the ex (sister btw) trying it on again, now before anyone start no nothing happened lol, she was told where to go but persisted on txin and it caused problems....eventually jade said she has had enough and broke with me

We are not together now and havent been for a while....anyhow something happened...and i really need advice, for those who dont know, me and jade split and i stupidly went back to kat...either way thats past news now,

It had been two months and jade decided for some stupid reason to sleep with this lad...wow heart breaking or what? even after i poured my heart out to her! bitch i thought...i got into a bad place and took an overdose...ended up in sweats and falling apart, luckily i guess me thinking about my kids made me pull through.

So now here me and jade are trying to sort it out, we have so much in common and enjoy spending time together...but im having a hard job getting past what she did, i mean yes she regrets it and says it was a big mistake and is now breaking all contact with him...but things go abit deeper...

She had met this guy on her birthday, kissed him...met him once more after this in the week then met him again at her mums house and slept with him...she says she had no intention on sleeping with him and did push him away once...but then he tried again and she decided to do it...now this is a problem as it makes me see her as easy and all my exs cheated on me so i struggle to trust women as it is.

So i ask, should i try and rekinddle my romance with her all walk away? i believe ive found true love with her, never found anyone who makes me so happy and has so much in common with me, think about her when im not with her, but after everything what has happened it makes me wonder if i made the right choice? the ex kat never did anything like this to me, ye she kissed someone else but not this...so it makes me wonder will jade do it again? can i trust her now?

Such a hugh problem right...stuck right in it...currently im seeing a shrink and taking some happy pills to help me get through this all, ive got to for myself and my kids...

Thanks for listening chaps dont lie and just be honest...even if you think its going to hurt me...need to know some truth right?

[MadduckUK]

sister sister action

[Biscuit]

Walk away, hardest option but definitely the best in the long run.

The whole situation just seems like a mine field to me and i cant honestly see either of you ever getting past your problems. At one time things might have been great and yeah you have gone through a series of situations which may sully that memory, if it was me i would let it rest as trying to force past those problems is likely to only make things worse long term.

[Dareos]

So, do you reckon Jeremy Kyle or Trisha will pay you more?

[scaryjim]

So, do you reckon Jeremy Kyle or Trisha will pay you more?

This. Seriously. If you're going to get into these situations at least try to get something - whether it's (in)fame or money - out of it! It's dynamite to gossip mags and thrashy daytime TV shows - there's got to be a small fortune in selling the story...

[Michael]

TLDR;
Razer has relationship with Sister A. It doesn't work out and moves to sister B, but sister A still wants sex. Sister B dumps Razer.

Razer sleeps with Sister A again, and Sister B sleeps with NewMan1 after two months.

Razer doesn't want Sister A and is now deciding whether or not to get back with Sister B but cannot make the decision because she chose to sleep with NewMan1 and is therefore not to be trusted or forgiven*.

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This all sounds very much a mess and I can't imagine that being with either of them is a good idea. You seem like the kind of guy who feels he has to be in a relationship and whoever it is you are with must be the love of your life... but if either of these girls were that then the thought of sleeping with the other sister wouldn't have been considered.

I'd have guessed these were the relationship problems of a teenager if you hadn't said you had kids to be honest!

Try the single life for a while?

*Why is it ok for you to sleep with somebody else but not her and why are you basing your distrust for her on something she did not only when she was single, but based on your experience with other girls; And based on your experience in this relationship how can you trust your own judgement?

this is a problem as it makes me see her as easy and all my exs cheated on me so i struggle to trust women as it is.

Women are not happy in a relationship where they are seen as a posession (MY girlfriend) rather than simply being loved.

Edit: Second thought: How much respect can these girls have for themselves and family values for a) Sleeping with their sister's ex and b) Still trying to get sex with the person who their sister is in a relationship with. Jesus.

[Dareos]

sister sister action


Would this involve Whoopi Goldberg in a Habit?

[Lucio]

It's a mess, walk away, take a year or so away from dating and let yourself heal.

[Gerrard]

I found your narrative a litte bit incoherent and difficult to understand, but I've read it as Michael has summarised and came to pretty much the same conclusions. However, I think that if you are seeing a shrink then you are better off listening to him then us really; especially if we're reading the situation wrong (which is easily done on forums!).

[TheAnimus]

learn to rubbishrubbishrubbishrubbish.

[peterb]

I found your narrative a litte bit incoherent and difficult to understand, but I've read it as Michael has summarised and came to pretty much the same conclusions. However, I think that if you are seeing a shrink then you are better off listening to him then us really; especially if we're reading the situation wrong (which is easily done on forums!).

This!

[peterb]

Opened (reluctantly) at the express request of the OP.

Keep it constructive and helpful please (for the avoidance of doubt, theanimus's comment is borderline constructive, but probably not very helpful)

[razer121]

Ah its good advice thanks so far...but im not sure i can leave her....love this girl tbh!

[Andeh13]

If she slept with another lad then she clearly isn't ticking every single box you want in a girl. The perfect girl for you is still out there, as the perfect girl for you wouldn't cheat on you. The fact she met him 3 times is more then just 'it was an accident', guys aren't complicated and girls know that. We don't see girls we *just* met because we are being friendly...

I know what your going through, I have been there several times myself, and you are not going to like what you hear on Hexus, but what everyone is saying is correct. She has done it once, she wasn't drunk, it wasn't a one time only thing with him and no matter how sorry she is she flat out wouldn't have done it at all if she was truly in love with you.

My ex only kissed another lad, but the fact she had been texting him constantly for a few weeks, becoming more and more emotionally entwinned with him whilst she drifted away from me...that did more damage to me then just a kiss. She regretted it, and was desperately sorry, but it wasnt the kiss that bothered me... I did take her back, but I never felt the same about her. If I love someone, and they love me then there things you just *dont* do. No good will come from taking her back because you are scared of being alone, or looseign what you have had.

The best option is usually the hardest. You really have got yourself into a hole with these sisters and you are so much better off walking away from it and seeing what else is out there. Try online dating, join a gym, go for a few drinks with a good mate a couple of times a week and encourage each other to spark up a conversation with at least one girl at evening.

[Sputnik]

I must be the only one to read this and think it is a bit hypocritical.

If I read correctly, You and this Love of your life had broken up, You had gone back to boning her sister, Then she sleeps with another guy and you say you can't trust her?

My question is would she trust you? If neither of you are going to be able to trust each other, It will never work.

[santa claus]

Strewth, don't turn a drama into a crisis. You enjoy her company, she turns you on, she's your true love. I mean, why all the heart-wringing? Just enjoy the good times and believe me, these relationship turmoils are the good times because they lead to the BEST sex ever.

If you let some other guy in for a go then that's your fault so get over it, she was 'free' at the time. Besides, if she goes for a romp again, you can always pop round to Kat's place .

Geez, some people don't know when they are born. Instead of seeing the shrink, I'd be seeing both girls and telling both I love them.

Trust me .