My gf and her boss...

[MadduckUK]

I have given advice to friends to say,
work it out and walk away.

Do we have a secret poet here?

[melon]

Actually Russ is right ( see it even rhymes ) when it comes to most people
Moose being exceptional and battle hardened though is not most people - in fact hes not ever really person I think but moose in a disguise as person ( yes there was actually Moose on transformers - im not joking either )

Any way all this emotional stuff is indeed very difficult for a reason - the intellect has O to do with it all , but thats story for another time and place

I dont want to start another religious or Jesus debate heh

While Moose are exceptionally good at resolving most situations they do have lot of problems with bears though.

Bears are usually angry sorts you see and are always purposely making moostakes..

why ?

because bears are very emotional creatures , and enjoy nothing more feeling slighted about the word so they go ahead and keep making moostakes

m

[Blitzen]

Afternoon all,

So, I'm in a bit of a weird situation at the moment and I'm interested to hear how you guys and girls would deal with this. As a backdrop to this, my gf and I have been together for very nearly 6 years and we've lived together for the past 3.

Last Fri, I stumbled across a Facebook message on my gf's account (she'd logged in on my iPad) that was from her boss. It read something along the lines of missing you, wished we were still together. This is weird, I thought. Rightly or wrongly I then got hold of her phone and took a quick look through some messages off this guy. There were lots. Lots about finding a quiet room in the office and about how they loved each other. This is really strange, I though.

So, last night I asked her how she was feeling. Is there someone else, are you happy etc. We talked for a while but the output was that she really wanted to make the relationship work. Interestingly though, whilst I gave her several opportunities to tell me about the boss thing, she didn't mention it. There were/are no other guys she said.

So, I'm not sure how to handle this. In my mind, she either actually loves this other guy, or she's too embarrassed to tell me about it (he's twice her age) and she just wants to put it behind her.

How would you react?

One of lifes twists im afraid.

Unfortunately fo you, its sounds like she is cheating on with almost 100% certainty.
Bin her off fella, and get a woman that is worth the effort.

You will have some say 'work at it', but once they stray, they are not worth having around.

No matter what people think, once trust is gone, its gone forever.

[spac3d]

Wow... how ridiculously cliche.. Reminds me of This Life with Milly and Egg.

Get rid of bad rubbish.

[melon]

Cheating is not an indication of this. Moreover,when someone flippantly dismisses a EMA,as fun,it indicates how much respect they have for you as a human being. If they had come to you and opened up their heart,seeking forgiveness,I could even understand trying to continue with the relationship.

Unless they feel scared of you,they have hands and they have a mouth,they can communicate their feelings to you. The fact they don't and then lie and cheat,indicates there is something wrong with them.

Yup couldnt agree more Truth, Justice and the Canadian Way !!

m

[Basher]

So we had a chat about this last night. Something did happen whilst we were apart this time last year. Since then he has apparently been a bit of a pest to get her back ...

[Biscuit]

So we had a chat about this last night. Something did happen whilst we were apart this time last year. Since then he has apparently been a bit of a pest to get her back ...

I thought u said there were replied from her saying that she missed him?

Sounds reasonable mind, especially if she is looking for a new job. She definately should have told you once you sorted things out all that time ago though, and she should have told you he was pestering you if she wasn't doing anything, serious lack of trust and respect IMO.

[melon]

So we had a chat about this last night. Something did happen whilst we were apart this time last year. Since then he has apparently been a bit of a pest to get her back ...

What do you mean , " something " ?

More secrets ?

m

[rox0r]

This is entirely unhelpful I know, but is anyone else reminded of the whole Friends thing with Ross and Rachel? .... "We were on a break!"

[Basher]

This is entirely unhelpful I know, but is anyone else reminded of the whole Friends thing with Ross and Rachel? .... "We were on a break!"

I keep thinking that . That turned out well in the end!

[Russ]

Do we have a secret poet here?

[mikerr]

....

[Biscuit]

I keep thinking that . That turned out well in the end!

God I really wish life was more like friends

[kopite]

God I really wish life was more like friends

FUll of bad acting and bad writing?

Although living near a coffee shop would be good

[mmh]

Nearly 3 billion women in the world... If she can't be straight with you, find one that will...

[Dreaming]

Nearly 3 billion women in the world... If she can't be straight with you, find one that will...

QFT, been on the other end, you will accept all her excuses and you will believe she is the victim, but people need to take responsibility. She has a problem being honest with you, why would you want to be with someone like that? You won't be alone forever after her.