Great..

[Stewart]

Aye, shame ur grass is brown tho really innit

Harsh but fair.

[Tifosi]

Vaul grab some of this she'll be falling over you in no time.

[da.Guvna]

Hahaha, ah god. I wasn't gonna post in this thread cos so many people have already said the same thing, but then I JUST got this email and it fits the subject far too well.

http://homepages.nildram.co.uk/~hopper18/Women_.pps

You're obviously better off dude

[XA04]

Ouch!




As for guys messing with heads...they do - I'd sum it up in one word - manipulation - using the right words to achieve a certain 'goal'.

Girls, if your guy has been talking a good talk for a while, and you've been complying but you've not actually been getting what you've hoped for in terms of care, affection, love and committment - I hate to say it, but there's a good chance he's more involved with himself (his own pleasure - physical and emotional) than he is with you.

If there's one thing a lot of girls need to learn, it's that they need to quit living off IOU's and instead only respond to guy who IS what he says he is.

Oh and XA04 here's my 10 pence:

Time and life are investments and as wit all investments certain rules apply.

People always hope for great things in the future, but most are unprepared to miss out on things in present in order to prepare for that future - the result - their dreams always remain dreams and they spend their whole life hoping.

Time is worth more than amount. That is, it's better start off investing early, even if it's with little, that to start late with a lot - this world will honour time more and you will get a greater return.

Beware the perpetual circle of 'It's just around the next corner'. There are many sparkling promises but few that pay off, especially in the short term. The quicker a person can learn to see through the fancies of the present, stop repepating the same mistakes and take the longer route working to build that which you really want - the better - it will come with time and effort, it will not come 'quick and easy'.

All that then to say this - your time and your youth are your most valuable assests right now. I guarantee you that if you take them, and start investing in them and your life - by diversifying and building character and skills, interests and knowledge and other such things, you will become a person who rises above the majority. You will be more satisfied with things, and you will then attract the right people and, having learned discipline and true value, will be able to make the best decisions. That includes in relationships.

Young (or should I say, immature, since time does not guarantee maturity) relationships promise a lot and can be very intoxicating - but the intoxicated person is one who is susceptible to much waste and pain. One the greatest pieces of advice I ever heard on relationships is "Be the right person". By working on yourself, your character and getting to know who you are you will identify weaknesses and strengths and will be able to avoid people who prey on those weaknesses (whether they know they do or not), as well as, of course, working through them. Also, you'll be able to know that which you really want and not be as susceptible to yourself! That is, doing things and repeating behaviours that are trying to fulfill some need but only pacify and do not satisfy.

Well, that was an essay, I'd just say one more thing, in all this right now, with all your emotion do not forget two things - peace and forgiveness. It is true that far more powerful than the effect of someone else's behaviour on your life is your own response to that behaviour. You cannot control what people will do to you, but you can control ho you respond to it. Bitterness and anger change nothing in the situation but can lock you up for years. Always try to do your best to forgive others and treat them with mercy and care - as far as you are able. It wil benefit YOU far more in the present and the future, with peace inside and out.

Continue in grace sir.

Thanks for that, great advice, however even though i am young, it was serious, and it wasn't some stupid teenage relationship like young teenagers do, this was a dead serious relationship.

Oh bless ya....

there's some fab advice in these posts tho - and some VERY funny comments!
But everyone is right, pick yourself up and above all KEEP SMILING!

We all get dragged through rubbish like this - Ive been through enough of it in the past couple of years, the important thing is to learn from it.
Im hoping this is what Ive done.... coz I (unfortunately) have the habit of turning into a proper psycho once Ive been dumped - its not pretty and you end up feeling like a right pillock when your brain is back in rational mode again!!!

Its all coz of rejection, being hurt and it dents your confidence.....
But DO remember that the person thought enough of you in the first place to get involved and the reasons for it ending are more than likely completely beyond your control - so brushing yourself off, being civil and moving on is for the best.



^ Never a truer word spoken... Ive got SO much more respect for those that I am still in touch with and can speak to and actually call my friends still. It goes a very long way.
The guy who will one day be my Ex-Hubby is an IDIOT in every way and on the rare occassions we are in contact he is as nasty and vindictive as you like - its gonna get him no where in the long run, coz I got no time or respect for him.

Keep ur chin up my dear - this is all character building!!
Grab life by the horns and go live it!!

good advice also, rejection is what hurts the most though probably, or one of the worst parts.

I though the same.

Bang out of order doing anything like that what so ever.

I say get the horde down and throw all them in the river

[EDIT] As for women mate.... chin up fella, go out at the weekend - dance with confidence and I bet you will get some attention from at least one girl. Always works and usually the trade in is a lot better .... think of it as trading in your car for a newer model

Yea, some girls going to the party on Saturday, i don't exactly feel like going out to get another girlfriend, but it might make me feel better just mixing with other girls..

[XA04]

Hahaha, ah god. I wasn't gonna post in this thread cos so many people have already said the same thing, but then I JUST got this email and it fits the subject far too well.

http://homepages.nildram.co.uk/~hopper18/Women_.pps

You're obviously better off dude

lol, forgot to post about that. funny.

[Kitty]

can i just say most women are not like that,

im sorry to hear what happened to you tho, but luck on the bright side theres plenty of girls out there waiting to snap you up you just havent walk round that right corner yet, you well do tho trust me, keep your chin up and show her it int affected you big hugs x

[shiato storm]

Apparently selling them for slavery is not allowed either

damn...looks like that trip to morroco will have to be moved sooner then. what do you reckon, 7 camels?

?

[da.Guvna]

Those are the happiest looking camels I've ever seen, haha!

[shiato storm]

cause they've just been traded...you should see the guy who won the camels. might have lost a wife but now he can flee!!!

[XA04]

can i just say most women are not like that,

im sorry to hear what happened to you tho, but luck on the bright side theres plenty of girls out there waiting to snap you up you just havent walk round that right corner yet, you well do tho trust me, keep your chin up and show her it int affected you big hugs x

most women ARE like that, actually. as many have proven .

the relationship was serious, special. but she just changed, and lied, grrr.

thanks tho, i'm sure in time i'll find someone else

[Kezzer]

So what was her excuse?

And to be fair, i would say that 15 year old relationships can be serious, just for the simple fact that a friend of mine had been with his girlfriend since he was 15 and then they got married at 19 years old

[XA04]

So what was her excuse?

And to be fair, i would say that 15 year old relationships can be serious, just for the simple fact that a friend of mine had been with his girlfriend since he was 15 and then they got married at 19 years old

Indeed.
Lots of reasons really, i guess you could say it was a neutral seperation, she was treating me like **** most of the time. I had enough of her, i threatened to end it, and she actually did end it. I'm upset, but glad at the same time, confusing i know, but at least she can't hurt me anymore

[Kezzer]

Sounds like your first relationship to me. These things happen quite often to me

[Lee H]

Whilst in game I would do that, I wouldn't condone it outside.

I should have used the smilie to indicate I was taking the piste

Anyway... its sunny and that only means 1 thing... The sunshine sheilas are out in force and I've spotted about 10 so far....

I think tonight's beer garden visits going to be fun if the weather stays like this

[XA04]

Sounds like your first relationship to me. These things happen quite often to me

No, i've had relationships before, just nothing near serious. So i guess you could say it was my first real relationship, yeah.

[Kitty]

most women ARE like that, actually. as many have proven .

my god i wish i hadnt of bothered now i was only trying to be nice cus i no how it is to be hurt,

its not fair for you to judge most women by the acts of narrow minded few.