You've "met" the girl...

[Zak33]

still......2/3 of a conversation should be YOU listening.....and thinking of something nice and constructive and new to say....

Lynni knows what I mean....I just worded it wrong

[lynni]

still......2/3 of a conversation should be YOU listening.....and thinking of something nice and constructive and new to say....

Lynni knows what I mean....I just worded it wrong

dont worry, i will follow you round correct ya posts for ya

[Galant]

You know, this whole concept seems foreign to me.

The girls I've been interested in, and pursued are those who have already been friends with and knew. I never saw the point of going from barely knowing names to 'being together'. Then again, maybe you're all just talking about becoming friends, and not jumping into a 'relationship'.

It just seems to me that getting emotionally (let alone physically) involved in a relationship with someone who you really don't know is just asking for trouble. I've heard so many stories of people who have been totally surprised (and often really hurt)after they find the other person isn't who they thought they were.

I say, if you can't get to know someone outside of the usual 'dating' and 'relationship' atmospheres - that is - get to know their family/other friends/ or just generally who they are when they're not trying to impress you or be 'the boyfriend/girlfriend' or whatever - then it's probably not the best atmosphere to pursue anything.

If I met someone who was nice I'd probably just be friendly, be my usual self around a stranger and if things pick up from there - try to act as an amicable gentleman, pursuing a friendship.

Maybe I'm weird.

[lynni]

You know, this whole concept seems foreign to me.

The girls I've been interested in, and pursued are those who have already been friends with and knew. I never saw the point of going from barely knowing names to 'being together'. Then again, maybe you're all just talking about becoming friends, and not jumping into a 'relationship'.

It just seems to me that getting emotionally (let alone physically) involved in a relationship with someone who you really don't know is just asking for trouble. I've heard so many stories of people who have been totally surprised (and often really hurt)after they find the other person isn't who they thought they were.

I say, if you can't get to know someone outside of the usual 'dating' and 'relationship' atmospheres - that is - get to know their family/other friends/ or just generally who they are when they're not trying to impress you or be 'the boyfriend/girlfriend' or whatever - then it's probably not the best atmosphere to pursue anything.

If I met someone who was nice I'd probably just be friendly, be my usual self around a stranger and if things pick up from there - try to act as an amicable gentleman, pursuing a friendship.

Maybe I'm weird.

no your one of the nice ones wish they were all like you (and tumble of course ) cos thats how he behaved when we first met, and it worked wonders.... instead of treating me like someone who he had picked up in a club, he did the complete opposite and treated me like a friend even though he already liked me - he didnt let that show

[sweuzo]

i tend to only go for guys i know pretty well before hand, but i think that might be trust issues and me being pretty shy with new people so it'd take forever to do anything if i didn't know them already.

all guys i ever went for, for relationships = friends already.

[Stoo]

That's the best way tbh, if you can't have a friendship, what chance does a relationship have?