What can i do? I think i've been robbed by my Girl Friend

[malice19]

Thats a toughie... I think only you can really know whats best
to do as you know her. I take it you want to stay with her.

To be honest I would not mind if she did take the money but would tell me later or even asked me in the first place, but I’m feeling very uneasy as I don’t think I can trust her again, so there’s not really going to be much of a relationship now?

[malice19]

When i was 15 i drove myself mad trying to figure out how i had lost £20. I concluded i had slipped it out of my wallet. It couldn't of been picked (lost it over barely 3 min) and the only conclusion i could come too was i had dropped it. Oh well life's a bitch i supose!

Now apparently i have trust issues, or so i've been told. But if you don't trust her enough too even think that she could take it without asking, your not going anywhere! So keep her as a shag buddy, or just end it.

I guess what i'm saying is my new perspective flatmate, if she 'stole' £100 from me i wouldn't be worried, i'd assume she had a damn good reason, and this is just my flatmate, not my girlfriend.

Confront her, if you feal that distrusting then you really do need to talk!

Now last time i was out clubbing in Swindon (4 weeks ago ish) for the valve sound system, i pretty much figured that any of the 'ladies' there would take any cash i had in my wallet. I mean seriously, i'm used to clubbing in strange parts of london, but swindon, damn skippy that was scraping the barrell.

Cheers mate, i see what you mean, she probably has used the cash to pay bills or some thing needed but should that be an excuse for just taking and not asking?

[CrazyMonkey]

Get her really drunk then ask her?

That seems like the best plan of action to me

[malice19]

Any chance you spent some of the money on snow boarding gear?

No chance as i paid by card and dont realy carry cash on me.



May be she knocked the money over, have you checked what she put back on the shelves -any money there?

The money was in a sliding draw, and i looked all over my room and she started looking with me as well after i asked all members of my family with her next to me if they had taken/borrowed the money.

I knew how much money was there as i had counted it ready to pay into the bank at the start of the new week.

[malice19]

Flamin' hell hon what a situation I'd say something to her like "OMG i'm more upset because they felt they couldn't of asked me for the money if they needed it, if it was asked for i'd of happily given it" just make sure she's never left alone in your room again, unless you fit locks on your drawers or get a safe, sounds drastic but at least your stuff will still be there

I find it worrying that you you can't leave your own stuff in your own room without it being rifled through and things go missing, that seems like a total lack of respect for you, I never go through my hubby's wallet without asking him first even after 14 years together, i'll never take money without asking him ( unless it's the odd fiver which I need and he's asleep, i'll always tell him as soon as he's awake )

Hope you get it sorted,

Thanks for the reply
I said to her i can't belive some one i Lov has just taken the money with out asking me, because if they just asked me for the money i would have said yes.

Thing is i have lent her money for bills and phone credit before and it was £10 here £20 there and at first she always paid me back. But then its been more often asking me for money and i started asking for some back not all just some.... she gave me £20 back which i was happy about but who know if she just takes the money with out me knowing now so she knows she does not have to pay me back?

[UKMuFFiN]

Is that her in your sig?... Maybe it was to buy some new trousers?


Sorry.

[malice19]

Tell her you got given a wad of forgeries & now the police are tracking them using CCTV footage & you're bricking it.

Girl's got some savvy not nicking much.

Set up your webcam on motion sensitive & drop a hint you've had a windfall maybe. Catch her in the act.

Thought about the web cam, but who knows if she would fall for it if she knows that i've noticed the money has gone missing? I know shes blond but Joke

[Clstrphbc_donut]

If, in your heart you doubt her, and think she has taken it, then she probably has - my experience with women anyway.

[malice19]

It's unlikely its dropped down the back of anywhere if £20 has gone from each stack.
If you trust your ability to count and have to ask on an internet forum what you thnk you should do then I think you already know the answer and your just asking here to confirm what you already think..

I know what you mean, im just crap at making such Big decisions

[malice19]

I would have to agree with either talking to her about it, just try not to make it seem like you're accusing her.



There's nought wrong with Swindon lasses.. Though you must have been pretty desperate to try clubbing here.

I've tried, sort of, asking her "you would tell me if you borrowed the money?

Im not sure if i should just come out with it or set up the web cam and tell her i know where i spent the missing money or some thing?

[Nemeliza]

Sounds like she needs to get booed!

Ask her, she might admit it.

THEN - Move on...

[malice19]

If you really care for her, just ask her like you did to your family and trust her words. I don't know maybe she's just trying to get your attention? If you think you can't trust her then I'm afraid it's time for you to end your relationship.

I did ask my family with her standing next to me but i guess that would be a bit intimidating after asking my family in front of her if they had taken/borrowed it, so she would feel too scared to tell me later?

[my new pc is a]

If you trust your ability to count and have to ask on an internet forum what you thnk you should do then I think you already know the answer and your just asking here to confirm what you already think..

true facts man. get rid of the little skank, she blatently doesn't respect you.

[malice19]

tbh just come out with it, the longer you leave it the more awkward itll be, and if youre sure its her and she denies it ditch her.

Its been doing my head in all day... over and over ... just thinking about it till it make me feel sick.

I feel like asking her but who know if she would tell me the truth, even after being with her for 2 years now.... I even thought of buying one of those lie detectors off the net???

Need to order some balls as well me thinks at this rate?

[malice19]

Get her really drunk then ask her?

That seems like the best plan of action to me

Yeah good plan, did come across my mind as anm idea for this weekend...?

[malice19]

***Thanks 4 all the Replys Every one***

Next time your in the dumps of Swindon, give me a shout and i'll buy you a Drink

Cheers / Hope you have a Happy new year