Great..

[Cat Woman]

The best advice I can give you (and its not even advice!) is that time is the best and probably most effective healer!

I apologize if you've heard that a lot since the break up

(PS-Men mess with womens heads too!)

[0iD]

Oh go on Mr Dynamite, you know you want to.

So it's true then, one touch of the old plunger & it's bang, all over.... pass the cleanex

[Honoop]

Oh bless ya....

there's some fab advice in these posts tho - and some VERY funny comments!
But everyone is right, pick yourself up and above all KEEP SMILING!

We all get dragged through rubbish like this - Ive been through enough of it in the past couple of years, the important thing is to learn from it.
Im hoping this is what Ive done.... coz I (unfortunately) have the habit of turning into a proper psycho once Ive been dumped - its not pretty and you end up feeling like a right pillock when your brain is back in rational mode again!!!

Its all coz of rejection, being hurt and it dents your confidence.....
But DO remember that the person thought enough of you in the first place to get involved and the reasons for it ending are more than likely completely beyond your control - so brushing yourself off, being civil and moving on is for the best.

Oh, and if you see her again, be sure to be nice to her. No matter WHAT happened or happens, be nice... it reaps its own rewards, in whatever way you wish, everytime.

^ Never a truer word spoken... Ive got SO much more respect for those that I am still in touch with and can speak to and actually call my friends still. It goes a very long way.
The guy who will one day be my Ex-Hubby is an IDIOT in every way and on the rare occassions we are in contact he is as nasty and vindictive as you like - its gonna get him no where in the long run, coz I got no time or respect for him.

Keep ur chin up my dear - this is all character building!!
Grab life by the horns and go live it!!

[Elmo]

You said it, Fi.

Why? You angling for an excuse to find out?

I think everyone else knew what i was meaning... you seemed obvlivious to it tho shame

[Stewart]

I think everyone else knew what i was meaning... you seemed obvlivious to it tho shame

Gagging for it.

I know you are spoken for, but the grass is always greener...

[Knoxville]

84 minutes including taxi, pizza and sexual goings on? Can tell what the 4 minutes was

As for men messing with womens heads I don't see how tbh, we're far far simpler to understand, men have very few if any hidden motives and we don't go from happy to ball bustingly angry in under a second with no provocation. There are indeed some nice girls in the world, 11 by my count, all unattainable for various reasons

[Kezzer]

84 minutes including taxi, pizza and sexual goings on? Can tell what the 4 minutes was

As for men messing with womens heads I don't see how tbh, we're far far simpler to understand, men have very few if any hidden motives and we don't go from happy to ball bustingly angry in under a second with no provocation. There are indeed some nice girls in the world, 11 by my count, all unattainable for various reasons

So true. I live with girls and one of them goes from literally happy and laughing to screaming and shouting in under a second if i say one little thing that wouldn't piss anyone off!

[Tifosi]

There are indeed some nice girls in the world, 11 by my count, all unattainable for various reasons

That's great made me smile a lot

[Howard]

I still remember my first g/f, cheated on me and got her new b/f and his mates to beat me up and throw me off a bridge.

[Lee H]

I though the same.

Bang out of order doing anything like that what so ever.

I say get the horde down and throw all them in the river

[EDIT] As for women mate.... chin up fella, go out at the weekend - dance with confidence and I bet you will get some attention from at least one girl. Always works and usually the trade in is a lot better .... think of it as trading in your car for a newer model

[Allen]

Heh, can only see a red x here. I don't think they intentionally went out to throw me off it, but since it was nearby and I wasn't going down, they decided to throw me off...

Luckily it was a small bridge over a river. Unluckily it was very shallow.

[Howard]

It's just a little "wtf" smiley

[Allen]

I say get the horde down and throw all them in the river

Whilst in game I would do that, I wouldn't condone it outside. A few mates offered to drive round and pay this "new boyfriend" a visit, but I pleaded them not to, coz at the end of the day it would have just come back round to me again and I would've got something worse. I just wanted to get out of their lives tbh.

[Knoxville]

[EDIT] As for women mate.... chin up fella, go out at the weekend - dance with confidence and I bet you will get some attention from at least one girl. Always works and usually the trade in is a lot better .... think of it as trading in your car for a newer model

He's 15, they don't get much newer

[Elmo]

As for men messing with womens heads I don't see how tbh, we're far far simpler to understand, men have very few if any hidden motives and we don't go from happy to ball bustingly angry in under a second with no provocation.

Actually they do. Believe me.

Gagging for it.

I know you are spoken for, but the grass is always greener...

Aye, shame ur grass is brown tho really innit

[Galant]

Aye, shame ur grass is brown tho really innit

Ouch!




As for guys messing with heads...they do - I'd sum it up in one word - manipulation - using the right words to achieve a certain 'goal'.

Girls, if your guy has been talking a good talk for a while, and you've been complying but you've not actually been getting what you've hoped for in terms of care, affection, love and committment - I hate to say it, but there's a good chance he's more involved with himself (his own pleasure - physical and emotional) than he is with you.

If there's one thing a lot of girls need to learn, it's that they need to quit living off IOU's and instead only respond to guy who IS what he says he is.

Oh and XA04 here's my 10 pence:

Time and life are investments and as wit all investments certain rules apply.

People always hope for great things in the future, but most are unprepared to miss out on things in present in order to prepare for that future - the result - their dreams always remain dreams and they spend their whole life hoping.

Time is worth more than amount. That is, it's better start off investing early, even if it's with little, that to start late with a lot - this world will honour time more and you will get a greater return.

Beware the perpetual circle of 'It's just around the next corner'. There are many sparkling promises but few that pay off, especially in the short term. The quicker a person can learn to see through the fancies of the present, stop repepating the same mistakes and take the longer route working to build that which you really want - the better - it will come with time and effort, it will not come 'quick and easy'.

All that then to say this - your time and your youth are your most valuable assests right now. I guarantee you that if you take them, and start investing in them and your life - by diversifying and building character and skills, interests and knowledge and other such things, you will become a person who rises above the majority. You will be more satisfied with things, and you will then attract the right people and, having learned discipline and true value, will be able to make the best decisions. That includes in relationships.

Young (or should I say, immature, since time does not guarantee maturity) relationships promise a lot and can be very intoxicating - but the intoxicated person is one who is susceptible to much waste and pain. One the greatest pieces of advice I ever heard on relationships is "Be the right person". By working on yourself, your character and getting to know who you are you will identify weaknesses and strengths and will be able to avoid people who prey on those weaknesses (whether they know they do or not), as well as, of course, working through them. Also, you'll be able to know that which you really want and not be as susceptible to yourself! That is, doing things and repeating behaviours that are trying to fulfill some need but only pacify and do not satisfy.

Well, that was an essay, I'd just say one more thing, in all this right now, with all your emotion do not forget two things - peace and forgiveness. It is true that far more powerful than the effect of someone else's behaviour on your life is your own response to that behaviour. You cannot control what people will do to you, but you can control ho you respond to it. Bitterness and anger change nothing in the situation but can lock you up for years. Always try to do your best to forgive others and treat them with mercy and care - as far as you are able. It wil benefit YOU far more in the present and the future, with peace inside and out.

Continue in grace sir.