Fighting..

[Moonshade]

Heya all folks that are awake at this hour..
Well, for me it's late..I don't know about all others here..but here it's 11.49 P.M. I dunno why I'm writing this or if it has anything to do with anything here at all..but I just feel like I need to write something, and I dunno where.

Like I said it's late over here in Sweden, it's dark outside and all..but even though everyone should be asleep by now..they aren't and there's just fighting over here..I can't stand it ..

Well, not physical though...more arguing and stuff like that. I don't really know how to put it into words, but I can't stand things right now. I've been fighting with my brother..okay..brothers and sisters do that, it's normal! But right now, it seems like I can't handle a thing! Not just at home, but everyhting!
It seems like if something, just ONE thing's going badly then everyhting else has to follow ! So in the end everyhting's bad.

I don't want stuff to end up even more badly..it's bad enough already, I don't need more..*sad*

I just want a shoulder to cry on, but my b/f is away..in Germany right now.. So I'm all alone..*gah!*..

(sorry if my spelling is ****ed up atm...)

[Tumble]

Tumble's remedy:

Hot shower

Big strong cup of coffee/hot chocolate/tea....

A good involving book

A warm bed

Soft lighting - candles if you got em.

Works a treat... hope you feel better soon.

[TeePee]

There's a saying 'Don't sweat the small stuff'. It sounds to me like you have maybe one or two large problems, maybe the fact that your boyfriend is away has you stressed, maybe something else. Because you are so pent up and worried about these big things, every little thing gets to you. So do something about it! Take a little time to divide your problems into big problems you must fix (like giving your boyfriend a call tomorrow morning for example), and little things which aren't worth worrying about. Action is the enemy of thought. When you have a plan, you won't worry.

[Moonshade]

Tumble's remedy:

Hot shower

Big strong cup of coffee/hot chocolate/tea....

A good involving book

A warm bed

Soft lighting - candles if you got em.

Works a treat... hope you feel better soon.

Thanks, I'll try..the bad thing is that:

Hot shower - Done it already, didn't work

Big strong cup of coffee - Can't make one, cos that'll disturb my parents that are now trying to sleep

A good involving book - Yeah I'll try that

A warm bed - I'll try to make it warm

Soft lighting - Yeah, maybe I can try that out

I don't mean to sound all negative, I really wish I could do all that stuff..

[Moonshade]

There's a saying 'Don't sweat the small stuff'. It sounds to me like you have maybe one or two large problems, maybe the fact that your boyfriend is away has you stressed, maybe something else. Because you are so pent up and worried about these big things, every little thing gets to you. So do something about it! Take a little time to divide your problems into big problems you must fix (like giving your boyfriend a call tomorrow morning for example), and little things which aren't worth worrying about. Action is the enemy of thought. When you have a plan, you won't worry.

Yeah I have about 2 large (huge?) problems that are troubling me, and unfortunatly my b/f can't do something about right now, not just like that..it's harder than that actually. And even though I really wish I could call him, I can't then my parents will kill me, cos of the bill that will appear soon enough.

I've already been trying to divide my problems, and here I am. The bad thing in this..most of it is not upon me to fix..it's up to other people and I've affected as much as possible...*sigh*

One bad thing seems to born another out of something that was perfect from the beginning..

[Lead_Head]

Yeah I have about 2 large (huge?) problems that are troubling me, and unfortunatly my b/f can't do something about right now, not just like that..it's harder than that actually. And even though I really wish I could call him, I can't then my parents will kill me, cos of the bill that will appear soon enough.

I've already been trying to divide my problems, and here I am. The bad thing in this..most of it is not upon me to fix..it's up to other people and I've affected as much as possible...*sigh*

One bad thing seems to born another out of something that was perfect from the beginning..

Cant you talk to your parents about it? Or are they part of the problem?

You'll be suprised what you can talk about with your parents, even if you think that they are your worst enemy, or they hate you...

[Moonshade]

Cant you talk to your parents about it? Or are they part of the problem?

You'll be suprised what you can talk about with your parents, even if you think that they are your worst enemy, or they hate you...

Hm, yeah first of all..they're like a part of the problem..like I said above there are just fighting over here..which included them. And then the second thing..I tried to let them in once, and I can't say that it made my life easier in anyway..if something, the opposite. Okay, sometimes they've helped me, but in some situations..they havn't even noticed that I've been sad..or anything at all..

And right now, it feels like I can't stand them or anything else around here..

[Howard]

If your family members are arguing, then you ought to talk to them about it, say to them that it makes you feel upset too, then perhaps it'll encourage them to work things out, etc. Worked here once or twice.

If you wanna get away for a bit you could go and stay with a friend or something? That might help you feel more relaxed and help you collect your thoughts.

[0iD]

Parents sometimes cant see past the end of their nose. They get too wrapped up in whatever's going on in their lives to notice what's going on in yours. So they need to be told how you feel, relying on them to notice when they're stressed is not a good plan

Being a parent has been an eye opener. I can see things from a slightly different angle
Parents forget what it was like to be a teen all too quickly & get bogged down in their own sh*t. Coupled with the fact that everything looks worse at night. New day, new outlook

Anyway, you've got a lot of friends here to talk to in times of need. Hope that counts for something.

[bertie]

Tell me about it. My house has been a nightmare to live in, mum doesn't seem to care about my feelings since "i'm not a child anymore".
What i'd give to be a child again..

[0iD]

My parents were of the opinion that I was male, therefore I had no emotional problems.

[Knoxville]

My parents were of the opinion that I was male, therefore I had no emotional problems.

Mine are of the exact same opinion, even when i start drinking stupid amounts, going for walks at 3/4am in the morning and putting holes in my bedroom walls

We've all had fighting and problems at home and i think we all have different ways of dealing with it. Some large headphones playing whatever in the background and a book is good if you can't leave the house as it blacks everything else out as unfortunatly most of the time you just can't fix every problem so you just gotta ride em out.

[steve threlfall]

Your doing the right thing Moonshade. Talking about it helps, a problem shared really is a problem halved. Dont keep things bottled up and to yourself or everything will get on top of you.

[0iD]

Mine are of the exact same opinion, even when i start drinking stupid amounts, going for walks at 3/4am in the morning and putting holes in my bedroom walls

I hear ya Knoxy, been there oh yes. Used to hop on mi board or BMX & ride the town centre in the wee small hours to vent my anger/frustration. Personal stereo on, Suicidal Tendencies/DRI/Slayer on etc & just tear it up. Great catharsis.

[0iD]

Anyway, Moonshade, how are u doing m8, things any better?

[Moonshade]

Hm, I'm trying..the best that I can to everything that youve told me. But I guess the problem with my parents isn't the biggest problem, the biggest is the one in which I've done everyhting in my power to fix. It's not up to me..it's up to another (very important) person in my life. The only thing I can do is just to sit right here and wait, and hope that everything will turn out the way I hope it will..which mean: positive.

Thank you guys..you're making it a bit easier for me, I'm trying to hang in..I just dunno how much I can take. I had a similar problem last summer, which didn't turn out good..so I guess I'm a bit tied up about all of this..just because I'm afraid this'll turn out the same way.

But actually, right now it seems like everything's going in the positive direction (when it comes to that problem) but I just don't have the strength to believe in it for 100%..just because I'm scared (maybe scared to death is the right word to use) that this will go bad (just like the problem last summer)

It's about love...