Last minute confidence

[TheAnimus]

at the end of the day as long as your polite cortious and darn right nicely loveable, the worst that will happen is you'll end up been friends, or finding out she's a total bitch, or finding out you can't do "nicely loveable"

your at 6th form, don't think too much into it, they'll be plenty of time for self discovery until your 30! heck goto uni.

If at 16 someone said casual sex would of made me feal physically sick because of how bad i felt that she was starting to really love me, and didn't her, i wouldn't really of belived it. But i'm ment to be slightly OCD ne way.

In short, relax, enjoy the ride and just be friendly. Theres plenty of places to be mean and horrible (like secondary school, the internet, usenet etc.)

[XA04]

note = bad idea. The girl will want you to be natural, note is...too much, freaky, and says "I don't know how to talk to you", thats bad.

Yeah, that's what I was thinking.. well, similar, and I want to be able to talk to her anyway, not write 'notes' to her. But was just an idea, I might of been wrong.

[XA04]

at the end of the day as long as your polite cortious and darn right nicely loveable, the worst that will happen is you'll end up been friends, or finding out she's a total bitch, or finding out you can't do "nicely loveable"

your at 6th form, don't think too much into it, they'll be plenty of time for self discovery until your 30! heck goto uni.

If at 16 someone said casual sex would of made me feal physically sick because of how bad i felt that she was starting to really love me, and didn't her, i wouldn't really of belived it. But i'm ment to be slightly OCD ne way.

In short, relax, enjoy the ride and just be friendly. Theres plenty of places to be mean and horrible (like secondary school, the internet, usenet etc.)

I am at secondary school..lol. And am not going to 6th form after either... college.

[camalbitboy]

Problem there I rekon was the audience, for you and her. In that situation both of you are more worried about how this looks to the crowd than working out if you actually like each other and wanna go out.
I think the best thing is to wing it. Sort out in your head what you want and then wait for an opportunity to say it. And it doesn't mean that you can't increase your opportunities by taking routes where your more likely to bump into each other.
I've never managed to ask a girl out when I planned it, but done well when I've just winged it. Reduces pressure on you.
I think just wait till you pass in a corridor and coller her like Herulach suggests. Fewer witnesses if you wipe out as well.
You never get if you don't ask, but always be prepared to accept that they might say no. Risks are worth it

[Kaine (AoD)]

Dude, next time you see her just have a quick word, if shes with mates just ask her if you could talk in private for a minute or two and explain ur situation ^ ^

Keep your head up high and dont think about this to much, also if you get a minute with her ask for her mobile maybe if you could send msg's you two could talk alot easier as it does seem that you are both very very shy *awwww*

[XA04]

Thanks for that camalbitboy. Recently.. strangely, I've been seeing her a LOT in the coridoors, but don't say anything because it doesn't seem like the right place to start a convo?.. especially between lessons, we don't have any time between, just got to go straight there.

My brother just reminded me lol... where she was at lunch, was where my little brothers form room is, and guess what, he came by and saw me when I was there.. and he just told me now I was blushing like a red rooster (now he knows I'm shy and blush when shy.. but he said he's never seen me like it), which was embaressing lol. He kept asking me what they were saying/wanting.

[XA04]

Dude, next time you see her just have a quick word, if shes with mates just ask her if you could talk in private for a minute or two and explain ur situation ^ ^

Keep your head up high and dont think about this to much, also if you get a minute with her ask for her mobile maybe if you could send msg's you two could talk alot easier as it does seem that you are both very very shy *awwww*

lol. Yeah, not a bad idea, I don't want to seem rude though if I ask to talk in private but I guess her friends won't mind. I'm trying not to think about it and just see the positive side of things..

[specofdust]

If you see her in the corridor lots just say Hi, saying Hi to most of the people you know will actually have a big impact on how people view you, you'd be surprised, but acnologing people when passing them in a corridor seems to make a big impact on how they view you

[XA04]

If you see her in the corridor lots just say Hi, saying Hi to most of the people you know will actually have a big impact on how people view you, you'd be surprised, but acnologing people when passing them in a corridor seems to make a big impact on how they view you

Hmm, fair enough. I say Hi to everyone else so I don't see why I shouldn't with her, sometimes it's hard though, especially at last minute... the busy coridoors between lessons.. everyone passes so fast, with hardly no time to say hi . But that's something to start trying yeah. Thanks

[camalbitboy]

Don't worry about the blushing thing. There's nothing that you can do about it, and worrying about it actually makes it worse. That part of the reason I like the wininging it plan (or lack of plan) that I like. Your in asking the question before you get a chance to get embarressed.
A simple quick "Hi the new (insert film of choice) is out and I was wondering if you'd like to come and see it with me this weekend" you should be able to manage in the corridors, and don't pressure her for an answer, just ask her to let you know if she does.
Thats my theory anyway.

[XA04]

Don't worry about the blushing thing. There's nothing that you can do about it, and worrying about it actually makes it worse. That part of the reason I like the wininging it plan (or lack of plan) that I like. Your in asking the question before you get a chance to get embarressed.
A simple quick "Hi the new (insert film of choice) is out and I was wondering if you'd like to come and see it with me this weekend" you should be able to manage in the corridors, and don't pressure her for an answer, just ask her to let you know if she does.
Thats my theory anyway.

Sounds fair enough I guess.

But I really do need to speak to her alone sometime >_<.

[Kaine (AoD)]

lol. Yeah, not a bad idea, I don't want to seem rude though if I ask to talk in private but I guess her friends won't mind. I'm trying not to think about it and just see the positive side of things..

yea i can imagine its the only thing on your mind at the moment.. i have my own remedies for this but i cant state them here ^ ^

As of yet I could personally see nothing negitive there.. you still shouldnt have a thing to worry about mate also a long shot.. but sometimes laydes use PCs lol see if she got an e-mail address or if you dont fancy askin her for that one directly, ask one of her friends if she has msn (or what ever) and pass them your addy.. another way to easily speak to someone you are shy too (person experiences in the same situation as you tbh )

its been stated before but actin to confident may turn out to be quite bad, and if she is shy aswell she may feel a bit (non sexual refernced.... ) dominated and kinda makes them back down a bit a feel you are pushin them in to things.

Obviously not the case for all situations tho so its all really like cards you need to play your hand right to win

TBH woman are to much hassle ^ ^ keep up the good work tho build some type of friendship up aswell even if its as starbust says.. just say hi on the way past if you dont have time to talk or if shes with all her friends, make sure she knows you have noticed her

[Funkstar]

little brothers are gits, i should know, i am a little brother

[XA04]

yea i can imagine its the only thing on your mind at the moment.. i have my own remedies for this but i cant state them here ^ ^

As of yet I could personally see nothing negitive there.. you still shouldnt have a thing to worry about mate also a long shot.. but sometimes laydes use PCs lol see if she got an e-mail address or if you dont fancy askin her for that one directly, ask one of her friends if she has msn (or what ever) and pass them your addy.. another way to easily speak to someone you are shy too (person experiences in the same situation as you tbh )

its been stated before but actin to confident may turn out to be quite bad, and if she is shy aswell she may feel a bit (non sexual refernced.... ) dominated and kinda makes them back down a bit a feel you are pushin them in to things.

Obviously not the case for all situations tho so its all really like cards you need to play your hand right to win

TBH woman are to much hassle ^ ^ keep up the good work tho build some type of friendship up aswell even if its as starbust says.. just say hi on the way past if you dont have time to talk or if shes with all her friends, make sure she knows you have noticed her

Yeah, it's suprising actually.. there is bloody tons of people who use MSN and stuff, in almost every lesson girls/lads everyone will mention sometime or another that they have MSN etc.
Well, I admited to been shy when I was there, was that a good or bad thing?.
Thanks for that.. lots of positive posts, feel much better already . I can see how just saying hi to her makes her feel noticed, better than me pretending I havn't seen her :|.

little brothers are gits, i should know, i am a little brother

And bloody nightmares most of the time lol.. but then again, I'm a little brother.. twice *scratches head*.

[Kaine (AoD)]

being shy is never a bad thing really, kinda shows that you like someone if you are shy whiles talking to them and MOST girls find it sweet if someones shy ^ ^ especial if you are shy coz of them

Then again that all depends on the type of girl, if shes a butch tomboy ud probs get a smack round the face but im guessin shes not lol

[XA04]

lol. Yeah, she's not mouthy.. and not a bitch (at least it doesn't seem like it atm, and I semi-know some of her friends, and they don't seem to be bitches either).

She knows I'm shy, she has to, tons of reasons lol. She was shy too though.. I think.