Who got Bullied at School?

[Zak33]

Just wondered.

Did you get over it? HAVE you got over it? ARE YOU STILL GETTING IT?

[Kezzer]

I got bullied and i became the bully

[myth]

I got sick of it in 11 grade! I turned around and whacked him as hard as I could! He had to get 27 stiches on his head.... We went to cort and I got a $300 dollar fine! He on the other hand got 9 days in a hospital! I returned to school the next day, and as I walked down the hall I got a standing aplause! It was amazing! I never felt so good, and I got the respect I deserved!

[Zak33]

Myth...I think you might be in the minority on that one. There's lots of it about. My colleague here at work has a kid who has had it hard this week and the lass is beside herself...and thats not even at school...thats in the street

[Sair33]

The silly childish things I have forgotten, but the personal stuff... I don't think you forget that really....

Stephen Fry says in his autobiography "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will always hurt me. Bones mend and become actually stronger in the very place they were broken and where they have knitted up; mental wounds can grind and ooze for decades and be re-opened by the quietest whisper"

[nichomach]

Yes, I was bullied; and there's a part of that that lingers. I suppose it's the knowledge that it DID happen, that I couldn't do a lot about it and that no-one else was much interested. I read about anti-bullying initiatives every so often and hope that they mean that there's been a sea-change in attitudes towards bullying, but I know that when I was at school, no-one much gave a toss. I hope your colleague's daughter finds more help and support than I did; I'm certain that she will, since your colleague is obviously concerned.

And I think Fry's absolutely right.

[ACiD303]

Yeah, but it makes you the person who you are today, Im quite happy with who I am now (and when you are bullied you dont think that). Tho I did get beaten up (not to the point of broken bones) a fair few times, I got over the name-calling and taunting pretty soon, I matured pretty quickly during school - unfortunately since leaving, Ive grown more immature Things kids said or made up or twisted your words for taunts, I just saw as immature and either shrugged or laughed it off.

Bullying in school's always gonna happen, some people dont let got of it and feel bitter about it - I did for a while, but you learn alot about other people and yourself during bullying . . . you just gotta take it on the chin (as I dont believe violence makes it any better) and walk away, most of it's there for a reaction and it's pretty easy not to give them what you want. I only had to physically stick up for myself once in my entire life and I got less hassle after that. I learnt that dobbing people in was useless coz it came back at ya 10 fold . . . also you learn that the only real people that can hurt you are those close to you, people who dont know you (e.g. bullies) can say whatever they want and it would really mean jack. . . who cares what they think.

Think being bullied at school has led me to become a bit more liberal in life, which Im quite happy for

[Tumble]

I did.. although it stopped when I got jumped after school once and battered around for a bit.. they saw a teacher and scarpered..... and I went straight to the police station just up the road... and I took it as far as saying yea or nay to pressing charges - cos it was common assault at the end of the day... the lad got a visit from Mr. Policeman at home AND at school... I didn't in the end, cos I couldn't be arsed with it, but I never even got taunted after that.. everyone just left me alone which suited me fine.


The thing I REALLY hate tho.. is I see all the people that were the "school bullies" in the offices I visit everyday... and they are all civil to me and everything.. I can't help but give a little of the animosity they showed to me back... it winds me up something rotten that because we aint in school any more they think they can be friends. Wouldn't pee on them if they were on fire tbh - but saying that I wouldn't set em on fire either....

[0iD]

I was beaten up pretty much every day at juniors, a little less at seniors, mainly because I was always the smallest kid. I tried fighting back bet never seemed to work . It mainly ceased when I eventually made friends with some of the 'hard' kids & then I eventually grew a bit in the 4th/5th year seniors.

Jus made me a bit of a loner & a bit more cycnical. I am also a bit over protective over my own children. I wouldnt want to wish my childhood on anyone.

[Knoxville]

Nearly every day, In school, on the way home even if they saw me when i was out. never fought back properly as i didn't wanna get suspended had a couple of scuffles but not anything stupid, they pretty much stopped in year 11 though for some unknown reason.......I'm now mates with several of the people that wouldn't gimmie the time of day back then and am apparently stupidly well known there now, people from the year below me know who I am even though i didn't know them.

Don't really care now as none of them can look me in the eye walking down the street let alone say anything, there's one i'd still love to beat the living daylights of though given the chance in a room with no windows.

[FarmerJon]

I think everyone gets teased a bit at school to one extent or another, but bullying is a diff story. I got got the psych side of bullying when i was younger, & it really hurt at the time, esp since when ur young ur always looking for acceptance. I grew past it, chose myself some friends & it gave me a different outlook on life. I know a lot of people who'll still go along with what the crowd want all the time, but I stand up for myself a bit more now because of what happened in the past. So i agree that it can be a long term help to people, although the scars dont ever completely vanish

[ACiD303]

As much as I wouldn't want my children to go through the same, and I think things have improved on the prejudice side of things (not eradicated tho), but if it does happen, I hope they deal with it better than I did, or at least put it down to experience to make them stronger. . . my mum was far too overprotective of me (thus, her advice in realtime situations never worked) and sheltered me from a lot of things I wish she didnt . . .

The world can be cruel at times, and learning this early can have it's benefits - Im not saying every kid should be bullied to give em a taste of life or anything, but if it happens, then try and take what you can from it and turn it into something positive. Being bitter can be harsh on yourself as well as those around you.

I was flyering a couple of years ago, I handed some guy a flyer who took it coldly and stared at me as if he wanted to punch me - it was one of the bullies from high school, and then I realised he's still hanging in the same crowd (the rest of the bullies) . . . and I wasnt actually afraid like I used to be (no explanation for that one), I handed everyone else a flyer and walked away. So many bullies from school went off to other places to study, and ended up coming back to this city coz they didnt make any friends in other places, it kinda makes me feel sorry (for them) that they havent quite grown up and learnt to be social with other people.

[CrapshoT]

I was picked on at school as well as at home.I was a bit of a tubby kid.Grange hill and Roland didn't help.Even tho i looked nothing like him. One day i just snapped and kicked 7 shades out of the "hardest" lad in our area.I also knocked 7 bells out of 2 of his mates who jumped in and tried to help him.The others just ran off.It was the talk of the town.It back fired tho as all the "hard" lads heard about it so they all wanted a go.So morning after morning before the school bus's came I would be behind the local pub scrapping with some other "hard" dude.This went on for a couple of weeks.Then I was known as the "hardest"in my area.It never went to my head.I never bullied.I helped out people who were getting bullied.Sort of a gentle "hard" lad.I'm soft as clarts now tho.

[Theo]

I helped out people who were getting bullied.

Like Spiderman!

I didn't get bullied at school... just a bit of ribbing, but nothing I couldn't laugh at. Had a few scraps with a few people who thought they could have a go, and came out on top. Suppose I just hung out with a decent crowd, tbh.

[Shogun]

Like Spiderman!

I didn't get bullied at school... just a bit of ribbing, but nothing I couldn't laugh at. Had a few scraps with a few people who thought they could have a go, and came out on top. Suppose I just hung out with a decent crowd, tbh.

You got lucky tbh Im used to it all now anyway, been coping with it since year 4.

[Moonshade]

Yeah, I got pretty much bullied actually Dunno why really, they always came up with new ideas! I suffered from that for about 8 years or something! It wasn't funny at all. Although the guys that bullied me started later, when I was in 3th grade or something, before that it was always the girls..and they kept on doing it. I got beaten up a lot of times, and it was like the teachers saw that but they didn't want to see it so therefor they ignored it :/.

Actually one time a guy took me in to one of the men-changing rooms that were used by the boys in my class..and he stared to comment my clothes, my face etc, etc. And when I didn't say: Yes, you're right, back he hitted me. So I went from there with a lot of blood coming from my nose/face .


And actually I had a really hard time getting over that, and I guess that it's still there..in my head, never really got over it! And still there are some girls in the other class (same grade though) that is still doing it, though now it's a bit easier handling that beacause I got a lot of good friends backing me up.

Actually when people talks about bullies, a lot talks about Boys, although..okay boys can hit etc, but it was actually the girls who did the physical damage. The boys did the fysical ones! .

I'm still filled with anguish and bad self-confidence because of that..
Most of the fears and all I suffered from then are gone..but it's still inside and I don't think that will go away..ever.