proving your love

[Big RICHARD]

IMO, you shouldn't have to 'prove' your love for anyone else.

[TiG]

A quite agree Big_Richard, but if you do love someone you don't need to as the stuff you do will make the person know that already, Sorry to make you unhappy iMc but what i say is the truth in my opinion.

And with you response it sounds like you've got some thinking to do..

TiG

[Captain Fizz]

You cannot prove love.

It is a a certain state that your head goes into and no-one can prove or disprove anything which goes on inside your own head.

If someone kept bugging me to prove my love for them, I would probably get fed up with them and tell them to take a hike TBH...

But that's wimmin for ya - Always asking for the impossible!

[death-adder]

if you ACT like you love someone there wont be any question at all, if there is maybe the person questioning needs some counseling.
showing that you love someone is more important than saying it,after all if all you even do is SAY it and do nothing to back up your words how is she suppose to believe it? if you DO show your love and she questions it still then she has issues.
when I was with my ex fiance he SAID he loved me alot but he never did anything to prove it to me,he ignored me all the time.

[Nick]

How about flipping the question around... "Prove I DON'T love you".

Someone asking to prove your love for them is missing something and it might not be anything you've done (or not done). Perhaps she's expecting to feel different than how she feels, maybe she needs to be shown you love her in some way. That's all fair enough, but I'd only don a meat suit and jump through flaming rings ONCE. After that, if she needs it re-affirming then there's something up.

Now don't all go mad on me here, ladies, but women are particularly good at mental power games. If you're honest with yourselves girls, you'll know I'm right. It could be she's playing some sort of game with you here, to make sure she's got you wrapped around your finger.

Me and the missus always muck around with each other saying stiff like 'You would if you loved me...' over trivial things like who's going to make the next cuppa, but if she actually MEANT it, then that's a different matter altogether.

In my extremely humble opinion neither person should have to prove they love the other. It should just be accepted that they do and the taken on trust that its true.

[Jimmy Little]

It’s tough mate, a GOOD & SIMPLE way to show your love is by making 'Sacrifices' by this it could mean cancelling the boys night out and taking the lady out, I think women liked to be 'chosen' and to feel ‘number 1’ all the time, if you cancel or change something that is normally important to you such as the lads night out, footy, gym, ect... and then replace it with something she would love it does tend to work.

As for proving your love and her doubting it, well that is just down to insecurities, I should know I have been there… see some of my threads in this ‘ladies forum’ you just need to keep reassuring….

[Allen]

"Love is a device designed by bank managers to make us fella's go overdrawn..."

Can't remember who said that, but I like it.

Some girls like to be showered with gifts and affection, others notice the more simple things you do. No-one on here can give you a definate answer to your question, as your love for your girlfriend/wife will be different to anothers love for their girlfriend/wife.

[Jimmy Little]

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

"the bible"

[CrapshoT]

Entirely impossible. We are not supposed to understand them. Just do as you are told and tell them that you do love them every so often. They get the message in the end.

This is as good as it gets m8.After 9 years of rarely telling my wife I love her she knows I do.Just cos of all we've been through.Nowadays if she says I don't love her I just grab her gaze deep in to her eye's and give her a loving kiss and she always say's I know you really do.It's all in the eye's.lol

[Emzay]

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

"the bible"

I cant say I'm at all religious, but that's so true :/

[RVF500]

Be careful mate. Once you fall into that thrap then you are a sitting duck for 'If you loved me you would...' and that gets expensive.

The other one is change. Why do women always want to change us? Ok, they say improve. I got a bit cheesed off with this early in my marriage and told my wife if she wanted to change me so much then I obviously wasn't who/what she was looking for and she'd be happier with someone else. She decided I wasn't that bad in stock format after all and options for change were left to those that come with age and maturity

Now don't all go mad on me here, ladies, but women are particularly good at mental power games. If you're honest with yourselves girls, you'll know I'm right. It could be she's playing some sort of game with you here, to make sure she's got you wrapped around your finger.

I'll jump in the ring alongside you there Deckard and say I couldn't agree more. Been on the receiving end of the mental power games a few times myself. From more than one person.

[shiato storm]

Be careful mate. Once you fall into that thrap then you are a sitting duck for 'If you loved me you would...' and that gets expensive.

its a form of manipulation - and i don't stand for that kind of cr*p, no matter who its from. if they resort to manipulation type tactics then to be honest, they're not worth it. if they can't be honest with you one moment how bad is it going to be later on down the line?! give 'em a slap and send her packing...

[petrefax]

.....The other one is change. Why do women always want to change us? ....

another random quote

"when a man & woman get married, the woman expects the man to change & he doesn't. the man expects the woman not to change & she does"

i'm pretty much the same person i was when i was 20 years old, i've changed very little & have many of the same attitudes towards life, i look much the same (ok, so a few wrinkles & the occasional grey hair aside). thats not to say i'm childish, at least i don't feel i am, but the beleifs i hold & the attitudes i have towards many things are the same as in my 20s

i've lost count of the number of relationships i've lost on account of not changing, i've actually had it said to me a few times that this is why i was being dumped, becuase i "never change" and to be honest on some occasions it was a releif since sometimes the girl in question had changed beyond all recognition herself

aaanyway....thread back on topic, nothing to see here

[GBDarkAngel]

I dont think you can prove love either to anyone but yourself.