why did it happen to me?

[Punky]

ah well, been told by Knox he can get me a cheap sofa, so thats the essentials sorted this sucks sooo badly, but there aint anything i can do now.

[spikegifted]

Originally posted by not_your_punk
apparently its cos of my attitude in general, and this just topped it all off. i genuinly did try and get along with my parents before, they are just so uptight and unprepared to see anyone else's point of view.

I don't want to kick you when you're down... but don't you think you should review you action/behavior/attitude? Sometimes when people tell you you've done something wrong or have gotten the wrong attitude, is not because they don't see things your way - they're trying to point you towards 'the right direction'...

The worst possible thing you can do right now is to 'act tough'... Suck it up and prove to them that you've listened.

[G4Z]

Originally posted by Slick
and I suppose after years of drug abuse when you need some medical attention you'll go through a private hospital rather than the NHS? I know I'll probably get quoted figures about alcohol but I think people saying that they are causing no one any harm etc are misleading themselves

what a load of bollocks mate, what do you know about it?

as a matter of fact I work in the NHS and I assure you more money is wasted on crap rather than treatment. Are you saying that the NHS shouldnt treat smokers, or just weed smokers? also I may actually go private If I earn enough for it, not that I havent already paid for my treatment in tax and national insurance.

Slick, I hate the way you view people as wasters or a drain on resources just because they do something you dont agree with. another thing is that A&E departments fill up all over the country every friday and saturday night, full of drunk people that have hurt themselves or gotten ina fight, should we deny these peoples treatment as well because they decided to get drunk?

Slick, you dont have any right to say that because I smoke weed I am taking resources out of the system, as I explained I support myself, have a privately rented flat and recive no benefits whatsoever, you should be more irritated by that scum on wife swap with 8 kids and getting 37 grand a year, smoking and swearing around the kids. If I ever decide to have kids I will give up smoking all together because I dont agree with smoking with kids around, I will probably stop smoking weed at some point anyway, this will drasticly reduce the risk of me developing cancer and in all likelyhood I wont ever need treatment anyway.

[G4Z]

and another thing to punk,

i had problems with my parents nothing to do with the weed ( they knew I smoked it and werent bothered) so I moved out, I wa s student as well studying at university, I lived on nothing for 2 years had a totaly WICKED time and it was the best thing I ever did. although I got into debt and dropped out I am glad I did it because it forced me to look after myself and geta job, now im doing well for myself, have a flat a car fit looking g/f, decent job and I can smoke all day if I want to. Whatever you do dont do it half arsed, now is the time to get your act together and live your life for yourself, may not seem like it now mate buts its a blessing in disguise so long as you adopt the right attitude ( F**k them, il show em, was my personal motto)

good luck, and have fun in your new place

[Punky]

cheers for the advice/support G4Z. i agree totally about drunk people taking up time in A&E, when the only people's time stoned people take up is the geezer in the kebab shop
i don't wanna move out, cos if i do, it'll mean droppin outta college, gettin a job and not havin any qualifications for the future. i gotto try and sort it all out, but my parents have had enough.
any idea if i can take legal action against the police, cos by tellin my parents against my LEGAL will, they buggered up my life ?
peace.

[Maffu]

Originally posted by not_your_punk
any idea if i can take legal action against the police, cos by tellin my parents against my LEGAL will, they buggered up my life ?

It won't happen. And, imo, is a bad move.

Forget it. It's done. Not much you can do about it. By the looks of things, you need to make a few decisions and make some changes in your life, be they moving out, not moving out and sticking with school, etc. Those are, imo, more important that pursuing legal action against plod over your address.

[shiato storm]

Firstly to say what is on my mind, after reading all the posts, is that you really brought it upon yourself. I understand that the police acted inappropriately towards releasing your details but thats done now and can't be changed. you soked the stuff in the first place and really did yourself no favours.

i'd agree. that it seems like your parents just don't trust you now over the taking drugs issue and they don't want to think of the possibility of you bringing the problem to their home...which it seems you already have, and are now trying to remove it from their home they created together.
I know what its like, my rentals are not the easiest of people to get along with, they don't listen even when being blatantly right about things, it gets worse when I'm the middle of 3 sons... but never mind me -
for you I think the best thing would be to TRY and sit them down, tell them that you screwed up and you know it, and by kicking you out will only make things worse for you; having to drop college or whatever. if they are at all concerned about your future then surely thay will see that kicking you out is beyond the worst thing to do and instead - if I were in your position - I'd beg them for help and that you need their support to get over it (as though you are going to quit, which I'd have to say at the moment is the most intelligent thing for you to do).

you'll just have to - for want of a better expression - suck ass. do anything and everything to help your parents. DON'T go having a teenage rant at them or get into any big arguements like that awful Osborne kid does everytime his parents confront him. stop living in denial and accept what happened/happening, yeah its sh*t but it could be a lot worse, and you know you want to get out of the situation so do everything you can.



If things go tits-up just explain very clearly, and without shouting at them, that if they kick you out then its clear that they care more about how other people think of them and their appearances than actually caring about their own son. how ever bad a child is a parent shouldn't shut them out.

[Kilrov]

You could offer to pay your parents 'rent' for your room, a mate of mine who kept getting into trouble did that with his folks.
They drew up a contract and now he has more freedom to manage his own life, he sorts out his own food and cleaning, and he's turned himself around and got a decent job. But he still gets benefits such as his 'rent' is a lot lower than anywhere else and he's gone some of the way to patching things up with his folks.

Whatever you do keep at it, and try not to give up college whatever you do! Hope it all works out for you mate

[G4Z]

fair point from storm there, if you can make it up then you should. on the other hand if you try this and it dosnt work your best off accepting it and making plans for yourself. Its easy to think that you will get nowhere without qualifications but there are options, geta job and study part time for one. I promise you employers value work experience over qualifications anyway. whatever you do make sure you try hard, thats all i can tell you. I messed about being a student for 2 years and I am paying the price a bit now because Im earning the money but still payinga lot of it back because of the debts i ran up. My only regret is that I should have realised what the hell was happening sooner and got my act together. If you work at it you will be looking back at this whole event in a couple of years and thinking it was the stupidest thing to worry about.

as for leghal action against the coppers... dont waste your energy, even if you get something out of it (and I think thats very unlikely) you will have wasted time and effort persueing it.

[shiato storm]

I hate the fact that this government has messed up the whole point of going to university. as soon as they've been through the system they go ahead and make it utterly ridiculous to go because of the huge debts that you accumulate...
talk about shooting yourself in the foot. ends up being on wealthy people going to uni's - one of the reasons the gov. is onto Ox + Cam and everyone else is to accept people from under privilaged backgrounds, but if they can't afford it what the hell is the point?!!
yet again another fine Labour cock up...

-oops, sorry about that slight rant.

[steve threlfall]

Originally posted by shiato storm
I hate the fact that this government has messed up the whole point of going to university. as soon as they've been through the system they go ahead and make it utterly ridiculous to go because of the huge debts that you accumulate...
talk about shooting yourself in the foot. ends up being on wealthy people going to uni's - one of the reasons the gov. is onto Ox + Cam and everyone else is to accept people from under privilaged backgrounds, but if they can't afford it what the hell is the point?!!
yet again another fine Labour cock up...

-oops, sorry about that slight rant.

I agree mate. How should labour know that the current system is flawed- well look at the number of peoplle not even considering uni purely because of the costs involved

[spikegifted]

Don't bother to apologize if you're not going to do something about the smoking of weed. If you apologize but then go and smoke the stuff and get arrested again, you'd be in even deeper touble than you're in now.

If you choose to continue smoking the stuff, but you feel the need to 'educate' your folks about the lack of harm in smoking weed, don't be confrontational about it. People from an older generation grew up in very different environment than you - you need to make allowance about that.

Regarding the attitude thing that you mentioned your folks want to kick you out for... I don't know. It's entirely up to you. It's your life and I just hope that you're not going to wake up one day and wish you've done something else.

[DaBeeeenster]

Originally posted by Maffu

Yes – drugs will give you an instant hit. But you then have to depend on them, becoming a weaker person, having to rely on something, some substance to get through the day. Honestly – that’s a pretty sad state to be in. You won’t go far in life like that.

This is just not true. Pretty much everyone I am friends with is a recreational drug user. They all have excellent jobs yada yada yada.

The concept that taking drugs will screw up your life is completely wrong. Drugs tend to screw up your life if it is screwed up already. Millions of people in the UK do what notyourpunk did and get on with their day to day lives.

IMHO alcohol is FAR FAR FAR more dangerous than cannabis, and those members who have tried both will probably agree with me.

[DaBeeeenster]

Originally posted by TeePee
It's unfortunate that you got caught, and very strange that you got hauled down the nick instead of just having your stash confiscated. You didn't make with the verbal towards the copper did you? In that kind of situation it's best to keep quiet and not make it worth his time.

Also in future if they try to caution you, refuse it. Then they have a choice of prosecuting you (which would never happen) and giving you a formal warning, which is less than a caution and doesn't stay on your record.

The outcome of getting caught with weed can depend masssively on where you get caught. I.e. I've seen people smoking in front of coppers in Stoke Newington where I used to live (on the outskirts of east London) and the copper just tell the bloke to put it out. Do that in a quaint little town in the countryside and I dont think you will get the same response. That kind of sucks...

[DaBeeeenster]

Originally posted by Gr44
that's still no excuse to break the law....

And what age did you start drinking alcohol at?

[sexeh]

sorry about you getting caught but i hate it when they phone your parents.. thats worse than anything they could do.