I don't love getting drunk, it just sorta happens. But I know that given another set of mates, I may, or could've, have given up a while ago - through the selfishness you mentioned Rave, and amongst other things. Although they make fun of it, if I put myself into their shoes, I would wonder why they would bother
It's a hard benchmark, for others to be true mates, just through drink I may make more enemies than friends, and it would probably be best that I keep making more friends (sober) than enemies, but I know that I could actually give it up in precedence to other vices. It's a crap attitude to have, but I can rarely share any true relationship, friendship or whatever, without the other having shared similar vice-related experiences and relationships...I have given up most vices, but smoking and drinking are the two things that would probably haunt me and return at some point or another - both of which I've gave up for 2 years in my life, but eventually returned to.
If I was married, there's no doubt booze is the first thing I could give up voluntarily if it were to save anything good going for me, because if it got to that stage it would be bad - so good luck Rave, going cold turkey is the only way to go (I know how moderation works - it doesn't), I just hope you don't fall into a circumstance (or what other people would call a perfectly good excuse) that would make you return to old ways - hope you have a merry xmas and a happy new year.