Bah! 2gb is still fine for the majority of games and what's more you can pick up 1gb sticks fairly cheaply 2nd hand if you're really budget minded.
I'd also stick with c2d atm, quads are still not used enough to be of major benefit, and there's a jump in heat and power going from c2d to c2q.
With the planned system aiming at HTPC + some gaming a lower, but still good, cpu would be better than a more powerfull cpu which will not be used much and have higher demands.
Getting the GPU ballance between enough power for gaming and reasonably low power usage when idle (most HTPC use) is going to be trickier.