Is Life Too Short? Or is it a drag?

[Blitzen]

Not a 'happy go lucky' question by more of a stop and think one.

Everyone, i wouldve thought, wakes up on different mornings in a different mood. I was wondering if whether its just me or does the the title in the thread crop in anyone elses minds aswell??

In your 30's-40's surely this question must crop up more and more. (Im 35 and it does me anyway).

Sometimes, just when things seem all right in your own little world you cant help but think life is too short and you are probably half way through it already. Not a nice thought but a fact.

Other days, things are rubbish and the thought that life is just a drag and a hard slog to get anywhere and think to yourself 'Christ, i might have another 40-50 years of this.


For me personally, life has been very tough over the last 3 years and every now and then you have to take stock.(Not money worries so i suppose i can be grateful for that).
One day, you pull yourself up and decide to 'fight back' at the rubbish things and other days its easy to feel you cba and whatever will be will be.

Does anyone else suffer from this or am i insane (or more iinsane than you thought before?)

[Nickg]

Life is too short when you are young and too long when you are old.

there may be nothing afterwards - so its not like there is anything to look forward to afterward...

[TheAnimus]

After turning 23 recently, i realised i've yet to do a tenth of the things i want to.

[SiM]

I guess the opinions would be split up like this:
Life is too short for young people, life is too long for old people....
The mid aged people are the ones who are not sure

edit: damn Nickg beat me to it!

[Blitzen]

Suppose that is the point really.
Galloping toward middle age is not a nice feeling (better chase a bit more skirt so i can pretend to be 21 again)

[Mossy]

Nah Life is life sure I have had to deal with bad situations/problams but if you wake up in that mannor you will end the day in the same way....

Always look on the bright side of life and if its still dark then you know somethings wrong!

[IBM]

As you pointed out, it's something that occurs to people more and more as they get older. I was certainly thinking today about the previous 6 years, and how few highpoints I can remember, even though I'm amazingly happily married, have an incredible wife, two beautiful children, and am financial pretty well off.

There's always the grass is always greener mentality, but I get the feeling that if I could only uproot and move somewhere sunnier, I'd be a lot happier, a lot more of the time. Unfortunately I'm tied down with my MBA for at least another 15-18 months....but once that's done with, I'll be out of here as quick as I can manage....It might not be an improvement to my life quality where I end up, but it can hardly be worse than this miserable gray place people call London.

[kidzer]

I wouldn't ever say its a drag, I have occasional days where I'm not feeling too happy - but thats easily fixed by telling myself how lucky I am;

- At Uni, studying something I like (and a year ahead of my 'plan')
- I've got a job that isn't half bad
- I have no real expenses, what with living at home
- I dont have parents that need to know where I am every second of the day, so I'm quite free in that regard
- I've saved up enough money through work to be able to indulge every once in a while

Yeah, its not too bad - and long may it continue!

[staffsMike]

I'm at what I'm considering the big crossroads in my life, just finishing up with Uni, got a long term gf (getting close to proposing tbh lol) and so there's lots of decisions to make. Taking the gf into account is a big step too, I don't make any selfish decisions anymore, it's all about us rather than me which it always has been before. Doubely worse for you mate (Blitzen) as I believe you have kids..

Altogther I'm have a pretty naff year, which is maybe why me and you have been at each others throats more than either of us would probably like

I'm trying to find a path which doesn't lead me to how you are feeling right now although you will almost certainly have to feel like this at some time or another in your life.

The worst thing is for me, having done a computer science degree.. I now really don't want to do anything wit computers. I'm considering becoming a teacher (not I.T though)

Life is a mess, certainly not dragging though .. 22 gotta get moving lol

Money isn't really an issue as I have saved quite well and not had too many out goings other than fee's etc.. but obviously if I wait too long it will start to become a problem.. adding to the urgency of my decisions

Feels nice to air some concerns in this thread, but now they seem far more real

[Stringent]

Well I think the Bible sums it up quite well.

James 4:14
For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away.

How true that is. Time has flown by for me, and as I continue to get older the weeks and months whiz by at warp speed so it would seem. Currently I am in a bit of a rut, looking for a new job which will hopefully stimulate me and make me feel better.

[Blitzen]

Altogther I'm have a pretty naff year, which is maybe why me and you have been at each others throats more than either of us would probably like

Always healthy debate fella and nothing more

Doubely worse for you mate (Blitzen) as I believe you have kids..

Well i dunno really. That probably makes everythig a bit better as it give you a goal.

I'm trying to find a path which doesn't lead me to how you are feeling right now although you will almost certainly have to feel like this at some time or another in your life.

Thing is, the crapper parts arent always self inflicted.
Sure there are things you can avoid saying or doing but there are other suprises in life you have little to zero influence on. Those are the hardest ones to take (and the impossible ones to brush under the carpet and just grin and bare).
I have been all over the world fighting other peoples battles but there are occassions when you have personal battles that you just cant win, and especially if they are ones for someone near to you.

Im not saying my life is bad...far from it really.
But, there are certain cruel blows that taint things.

[Sinizter]

Until you get through university and start a decent job it is way too long (way too short in retrospect, but thats a different topic I think) and way too short once you can live it comfortably.

[Blitzen]

Until you get through university and start a decent job it is way too long (way too short in retrospect, but thats a different topic I think) and way too short once you can live it comfortably.

Yep...i agree.
Life is too short when its running out.
Life is too long when you have, or think you have all the time in the world.

[kasavien]

For me i think life is too short, i know i'm only young (23) but i don't feel like i've really done much or experience much. I'm coming to the end of uni and i could certainly do with more time for that! but i'm looking forward to finishing and deciding what to do next in my life. The main thing for me will be to push myself to do as much as is possible and to keep challenging myself. I think i'll be in a fairly decent position when i finish, hopefully with a respectable degree, but we'll see.

For the short term the aim is to work through till early next year, apply for proper jobs to start autumn 2009 and go travelling when in the mean time when i've saved up enough money.

[pollaxe]

I'm 36 and recently (for reasons I won't bore you with) I'm increasingly aware of the finite nature of life and a growing sense of running out of time. I find I rarely (if ever) think a week is a long time, weekends seem to pass in a blink of an eye and my friends' children are usually twice as old as I think they are.

I'm minded of a little story I heard of an old man on his 95th birthday talking with a teenager. The latter said "Blimey, I wouldn't like to live to 95," to which the old timer dryly observed: "You would if you were 94."

Life is sweet, it's probably all you'll ever have so make the most of it. (If you find out the way to do this, please be sure to let me know.)

[staffsMike]

I'm minded of a little story I heard of an old man on his 95th birthday talking with a teenager. The latter said "Blimey, I wouldn't like to live to 95," to which the old timer dryly observed: "You would if you were 94."

haha I like that.

I should be helping out with some teaching at a local school in the next few weeks. hopefully that will give me an Idea if I really want to do it. I don't fancy being back at square one ..