proving your love

[iMc]

How on earth do you prove to a woman you love them, when they say you dont, whenever you say you do!

I think it may be impossible.

[menthel]

Entirely impossible. We are not supposed to understand them. Just do as you are told and tell them that you do love them every so often. They get the message in the end.

[Moonshade]

How on earth do you prove to a woman you love them, when they say you dont, whenever you say you do!

I think it may be impossible.

Hm, that is a tricky question I know it is, even though I'm a woman myself Well, if this woman keeps telling you she doesn't think you love her..it might be for 2 reason (I think?)

Reason 1: She wants to hear it a lot, and be spoiled away
Reason 2: She doesn't think you do, and you really have to make something to show her you do.

Sometimes you want more than just words, why don't you take this woman out etc..spoil her a bit and then she what she says. If that wont work, the easily tell her: "- I love you, but it seems like whatever I do, you reject me. Tell me, what can I do to prove this to you?"

She must answer you, don't leave without an answer .

Good Luck, mate!

[megah0]

when they say prove that you love them you might as well give up and walk away.

Or you could dress in a meat suit and jump through flaming hoops chased by a pack of rottweilers to "prove" your love.

[ACiD303]

How on earth do you prove to a woman you love them

Stand on the edge of a very high building and tell her you'd jump for her. Of course, be sure she doesnt, in any way, wants rid of you before doing it

You could always do something original for her . . . something that shows youve put time and effort into making or doing . . . if thats not enough, sod it, too high maintenance!

[Lee H]

dunno mate ... its one of the aged old questions of the world and if I had an answer for this then I'd patent it and make a fortune

Seriously though, they DO know when you mean it. I'm fortunate to have a young woman in my life at the moment who txts me romantic messages all the time while I'm at work and is always at the end of the phone if I need a chat/whinge/moan etc.

Just a pity the bugger lives so far away that I only get to see her at weekends

[TechnoKitty]

Just a pity the bugger lives so far away that I only get to see her at weekends

I know the feeling! Three hour drive for one of us each weekend.

Sometimes I don't know if my bloke really means it but I'm slowly soming round to the fact that he does! Its just an insecurity thing rather than me doubting him.

[lynni]

2 and a half crossing across the irish sea for us, sometimes in very BUMPY conditions.... we only see each other at weekends as well been nearly 18 months now, and were still going strong

I dont think you have to prove your love for someone, but it is nice to be shown

[iMc]

BUMPY when your both on the boat I take it .

[TiG]

only you should be able to answer that question to be honest, only when you truely love someone do you know how they will appreciate it being shown, if you don't truely love someone then i doubt its possible.

TiG

[iMc]

now i feel gutted.

[lynni]

now i feel gutted.

why? whats happened

[iMc]

TiGs post made me feel bad! But i know I do! Damn insecurities...

[lynni]

TiGs post made me feel bad! But i know I do! Damn insecurities...

you cant take what someone is saying over a keyboard seriously!! we all have different perceptions on this..... doesnt mean your an awful boyfriend/husband. Unless you know something we dont?

[Galant]

Speak with your actions - talk is cheap.

And not just flowers, or chocs, or a date here and there or whatever. Tokens are great, but it can seem that you're trying to buy love or appease them rather than really love them.

Perhaps the best way to display love is sacrifice. If you love someone you will be willing to sacrifice for them. Not that love has to be pain and suffering, but that it's rare to find two people who have areof the same mind, desires and likes - all the time. What that means is that at some point one person will have to sacrifice something themselves to give something to the other. It could be time, an event, money, pride/ego.

If you've known this lady a while, perhaps pursue it, take your loving to a deeper level, if not, maybe re-evaluate. What's she looking for? What is she demanding? Can you communicate? And the sacrifice goes both ways - but nethier side can demand it from or force it on the other. It should come from the individual.

[PriestJPN]

Similar to what Galant said...

This sounds like a commitment issue IMHO; she wants to be sure you're worth investing the time and effort in. Of course its difficult for us guys to 'prove' our love to someone by a specific single action - I just interpret it as looking after her, doing the little things like picking her up at the station, making her a meal once a week, keeping things tidy, etc, etc. I'm not implying that you become a slave - I think its about moderation.

A surprise present or weekend away works wonders too (say once every 2 or 3 months). Especially so if you've had to save up for it, because your effort translates into a show of affection; i.e. I did this for you, just you, not anyone else....

Oh and speak your mind; never hold back or assume things, just be tactful when its needed.

Just my 2p worth...