With regard to skin cancer

[3Dfx]

Its good that your concerned about your friends, but she obviously doesn't want your advice here so keep it to yourself!

Women don't have the same logic as men, why dya think they spend hours getting ready to go out. Leave it alone, everyone gets drunk, seeing your mates lied up in a hosptial bed is not fun, i know believe me i was there 2 weeks ago in far worse a situation than that.

Im relatively new here and noticed u have some of the best advise on this board.

cheerz.


Im gonna just lay off her... say as little as i can...

maybe she'll get the jist

[shiato storm]

ok, so I was just messing around earlier but really, seriously you need to lighten up. just say nothing at all and perhaps your silence will do more that your constant bantering??? and make her turn round after all this time.
having said that it has been a while yes? and surely she's now doing it all out of habit rather than any need etc...

the general advice I'v noticed here is pretty much for you to just let her get on with it, eventually she'll come round

[Knoxville]

Thanks dude, Its for the best in the end mate, she'll get the idea sharpish with the alchohol if she drinks like you say she does. Women really do like to think they're in complete control and nagging her will only make her continue to prove that she can and that you can't stop her.

I've worried a hell of alot about my female and to some extent male mates in the past as in a weird way i feel like i shud be protecting em but people have to learn for themselves just the way things are.

[3Dfx]

Yeah well i know women seem to think they can drink as much as men and i think she tries to keep up with her bf and other "male" mates... and well... she gets intoa right mess and looks a mess too...

hair all over the place
boobs slung over her shoulders
makeup smeared.

I thought women took pride in their appearance??

[shiato storm]

guess not...

[3Dfx]

women... who the hell can "read" them...???

[Punky]

no-one, so don't worry about it

[petrefax]

just been reading through this thread, your concern is admirable mate.

as most others say tho, if she don't want to change her current habits then she won't & all that will happen if you force the issue is that she'll get p*ssed off with you & will avoid you

unfortunately bad things have a habit of eventually happening, hopefully not too bad & with luck this will open her eyes a little....i know its a rubbish old cliche but its applicable to your situatuion....the best you can do as a mate is be there to help pick up the pieces when she does eventually fall on her ar$e

i'm sure your concerns have been noted & i'm sure she is aware of how you feel & therefore if / when she needs help you're probably gonna be top of the list, cos its probably a safe bet that all her "good time" friends will dissapear in the direction of the next good time the minute theres anything serious to deal with



NB - just one thing tho......under no circumstances ever, EVER say "i told you so"

i can't profess to know much about women but i know this much(and i'm sure others will back me up on this) this never goes down well at all

[3Dfx]

yeah well im nots stupid enuff to say that...

unless im drunk... oh ohhhh...

...i hope nothing serious happens to her *raped while drunk* or summet..

[shiato storm]

only happens if she puts herself in the position for it...

[3Dfx]

in other words.... blind drunk, not knowing her friends from her strangers?

she'd probably think the rapist is her bf!

[shiato storm]

well there you go then. what does he do anyway? stand around drunk too? surely he's there to prevent that sort of thing or is she 'not exactly faithful' when he's not around...?

[3Dfx]

She doesnt go "out" with him.. hes with his own mates.

[shiato storm]

hmmm...probably learing at all the girls where he is as much as she flirts with random people...

[3Dfx]

probably... but she "loves" him