Hi I will try and keep this as short as possible as I could know doubt write all night about this!
Was with my daughters Mum for 8 years we split up etc. have all ways made a point off all ways still being there in life and helped her out so many times since are breakup.
Since we split she has been very controlling over are daughter and for the last 3 years I have jumped through all her hoops to be able to have her overnight. She wouldn't let me have her overnight while I moved back in with my parents, so it was until she was 2 and a half when she finally let me have her with me, when i got my own place.
Words cant express how much my little girl means to me! she is my world and I devote my life to her!, she is the reason I gave up smoking, lost 5 stone in weight , stopped drinking , bettered my career so I could afford my own place to give her a loving home.
I really find communication with my X quite difficult!. She met a guy a while back and with in 2 months of seeing him she got engaged and moved her and my daughter in with a guy who was 22 years of age and her being 26. It hurt but I kept my mouth shut. I later learned this guy had just lost his Mum and Dad with in weeks of meeting my X which then kinder scared me as it made me realise he know doubt just wanted a family to feed his insecurities!. Me and my X used to still go out for lunch once a month to show are daughter we still got on etc. to get to the point he turned in to a right weirdo! and ended up getting physical with her! as well as keying my brand new car!. To help her I maxed my visa to give her a deposit to get her own place so they could both start a fresh. - hasn't paid me any of the money back tho, but to be honest money is not the problem here.
For those 4 weeks, she let me see my daughter as much as I want!, but as time moved on and she learnt I was with some one she then would make excuses all the time and before I new it, I was only seeing her the odd day a week.
Just to mention one more thing as well, when we first broke up she emotionally blackmailed me by pestering me all the time to sign documents changing my daughters last name from my mine to hers. After months of her midering me! she said that if I changed her name she would never stop me from seeing are daughter and would let me see her more - I fell for this!
Any way me and my little girl have a amazing bond!! and she cries so much when she knows she is going back to live with her Mum and leaving me.
I currently have her one night a week at the moment but would like to have her at least 2 days. I have asked my X but was told it suits her fine the way things are at this moment in time, when I expressed to her I had parental responsibility I was told I wasn't equal to her and it was her way or the high way.
I would really like some advice and information on what my rights are here people ?, is me asking for 2 nights a week to much ?
I have a good job as a child care worker, which is looking after children in the social care system, so hopefully this paint a picture of the type of guy I am.
The only negative really is my X is all ways saying she wants a set night each week, but as I do shift work I never have the same days off each week, would the courts be understanding of that in a way ?
Am just abit lost here to be honest!! and sick of feeling like being a Dad counts for nothing and we have no rights!
Any help or advice is appreciated!!
Jamie