A strange time...

[iMc]

Having experianced violence at home, first with my mum and dad, and then even worse with my mum and "stepdad" (great job he did), I have a fairly good idea of what you must be feeling right now. From my experiance all I can say is that it is something that time heels more than anything you can do right now. Just focus on looking after the people you care about and hopefully they will do the same for you.

Stay strong, but don't feel as though it is up to you to sort everything out.

[Tobeman]

I found my father cheating on my mother, and I didn't mention anything to prevent a breakup. However, just over a year later (August this year), it all came to light and my mum chucked him out. I'm in a fairly similar position, luckily however, I don't have the violence. I can't really go on though, my problems seem fairly nothingy compared to you guys. I just didn't expect it, whatsoever. The past few years I have found out so much about my family, I thought we were "normal".

Hope things get better kezzer!

[shelley bda]

So much to deal with kezzer Big hugs to you right now thoughts to your Mum and Bro also, just make sure you stick together and support each other, you won't go far wrong

Just remember hon, what doesn't kill us makes us stronger

[XA04]

I'm sorry to hear about everything going on in your life, I guess life can't always be fun though!.

Hope everything sorts itself out as I'm sure it will!

[smtkr]

Only time can heal these wounds. Cheer up, mate. Things will get better; they always do. My parents both cheated on each other and went through a nasty two year legal battle my senior year in high school (3-4 years ago). It's not even comparable to what you have witnessed, but my point is that I'm happier now than I have ever been. It really helps to fall back on friends for support and pick up a few hobbies. Good luck.

[Ramedge]

lo kezzer, dude really sorry to hear about your family!
theres not alot i can say with out repeating what other people have already said! can just show my support! It must be such a hard time for you at the moment, but make sure it doesnt effect your work!

Chin up lad !

P.S fancy putting your guitar on you back and trecking it over here for abit of a jam session hehe

[Honoop]

Kezzer... mate, what a time you are going through. Really feel for you. Read about what happened before and am so sorry that things have got to this stage.

Thanks for sharing it with us though - Hexus is one of those places where there is always plenty of people looking out for you and we all have life experiences to share.

When I was a teenager my mum and step-dad used to have massive arguements and some of them would end in fist fights and more often than not the house being trashed. Nothing near as bad as what you and your family are going through, but if you and your mum and brother can get through this together by being there for one another then together nothing can beat you.

Stay strong - we are all here for you!

Jen

[Kezzer]

The past few years I have found out so much about my family, I thought we were "normal".

That's the main point yeh, I thought we were 'normal' until this happened.

I spoke to my sister today, apparently my dad says nothing is going on still and he's doing the whole guilt trip, I know what he's like.

Cheers for the rest of the comments guys, they're much appreciated

[autopilot]

This may sound strange, but sometimes these situations need to come to a head. Maybe this will be the wake up call he needs and could actually help him. Sometimes life is like a big game of Jenga - things need to fall apart completely before you can start to put it back together again properly. But whatever you do, don't blame yourself for any of it. Also, your dad may have been acting like a rubbishrubbishrubbishrubbish, but he is obviously not well. Don't push him away if you feel you can rebuild. I know people who have been though worse (much much worse - i am a kind of social worker now and i work with toubled young kids) and they have come out the other side against all the odds and now have amazing relationships with thier parents, even if they don't live together anymore (my parents also split up in spectacular fashion when i was a kid).

Tough deal mate, i have had simular problems like this myself, but you will be ok dude. Life is a hard learning curve but you will be a better person for it.
All i can say mate is keep you chin up. You will end up a better and stronger person for all this and one day it will all be a memory, albeit not the best.