Dating a girl with a child

[shelley bda]

Yes yes, I agree, Room on a Broom is very good...I also like Where's my teddy and Itchy Bear Can't go wrong with Very Hungry Caterpillar either!

Loving stories is one of the most special things to pass on to a child...As well as introducing literacy, and making meaning, it inspires that imaginative development. My toddlers at work are just crazy for books They love The Gruffalo! which goes without saying. Fish who could wish, and a welsh version of 'Goodnight Spot' 'Nos Da Smot Even the English speakers love that one It's great for introducing children to a new language.

[Moby-Dick]

Actually this is my new childrens favourite

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Story-Little.../dp/1856024407


I have also got a copy of "go the **** to sleep" but you have to read it in a samuel L jackson voice

[Gremlin_FLG]

I have also got a copy of "go the **** to sleep" but you have to read it in a samuel L jackson voice

Care to spell the **** please

[Funkstar]

Loving stories is one of the most special things to pass on to a child...As well as introducing literacy, and making meaning, it inspires that imaginative development.

Couldn't agree more. We've just finished reading The Twits to our 4 1/2 year old, she totally loved it. The chapters are really small, so just a couple a night read by mum or dad, but not by big brother or sister as it was "a mummy and daddy thing" according to her. She has an incredible memory, we hadn't read it for a few nights and she could tell us exactly what was going on in the last chapters, and kept quoting things from the start of the book even though she'd only heard it once.

[Biscuit]

I wish I could remember the books that she had, some of the ones you have mentioned ring a bell but given I only 'read' them once, and I didn't really get through them. In my mind I kept going back to the black books episode where they write a children's book and thinking, 'I bet its REALLY hard to make an engaging book like this' for toddlers.

I also remember struggling with them a little bit, because I spend most of my time skimming technical papers full of acronyms. Yeah sure, I read fiction in my personal time, but reading a book to yourself in your head is so different to reading it out-loud and trying to animate it... aside from feeling a bit silly and worrying I was doing it wrong, my brain was going into overdrive a bit!

[melon]

I wish I could remember the books that she had, some of the ones you have mentioned ring a bell but given I only 'read' them once, and I didn't really get through them. In my mind I kept going back to the black books episode where they write a children's book and thinking, 'I bet its REALLY hard to make an engaging book like this' for toddlers.

I also remember struggling with them a little bit, because I spend most of my time skimming technical papers full of acronyms. Yeah sure, I read fiction in my personal time, but reading a book to yourself in your head is so different to reading it out-loud and trying to animate it... aside from feeling a bit silly and worrying I was doing it wrong, my brain was going into overdrive a bit!

You could do what Mani did and dress up as something like a giant caterpillar

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[Biscuit]

You could do what Mani did and dress up as something like a giant caterpillar

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Haha, as hilarious as that would be ill put money on it scaring the crap out of her!

[Stoo]

Dr Suess!

The Digging-est Dog was another favourite of mine when I was very small

[Biscuit]

Thought I would pop back onto this thread to give everyone an update.
I have been seeing the girl quite a bit, but she has been letting her mum look after the little girl so for a while, there wasn't a lot to report. Yesterday I met up with her and her daughter in leeds and did a bit of shopping. The daughter was asleep when we arrived (this was the mothers cunning plan so that we could have a bit of time alone first) but despite sleeping through some unbelievable city noise, she then woke up in a quiet shop. To let her wake up properly, we sat in a coffee shop and had a drink and a chat. I had bought her a giant bourbon, purely for my own selfish wish to see a little girl with a giant biscuit... But it was a bit too hard for her i think and she didn't like it :-(

She was a little hesitant with me at first but as the day went on she got used to me and even started trying to say my name.

Dispite a heart racing moment in glassware and ceramics section of TK max when she decided to run off (I just caught a huge glass vase in time before it hit the floor... Eeek!) we had a very funny day of her telling me what clothes were good and bad.
Best moment of the day was just before they left when we were chasing pigeons around an empty market place. All the slapstick running around and making silly noises seemed to go down well and she would not stop laughing. The mum basically sat and let me look after her in the bus station as she ran around blowing bubbles and chasing birds

The mother now thinks I'm the best thing in the world so im feeling pretty good about myself!

Thanks again for the advice everyone has given me, it's definitely helped and I'm hugely appreciative.

[Stringent]

Glad its going well.

[Gremlin_FLG]

Good to know it is going good as well. When she wakes up give her time

[Phage]

"chasing pigeons around an empty market place, all the slapstick running around and making silly noises seemed to go down well."

I think this is true for all of us !

[peterb]

Really pleased it went well for you (and the little one!). (Leeds market - brings back memories!)

Just one little word if caution - which I'm sure you will have thought about - as things develop, you are building a relationship with the daughter as well as her mother, and if things don't turn out quite as you hoped, it may have an impact on the daughter too. Children are more resilient than we sometimes give them credit for, but it is something you might want to bear in mind.

On a brighter note, next time you visit take them to Salvos in Headingley - the BEST pizzeria ever - outside Italy!

[Biscuit]

Really pleased it went well for you (and the little one!). (Leeds market - brings back memories!)

Just one little word if caution - which I'm sure you will have thought about - as things develop, you are building a relationship with the daughter as well as her mother, and if things don't turn out quite as you hoped, it may have an impact on the daughter too. Children are more resilient than we sometimes give them credit for, but it is something you might want to bear in mind.

On a brighter note, next time you visit take them to Salvos in Headingley - the BEST pizzeria ever - outside Italy!

I had considered that and i have told her that it concerns me, she has been completely understanding about it. Unfortunately its just one of those things though, i don't think there is a lot i can do to try and avoid that without appearing like I'm deliberately not getting involved at all. Guess its a pretty thin line between the two!

Noted on the Pizzaria, will make sure i check it out next time I'm back there

[Zak33]

Biscuit... mate... I'm so pleased for you and this new lass in your life and her daughter.

I will now be bold: and I'm normally bold anyway !

Spend time on your relationship with the new lady in your life and let the realtionship with her daughter occur naturally now.

The reason I say this is ... organic and natural realtionships work from happy parents most times,

I met my wife, and fell in love with HER without needing to impress her with my parental skills.

THEN we had a kid. We became parents after falling in love.

I know for you it's about making sure she knows you're ok with her being a mum, and franklly... I think you have.... but now, its you and the new lady now bud.

I don't mean ignore the little girl.. you know that. And I think you'll find kindness natural tbh....be nice to the little girl, and be the best you can be.... always (I kinda know you will actually- you're a nice guy)

But now make your relationship with your new potential woman work. The kid will, literally, be happy for you being her mum's best mate.

One day, if you all gel, you'll end up telling that little girl off and then reading her a story.. and taking her to school maybe, sittin her on the naughty step, then planting seedsin the garden within an hour. Kids moods flex like a fishing rod.. they really do. But you need now to concentrate on your bit of it

[Gremlin_FLG]

Zakk33:
In your case, you met your wife and fell in love with her.. and than had a kid..

In Biscuit case, she already has a daughter from a previous relationship. If she does not see a good relationship being built between biscuit and her daughter, maternal instincts will kick in and will end the relationship.. The way she is seeing it, she is not alone she has a daughter and not by herself..