What can i do? I think i've been robbed by my Girl Friend

[benji_boy]

small claims court! lol

nah only kidding, but can i ask why you have decided to tell everyone personal stuff like this? is it really something you want everyone to know? i know i wouldnt.....

and are you sure you never spent it already?

[Andeh13]

mate jsut ask her. It sounds like it was deff her, explain to her why theres no way it was anyone else, so she cant defend herself

Was going to be my reply.

Sit down with her, explain to her all the infomation.... family wouldnt do this, you counted it all(make a list like you did on this thread, showing her you know/have accounted for all the money, except the £60), and that you are perfectly clear where you left it all.

Sit down with her, making sure you are looking her in the eye and just explain to her how you werent sure about her first answer(''i didnt take it''). Explain to her you saw her going through your draws, and how it isnt possible(is it??) to knock into them and make stuff fall out - hell, try it yourself, then try it again in front of her just to make it 100% clear.

Explain to her your not going to be angry or hold it against her, and that if she needed the money then its fair enough, and that if things are tough at her end you will do all you can to help.

BUT: do this with your family/everyone else first, explain to them you need to get it all very clear before you confront your GF, and you need to be 100% sure of the facts.

tbh; 1 x £20 from each pile missing is very suspicious, and explain that to her. 3 missing from one pile swings more in the direction of you having lost it/it having slipped out somewhere, but 1 missing from each pile does make it look more like someone took it, hoping that 1 from each pile wouldnt be noticed.

Remember, your asking her questions, not accusing her of anything, if you start to accuse her she will get defensive and the chances are she will just turtle up, and you wont get anything out of her.

good luck with it mate.

[Matt1eD]

You're getting worried about whether it was her or not. That tells me something... you evidently don't trust her. All relationships have ups and downs, but by the sound of it from this holiday reaction she has a bit of a problem too. For a relationship to go anywhere in the long run you need honest real trust and that evidently doesn't exist on either side otherwise she would have asked for the money and you wouldn't be concerned about this.

If you really want to hold things together for the moment then sit down and have a chat about it, if you two can't talk about this without one of you running out of the room screaming and slamming doors etc. then there are going to problems down the line.

Whatever decision you take though. Good luck

[Dareos]

well, i was once in Ibiza and in a drunken stupor i took a *big boned* irish redhead girl back to my room (i redeemed myself later in the week, but that accent makes me go weak at the knees), some time passed (kids read these boards you know) and in the morning after she left i discovered my wallet with my entire holiday spending money was gone (this was the first night).

Needless to say i was a little upset, but unable to recall her name, her hotel, or even the bar i met her in, there was little i could do about it.

Then.... i checked the lining of my suitcase where theres a small pouch ( customs dodgers!) and found said wallet, where i had drunkenly had enuff sense to hide it when i had gotten home.

Still, thats more of a warning about me being drunk than anything else, i personally would be certain that none of your myriad brothers or sisters could have done such a thing, then dump the kleptomaniac.



it may be a bright idea to let your family know what you are doing and why, and look for guilty expressions on their faces before you go ahead with this. You also may want to post pictures of her in various states of nudity on the internet, its always a good way to finish a relationship

[MadduckUK]

You also may want to post pictures of her in various states of nudity on the internet, its always a good way to finish a relationship

you sir are a genius

[Leepox]

ROFL.... i think because Dare wants to see it first. Although she might bug you for the rest of your life.

Although andeh has provided enough reasoning. If she is a really hot girl i wouldnt want to lose her.. if not, then heh.... the truth has to be found, if ure just up to the speculation phase, theres no good in blaming anyone yet

[Whiternoise]

Next time your in the dumps of Swindon, give me a shout and i'll buy you a Drink

Cheers / Hope you have a Happy new year

Lol i'll take you up on that one

[vicar]

IMHO Unless you caught your girlfriend taking the money, she stands accused or guilty as the rest of your family. You should paint them all with the same brush.

If you don't trust someone you should not be in a relationship with them. Has she stolen from you before? Do you have a reason to say she is a thief, which is what is implied.

How would you feel if a tread has been started by her "What can i do? I think i've been robbed by my boy Friend " and you saw it on the internet.

Thieves come in all shape and sizes male/female. This thread is not worth £60.00, and i believe we can all be more generous in our comments, would you like to read any of the above stuff relating to your good self, especially if you are subsequently found to be innocent. The damage is already done.

We can choose our friends boy or girl, but we cant choose our family. If you are at this stage in your relationship end it or speak to her in a calm, understanding and non judgemental way.

I would hope you can at least for old times sake "presume her innocent until found guilty"(caught with the money in her hands, or if she admits to taking it).

Just my humble opinion, please forgive me if i have offended anyone by my comments.

[MSIC]

If you don't trust someone you should not be in a relationship with them. Has she stolen from you before? Do you have a reason to say she is a thief, which is what is implied.

Ah, but trust is not an absolute thing, it is granular and it is earnt.
Going out with someone for a short time might mean you like them and even want to trust them, but until you have a number of shared experiences where you see how people react, and until you both have times when you risk things (financial, material, emotional etc) with each other, trust hasn't been earnt very far yet.

I think it is entirely reasonable to suspect the girlfriend more than the family.

[vicar]

This is not primarily an issue about trust, it is about finding out the truth. It is also about not being Presumed guiltly when there is a reasonable chance of being innocent. Theft is after all a criminal offence.

I hope you are never wrongly accused of what you have not done, based on circumstantial evidence and not concrete proof.

If you do, remember that "trust is not an absolute thing, it is granular and it is earnt". I hope you will draw comfort from that. Just my 2pence worth.

[kalniel]

I'm sure you get about 60 quid for writing an episode for Neighbours or equivalent these days